Guest guest Posted January 10, 2008 Report Share Posted January 10, 2008 > Most addicts do not want to admit they have a problem. I can relate to > that. It's too scary to admit you can't control yourself, that your > life is spinning out of control, so you pretend everything's fine. I'd replace most with some. There are plenty of addicts who know full well they are out of control but they have no idea WTH else to do. The addiction fuels the addiction as it were. Self injury is an interesting one - and I write as someone who self injured for 12 years, frequently attending A & E with cuts and burns. It's something you come to strongly identify with, and can't imagine yourself without. People would ask me if i wanted to stop harming myself and my reply was that I " want to want to stop " but I don't. I suspect that self injury has some major psychological differences to other kinds of addictions. There's no pretending everything is fine when you're in A & E with another cut or having to attend a hospital well out of your area, again, with another chemical burn. I stopped self injury overnight because something came into my life that was more important than anything else and completely changed my course. I couldn't have gone looking for it - I'd have missed it. It had to be something that virtually hit me over the head with it's importance and direction. It had to look like chance. Anything designed to help me I'd have given up on before i started. Genyin -- " I know the answer! The answer lies within the heart of all mankind! The answer is twelve? I think I'm in the wrong building. " M. Schultz Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2008 Report Share Posted January 10, 2008 Something? You've got me curious... Jo Re: Addictions Re: Empathy?? On 10/01/2008, abnormaldiversity <abnormaldiversity@ yahoo.com> wrote: > Most addicts do not want to admit they have a problem. I can relate to > that. It's too scary to admit you can't control yourself, that your > life is spinning out of control, so you pretend everything's fine. I'd replace most with some. There are plenty of addicts who know full well they are out of control but they have no idea WTH else to do. The addiction fuels the addiction as it were. Self injury is an interesting one - and I write as someone who self injured for 12 years, frequently attending A & E with cuts and burns. It's something you come to strongly identify with, and can't imagine yourself without. People would ask me if i wanted to stop harming myself and my reply was that I " want to want to stop " but I don't. I suspect that self injury has some major psychological differences to other kinds of addictions. There's no pretending everything is fine when you're in A & E with another cut or having to attend a hospital well out of your area, again, with another chemical burn. I stopped self injury overnight because something came into my life that was more important than anything else and completely changed my course. I couldn't have gone looking for it - I'd have missed it. It had to be something that virtually hit me over the head with it's importance and direction. It had to look like chance. Anything designed to help me I'd have given up on before i started. Genyin -- " I know the answer! The answer lies within the heart of all mankind! The answer is twelve? I think I'm in the wrong building. " M. Schultz Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2008 Report Share Posted January 10, 2008 > Something? You've got me curious... Oh, hum, it's too obvious for words. The something that came into my life is Dharma, Buddhism. It turned my entire life around. I stopped self injury, moved out of supported housing and began to value, instead of hate, my human life. I could acknowledge that it is a suffering life yet it would be of less value if there was no suffering as then I'd have no reason to break the cycle of death and rebirth. Genyin, Buddhist nun who met Dharma a little over three years ago -- " I know the answer! The answer lies within the heart of all mankind! The answer is twelve? I think I'm in the wrong building. " M. Schultz Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2008 Report Share Posted January 10, 2008 ----- Original Message ----- > > Genyin, Buddhist nun who met Dharma a little over three years ago How did you meet Dharma? D. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2008 Report Share Posted January 11, 2008 > How did you meet Dharma? I\d been having a very bad time with a noisy neighbour in a complex of flats with support onsite. The noise was driving me to fits of screaming and banging my head on the wall, and the girl would then switch her music off and call the police, who would come into my flat and find me curled up on the floor and non-verbal. This would happen several times a week. When the police left the music wuld go back on. There was no other supported accomodation I could go to and I didn't feel I could survive on my own. Also the placement was for a maximum of two years and after that there was nowhere for me to go. Things were pretty desparate and one night I set off into the Lake District to kill myself. I was picked up by police - I had no idea that I was by no means the first to wander off into the lakes to do that - and taken to a psych ward and immediately discharged! They thought I was attention seeking. My friend who came to collect me was shocked that I was calm and happy about the idea of killing myself. She ran the support group for parents of AC kids in the area, and she was able to use some of the funding to get me a few days respite. She and her partner looked for places for me to go to, quiet places, and eventually they found Manjushri Buddhist Centre near Ulverston. I went there rather scared, and while there I joined in with some pujas, went to a teaching and talked with residents. I was astounded at the calm and peace these people had. I'd never seen anything like it. I wanted it! I asked if I could move in but was turned down. However they reccomended I try to move to a smaller centre, and six weeks later I did. Eighteen months later I ordained as a nun. By then I was living near the Ulverston centre, and then I moved here, a largish centre in Yorkshire. Now this centre has closed and I have left the tradition, for various reasons, but I remain ordained and Buddhist. My journey is at an interesting point - there are lots of ways to go and I don't know if, when or how I will make a choice. I'm drawn to Zen at present, which is very different from the Tibetan tradition I started in. I go to classes of a different Tibetan tradition quite often, and am going to a monastery of yet another Tibetan tradition next weekend. And I'm about to do an online meditation course of a different tradition altogether, a Therevadan practice. Sorry, that's a little more information than you asked for, but there didn't seem a good place to stop midflow. Genyin -- " I know the answer! The answer lies within the heart of all mankind! The answer is twelve? I think I'm in the wrong building. " M. Schultz Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2008 Report Share Posted January 11, 2008 Thanks. That's very interesting. Sorry you had to go through so much difficulty to get there. D. Re: Addictions Re: Empathy?? > > >> How did you meet Dharma? > > > I\d been having a very bad time with a noisy neighbour in a complex of > flats with support onsite. The noise was driving me to fits of > screaming and banging my head on the wall, and the girl would then > switch her music off and call the police, who would come into my flat > and find me curled up on the floor and non-verbal. This would happen > several times a week. When the police left the music wuld go back on. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2008 Report Share Posted January 11, 2008 > Thanks. That's very interesting. Sorry you had to go through so much > difficulty to get there. I guess if I hadn't it mightn't have meant as much to me. I could just relate to it instantly. Genyin -- " I know the answer! The answer lies within the heart of all mankind! The answer is twelve? I think I'm in the wrong building. " M. Schultz Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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