Guest guest Posted March 24, 2008 Report Share Posted March 24, 2008 Yes, yes and YES. I was over nine years old when my brother was born and a confirmed daddy's girl. When my nada brought my brother home she made it abundantly clear the he was HERS! She kept him under her thumb and controlled and abused him for years. I think he may lurk here occasionally reading posts. How very ironic that he pretty much loathes her now and I am the one that handles her better, not to say I enjoy it but I do not have so much bitterness and anger built up toward her. > > Hi Everyone, I saw that someone posted that their mother and father split > their children and each claimed one. I wondered if this happened to anyone > else. My mother claimed my brother, so that left my dad with me. It was very > much a divided family and it was almost like my brother and I were raised in > separate households. We each had different rules - well, I had rules, he had > none - and, well, everything was different. My dad basically raised me > alone, too bad it wasn't completely alone so that I could have been > spared knowing her at all. > > It started when I was born and my mom took me home from the hospital at > about 2 days old. My brother was almost 3 and he started peeing his pants > and stuttering. So, my mother " gave " me to my dad, because of my brother's > reaction. She even wrote this all down in my baby book (baby photo > album) and most of the pictures in my baby book (baby photo album) are of my > dad holding me. The thing is, when she " gave " me to him, it was permanent. > > My mother was the oldest of 5 siblings and I've often wondered if her > treatment of me is a continuation of her rage at having some attention taken > from her by her younger siblings. > > Just wondering if anyone else has similar stories, Girlscout > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2008 Report Share Posted March 24, 2008 Hi Girlscout, Funny this is coming up now. Just last week I realized that everything was different between me and my brother including rules diiscipline and how the punishment took place and by who. I mentioned it to my therapists and he asked if it were possible my mom was assigned to me and my brother to dad, ah lightbulb moment yes in deed that was what happened. My brother definitly got the better deal. It even went so far as I was shamed and blamed and punished in front of anyone and everyone and my brother never was I actually never knew what he had done it was always handled quietly and with little consequence. What really sucks about this is he was the one actually doing risky behavoir and drinking and drugging and I never broke rules or did what I was accused of. My therapists said this is in deed a choice lots of families choose especially with mental illness involved wtf divide and conquer?? how bizarre Suebee -- In WTOAdultChildren1 , " Girlscout Cowboy " wrote: > > Hi Everyone, I saw that someone posted that their mother and father split > their children and each claimed one. I wondered if this happened to anyone > else. My mother claimed my brother, so that left my dad with me. It was very > much a divided family and it was almost like my brother and I were raised in > separate households. We each had different rules - well, I had rules, he had > none - and, well, everything was different. My dad basically raised me > alone, too bad it wasn't completely alone so that I could have been > spared knowing her at all. > > It started when I was born and my mom took me home from the hospital at > about 2 days old. My brother was almost 3 and he started peeing his pants > and stuttering. So, my mother " gave " me to my dad, because of my brother's > reaction. She even wrote this all down in my baby book (baby photo > album) and most of the pictures in my baby book (baby photo album) are of my > dad holding me. The thing is, when she " gave " me to him, it was permanent. > > My mother was the oldest of 5 siblings and I've often wondered if her > treatment of me is a continuation of her rage at having some attention taken > from her by her younger siblings. > > Just wondering if anyone else has similar stories, Girlscout > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 25, 2008 Report Share Posted March 25, 2008 Hey Suebee, thanks for your comments. I'm really interested in the different rules for different kids. For example, I was my dad's kid and my mom painted me black. But, I was an honor role student, musician and basically a really " together " kid, my big regret is that i didn't have much fun. My brother on the other hand got in fights, had a succession of girl friends who were allowed to live with us, got poor grades, drank and used drugs in his room. What's the deal? > > Hi Girlscout, > Funny this is coming up now. Just last week I realized that > everything was different between me and my brother including rules > diiscipline and how the punishment took place and by who. I mentioned > it to my therapists and he asked if it were possible my mom was > assigned to me and my brother to dad, ah lightbulb moment yes in deed > that was what happened. My brother definitly got the better deal. It > even went so far as I was shamed and blamed and punished in front of > anyone and everyone and my brother never was I actually never knew > what he had done it was always handled quietly and with little > consequence. What really sucks about this is he was the one actually > doing risky behavoir and drinking and drugging and I never broke rules > or did what I was accused of. My therapists said this is in deed a > choice lots of families choose especially with mental illness involved > wtf divide and conquer?? how bizarre > Suebee > > -- In WTOAdultChildren1 <WTOAdultChildren1%40yahoogroups.com>, > " Girlscout Cowboy " > wrote: > > > > Hi Everyone, I saw that someone posted that their mother and father > split > > their children and each claimed one. I wondered if this happened to > anyone > > else. My mother claimed my brother, so that left my dad with me. It > was very > > much a divided family and it was almost like my brother and I were > raised in > > separate households. We each had different rules - well, I had > rules, he had > > none - and, well, everything was different. My dad basically raised me > > alone, too bad it wasn't completely alone so that I could have been > > spared knowing her at all. > > > > It started when I was born and my mom took me home from the hospital at > > about 2 days old. My brother was almost 3 and he started peeing his > pants > > and stuttering. So, my mother " gave " me to my dad, because of my > brother's > > reaction. She even wrote this all down in my baby book (baby photo > > album) and most of the pictures in my baby book (baby photo album) > are of my > > dad holding me. The thing is, when she " gave " me to him, it was > permanent. > > > > My mother was the oldest of 5 siblings and I've often wondered if her > > treatment of me is a continuation of her rage at having some > attention taken > > from her by her younger siblings. > > > > Just wondering if anyone else has similar stories, Girlscout > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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