Re: menopause

March 11, 2008

Actually yes, mine has been going through it for like 15-20 years

also. She complains that her mood swings are because she can't

afford her horomones anymore- she's been on them for AT LEAST 15

years and won't stop " taking " them. And by taking them I mean one

month on, one month off, and every other week for awhile, and then

not at all. I think she connects her panic attacks and paranoia to

her " hot flashes " and also blames her depression episodes on her

horible hormonal imbalances. Of course it's not at all realted to

her BPD and the fact that she stops taking those perscriptions at the

same time as well-

>

> Anyone have special problems with their smother around menopause?

>

> Mine " suffered " from it for like 15 years. SHe probably still does.

She was

> very overweight and the hot flashes. . . always talking about the

hot

> flashes. Oh, she would die from them. She had to get an epi-pen so

she could

> give herself a shot because the hot flashes made her allergic to

her own

> body. She claimed she was allergic to her own sweat. She would show

me that

> epi pen all the time and talk about it - oh, i'm having a hot flash

and I

> don't have my epi pen. . .

>

> She carried those tiny battery operated fans everywhere and would

turn them

> on herself. They didn't do anything other than make a lot of noise

but it

> was SO embarassing to sit in a restaurant with her with the little,

noisey,

> bright yellow, ineffective fan pointed at her. She would either

clip the

> fans on her clothing or just hold them and point them at herself.

Also, hot

> flashes became her excuse for everything - " I can't go to blah blah

because

> I'm in menopause. We have to leave this movie or play because I

can't feel

> the air moving and it's giving me a hot flash. " And then she would

say she

> would die if we didn't leave and on and on. . . If she didn't have

her

> little battery powered fan she would pick up some paper and fan

herself like

> crazy. Always making a scene any time we were in public about her

hot

> flashes. Finally I took her to my doctor, a real doctor and the

doctor told

> her to go to counseling. Man, she was angry about that! She never

went back

> to the doctor, just continued Dr. shopping.

>

> Just curious. I'd nearly forgotten about this. . . the clothing

reminded me.

> " Oh, I can't wear a sweater because I have hot flashes and I'm

menopausal. "

>

March 12, 2008

For years I thought my mom's behavior was because of menopause. Now

I know better.

>

> Anyone have special problems with their smother around menopause?

>

> Mine " suffered " from it for like 15 years. SHe probably still

does. She was

> very overweight and the hot flashes. . . always talking about the

hot

> flashes. Oh, she would die from them. She had to get an epi-pen so

she could

> give herself a shot because the hot flashes made her allergic to

her own

> body. She claimed she was allergic to her own sweat. She would

show me that

> epi pen all the time and talk about it - oh, i'm having a hot

flash and I