Re: Jim is gone : (Imogene OT)

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Hi my dear ,

Donna is responsible for my being here. She wrote a nice letter to me to see how

I was. I finally checked in and good grief! What hasn't gone on? I believe I

will be back on the list this time. How can I not be? I have said it before, but

then always get into some trouble or other.

It is so good to hear from you dear . And, yes, I have sockeye on my mind

all the time. (big grin) I will tell you one thing I hope to go to Florida in

March for two weeks. My daughter and I are driving.

Right now the trouble I am into is my son and his wife are moving in with me

next month. I have shuffled more junk than 's got Pills.

So due to that, next week I will start PT.

I love this List, and everyone on it. I just haven't taken much time for me

which included all of you. You were my down time.

Me? How am I? Well, beloved , I don't want to lie. So I'll tell you, I'm

just fine except for the right leg bothering me. Too much lifting, pulling and

shoving.

As for my beloved Don, I have low spells from time to time, and angry spells at

what he had to endure, but he is at peace as is Jan's dear Jim. May God bless

her.

I love you very much , So good to see you here,

Imogene

> > >

> > > It is with a heavy heart that I tell you Jim died at 8:41AM Pacific

Time today.

> > > I was with him through the night. I stayed over for the last 3 nights at

the

> > > nursing home. I only went home once to shower and change when Hospice sent

a

> > > sitter to stay with Jim while I went home for awhile. He died peacefully,

but he

> > > was a fighter to the end. He didn't want to go. He looked like he was from

a

> > > concentration camp, he was so bony, no one knew where he was getting the

energy

> > > to keep on breathing, but he kept on going. He had a will to live.

> > > Last night we had quality time together. They moved Jim into a private

room and

> > > I could talk to him and we did body language to show our love. I winked at

him

> > > and he raised his eyebrows up and down, I patted my heart to let him know

I

> > > loved him and when I went to put some vasiline on his dry lips, he pursed

his

> > > lips and kissed my finger and put his lips togeter and said, The B sound.

It

> > > sounded like Bye to me. It broke my heart. It was just like Jim to do

something

> > > so touching in a moment of sorrow.

> > >

> > > He touched so many residents and staff at the nursing home with his

personality

> > > that they did a respectful ceremony for him as he went out the door for

the last

> > > time. Usually, the coroner comes and takes the people out on a gurney with

a

> > > cover over them and residents are sitting in the hall, but the

> > > admin. staff cleared everyone out of the hall and not one person was

sitting in

> > > the hall and the staff went up and down the hall and closed all the doors

to the

> > > rooms in the hall that Jim would pass through and when Jim went down the

hall

> > > the staff all stood in silence. I never saw them do that before to anyone

and

> > > all the people that worked there said the samething. 

> > > Sharyn, Jim's daughter, came when I called her to let her know that her

dad had

> > > passed. She had planned to come at 10AM before my call. She had been there

most

> > > of the day before too. She was a real support and we both were tearful and

> > > helped each other through it. We both had a melt down when Jim passed

through

> > > the hall for the last time. Jim waited to go the day after my birthday

instead

> > > of on my birthday. The staff at the nursing home gave me a small party and

they

> > > all signed a birthday card. I was given a slice of cake with a candle on

it, so

> > > my birthday did not go unnoticed.

> > > Sharyn helped me clean out all Jim's belongings out of drawers and closets

and

> > > pack them in the car to take home.

> > > I am staying at my mom's tonight, so I don't sit at home alone and reflect

and

> > > have a melt down. My whole life for the past decade has been centered

around

> > > Jim. I won't know what to do with all my free time.

> > > Thank you all for your kind words, concern and support.

> > > Love and Hugs,

> > > Jan Colello

> > > Husband, Jim dx w/LBD 2003 died January 22, 2011

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