Re: suggestions on moving seemingly unmovable?

July 24, 2011

Hi Dot- As for shaving, I would have my dad lay down. I put a towel under his

head and had him lay on it. I also kept another towel close to me to wipe the

cream or any drips as soon as they happened. Sometimes I would shave dad while

he sat up and I would play a game with shaving. I would joke I was going to

shave his legs and when he threw his head back laughing I would shave his neck.

I also would sort of smack/tap my own forehead in attempt to make my dad laugh,

it usually worked. Sometimes I would do the same to my dad, lightly of course,

to make him laugh. Again, when he threw his head back laughing, I would shave

his neck or chin. There were times it was tough to shave him, especially the

mustache area so he would have a mustache for those times. Hope this helps.

Take care, with hugs- SandieDes Moines, IAdad, Merle, passed from LBD 9-20-02,

age 65

----- suggestions on moving seemingly unmovable?

Date: Sun, 24 Jul 2011 20:27:58 -0000

My dad is at the stage of LBD in which he will not stand when asked to. This is

usually during the sundowning hours and into the night. Of course moving him

into bed or onto the commode or anywhere is extremely difficult as he outweighs

me and he is still very strong. In fact he seems to put 'his brakes on' every

chance he gets and resists all efforts to help him. I've been caring for him for

over 3 years but I know he probably doesn't know who I am most days. ANY and all

suggestions regarding this phase of care when your loved one reached it? Also

how about shaving? His head hangs onto his chest and I do my best to hold him up

with one hand but I feel like I'm holding a fifty pound weight!. Maybe I am

getting weaker and he is getting stronger..lol! Thanks once again, you are all

life savers to me!

Dot

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July 25, 2011

Hi Dot

Firstly I must apologize to the list for not checking in more often. I read the

posts that come through almost every day. It's been almost two years since Mom

passed away July 30th 2009, and the memories of the last few days, spent with

her play heavy on my mind !

When I was caring for Mom, I always found it helpful, to try take her mind off

moving her. Whenever we were heading to bed, or the bathroom, I would hold her

hands and walk backwards. What I really found helpful was singing. Mom and I

would play little games, I would say A, she would say B, I would say C, she

would say D, we would get through the whole alphabet, there were moments of

laughter as I would purposely say the wrong, next letter and she would look at

me and correct me. I would tell her how smart she was that " she always knew more

than me " and of course a cheeky grin would come across her face. Having her make

eye contact with me was always helpful too. It kept her mind off what she was

trying to do, which was moving her feet. The more she concentrated on walking

the more she seemed to freeze up. It's not so much your father is " putting the

brakes on " but more so that his brain is misfiring and not knowing how to. Try

to keep his mind on other things, sing a song, ask him to tell you about when he

was little, or " remember that time when " .

I hope little suggestions like this make things easier for you ! Many special

thanks go out to all who are looking after or have lost someone to LBD. My

thoughts are always with you !

Many regards

Carole Konecny

Mom: Isabel Bell

Mar 2.1936 - July 30.2009

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> My dad is at the stage of LBD in which he will not stand when asked to. This

is usually during the sundowning hours and into the night. Of course moving him