Caregiver's Beacon Newsletter January 2011

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The Caregiver's Beacon

" Tell me why – Show me how – Hold my hand "

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January 1, 2011

Vol. 12 No. 1

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ALZwell Caregiver Support and ElderCare Online

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Serving the Needs of Caregivers Since 1996

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WELCOME

Dear Friends,

Many of us make New Year's Resolutions at the beginning of January that we

desperately try to stick to. Once we backslide a little (maybe overindulging in

some chocolate or skipping out planned exercise), we tend to get disheartened

and give up altogether… at least until next New Years.

The key to having successful Resolutions is to bite off relatively small bits.

Don't promise yourself that you are going to quit smoking, lose 30 pounds,

repaint the house, and save money for a luxury vacation by February. Trying all

of those things (especially if you haven't done anything like that before) is a

recipe for disaster and disenchantment.

Get Real: Are you really NEVER going to eat butter again? Set goals that are

achievable and realistic. Many times people think they can accomplish things

virtually over night. Sometimes a six or nine month time frame is more

realistic. Given enough time, anything is achievable. Action Item: Write down

your goals on heavy stock index cards and keep them visible at all times (carry

them with you).

Slow and Steady Wins the Race: Take things one step at a time. If you have never

seriously dieted before, think about what is realistically achievable. Maybe the

diet and exercise changes required should be started and then worked up to. For

example, you might decide to lose ten pounds before Spring with a second goal to

lose ten more pounds by Summer. Action Item: Break down goals into manageable

segments.

Count on It: Select goals that have a measurable quality to them. Don't say " I'm

going to get in shape. " " Getting in shape " means losing a certain amount of

weight and/or being able to do certain exercises within a certain amount of

time. Attach solid numbers to your goals and strive to meet or exceed them.

Action Item: Find a friend who can help you attach real values to your goals

(maybe someone who has done it before).

Keep Your Eye on the Ball: Track your progress (or lack of it). If you need to,

go back and reassess your goals. Maybe you need to raise the bar, or even lower

it. The key is to challenge yourself within limits. If you need to lower your

goals, don't be disappointed. Perhaps six or nine months down the line you will

be moving forward more than expected. Action Item: Mark your calendar at regular

interviews to give yourself a " performance review. "

Kind Regards,

Rich O'Boyle, Publisher

ElderCare Online

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INSIDE THIS ISSUE

Feature Article: " Exercising Care 40+ " by Constance M. Serafin

Feature Author: Mark Edinberg, Ph.D.

Our Sponsor: A Place for Mom

Book Review: " Caring for Yourself While Caring for Your Aging Parents: How to

Help, How to Survive " by Berman

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FEATURE ARTICLE: " Exercising Care 40+ " by Constance M. Serafin

Being a caregiver means taking care of someone else's needs. But who cares for

you when your muscles are sore and aching from helping mom in and out of the

bath? Who cares for you when you're exhausted from walking up and down, back and

forth carrying heavy loads, doing laundry and trying to get through the day on

your aching knees?

Sometimes you need to say, " Stop! Time out for me. I can't do all I have to do

without taking time out for myself. " Taking time out to exercise can make you a

better caregiver. It can increase your strength and flexibility, your energy

level, and your sense of well being. Taking care of you helps fight off the

fatigue, isolation and frustration that can often follow stressful days of

caregiving.

You've probably heard of the physical benefits of exercise – reduced rates of

heart disease and diabetes, improvement in blood pressure levels and protections

against osteoporosis, to mention a few. But what about improving balance and

strength to make walking and climbing easier and to help prevent falls? What

about finding an outlet for your frustration and anxiety? What about feeling

better about yourself and how you look? These are less known benefits of weight

training and aerobic exercise programs.

Read the complete article at…

http://www.ec-online.net/Knowledge/Articles/exercise40.html

FEATURED AUTHOR: Mark Edinberg, Ph.D.

Mark Edinberg, Ph.D. has written numerous articles for ElderCare Online. Mark is

an expert in Intergenerational Mediation – working with families on matters

ranging from health to asset transfers. He has been working in the field of

Gerontology for over 30 years.

He has been a professor at the University of Nevada, Reno and the University of

Bridgeport, for the last decade, and is in private practice primarily working

with older adults and their families. Currently he maintains a private practice

in Fairfield, CT, consults with nursing homes, organizations and families on a

range of topics. He teaches part-time at Fairfield University. Mark is the

author of three books, including " Talking with Your Aging Parents. "

His articles for ElderCare Online include:

- The Do's and Don'ts of Communicating With Elderly Parents

http://www.ec-online.net/Knowledge/Articles/dosndonts.html

- The 11th Commandment: Thou Shalt Not Parent Thy Parent

http://www.ec-online.net/Knowledge/Articles/11thcommandment.html

- Promises, Promises

http://www.ec-online.net/Knowledge/Articles/promises.html

- Talking With Aging Parents About Finances

http://www.ec-online.net/Knowledge/Articles/finances.html

- Talking With Aging Parents About End-of-Life Issues

http://www.ec-online.net/Knowledge/Articles/endoflifeedinberg.html

OUR SPONSOR: A Place for Mom

" A Place for Mom " is a free referral service that helps families find nursing

homes, assisted living, Alzheimer's care, retirement communities, home care and

other senior care options. Their experienced Eldercare Advisors have assisted

thousands of families with the difficult task of selecting senior care.

Once you fill out the brief form on their website, you will be contacted by a

senior care expert. The initial consultation is free, but they may recommend

services and assistance that you have to pay for. Request a free consultation at

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BOOK REVIEW: " Caring for Yourself While Caring for Your Aging Parents: How to

Help, How to Survive " by Berman

Our Staff Writer Phyllis Laudano reviewed this book and sent in this report:

This book would be very helpful to all those who are caring for an elderly or

ill parent, especially when you are an only child or have complex family

dynamics.

The main theme of Berman's book, Caring for Yourself While Caring for

Your Aging Parents can be summed up by the closing sentence of her introduction

where she states in bold print,

" If we are to successfully manage the care of our parents, we have to learn,

first of all, to care for ourselves. " With its focus firmly set on the needs of

the caregiver, this book will be especially helpful to all those who find

themselves overwhelmed by the additional burden of powerful, negative emotions

that often accompany the care of an elderly parent. When the caregiver's quality

of life is compromised by guilt, anger, frustration, fear, and a total lack of

control and power, their ability to provide adequate, competent care for their

parent is severely limited. The author's goal, in writing this book, is to

prevent this from happening to her readers.

Read the complete review at

http://www.ec-online.net/Knowledge/BookReviews/bermancaring.htm

Remember: you can help us out greatly by using our little bookstore as the

starting point for your shopping. Just go to

http://www.ec-online.net/Connections/bookstore.htm and then click on the

appropriate link to get over to the main Amazon website.

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