Jan - RE: Hello All

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Dear Janet,

I am very sorry to read you have been going through this kind of uprooting

on top of what you've been through with Jim. I'm just so impressed by what

you've shared here with us and how devoted you were to Jim and so upset to

see his children treating you less than a tenant. I hope by now you are

moved and washed your hands of the whole thing. How do you like it and how

are you feeling?

I keep thinking it won't be forever and there will be a time that I get my

life back. and I also wonder what that is going to be like? What will my

life be when I get it back. Have you had any trouble figuring out what you

want to do? Is it as good as I imagine now to just sit and have time and

mental space to rest, read, watch a silly show or just relax? I keep

imagining it will feel pretty good to do those things.

I appreciate your sharing about when Jim had to go to a home and how you

made like it was a cruise and he saluted the staff. And what a great idea

introducing him to everyone that way. If we do end up having to place my

mother in law in a home I am going to make sure I do the same with her and

introduce here to everyone. She isn't big on cruises so that part won't

work but I will think of something pleasant to focus on there and not the

negative.

Hope you are feeling well and settling in ok.

Dorothy

From: LBDcaregivers [mailto:LBDcaregivers ]

On Behalf Of Janet Colello

Sent: Sunday, May 15, 2011 11:36 AM

To: LBDcaregivers

Subject: Hello All

Hi,

I just thought I would update you all on my life's story as of Jim's death

last January.

As most of you know, Jim's kids had the Trust to the house and put it up for

sale only a month after Jim's passing. I have bearly had time to mourn his

loss, but maybe it is a good thing I have been keeping very busy packing and

cleaning to move out. I have had my moments of melt downs mostly at night

when I am alone in thought. I will be moving out on June 1. They have a

buyer.

I have really had to learn to humble myself and ask friends and family for a

room to move into until I get my life back in order.

A friend of a friend has opened her home up to me and I am going to rent a

room from her until I can find a full time job again and get a place of my

own. As of now, I do sub jobs at the school, which has been very helpful

and they employee me almost on a weekly basis.

I just need a stop over to get myself together again and move on. I need to

get my life back!

I asked Jim's kids if they could wait for me to pack and move out before

putting the house up for sale, but they wanted it on sale now and they

weren't going to wait, so I had to live in a gold fish bowl of people

passing through and attempting to keep the house clean and presentable while

packing and cleaning. It's all about the money to them. I do get the last

laugh since the house prices have gone down and Medicaid wants a lump out of

the sale, so they won't be getting all they were thinking they would be

getting in the beginning.

To tell you the truth, I will be glad to be over with this episode of my

life and moving onto a new chapter. It will be good to get my life back.

So onward to a new chapter of my life.

Jan Colello