why do bps hate and reject their own children?

[Guest guest]

I was on the phone the other day with my nada, and at the end, I

said, " I love you. "

My nada said, " hmmdughm " Just kind of a noise which felt like " I don't

want to respond to that. I don't believe that. I don't love you. "

It was kind of hurtful, but I suppose that's matter of course for BPs.

I just kept trying to reframe the feelings I was having as projection

and understand why my nada couldn't love me, or why she hated me so

much.

What's the theory behind that again?

She's too scared to love? She sees me as a possible cure to BP, but

because I am not, she hates me?

Any other thoughts or similar experiences? Any suggestions on how to

reframe the fact my own mother is incapable of loving me has absolutely

nothing to do with me (a tall order for any child!!!)

Thanks,

Genevieve