Re: Dorothy - RE: Hello All

[Guest guest]

Hi Dorothy,

I am out of the house now as of June 1. It was hard to have to move that quickly

so fast after Jim's death, but I managed to be out on schedule. It was hard to

close the door for the last time and walk away. It was like the final good-bye

to Jim's and my life together and now it is all on Jim's daughter to sell the

furniture I left behind, because Medicaid wants the assets and she didn't give

me time to sell the furniture, so it's all on her. I think Medicaid will take a

big chunk of their Trust. What goes around comes around. I am not feeling too

sorry about it.  I am in the beginning of my new life and I must say so far it

is great. I had to scale way down from a 2,000 plus sq. ft. home into a single

bedroom. I am renting a room from a person that I only met a month ago, but

through a mutual friend. I am only living about half an hour away from where I

lived before. We are three ladies living here and we are like " The Golden Girls "

It is so much

more fun having company than living alone. We have done " Girl's Night Out. " The

lady we rent from had a birthday last week and we went out to a very nice place

for dinner. It's nice to be back into the social life again. We have had a lot

of laughs.

I am dreading unpacking all my boxes after packing them all. If I ever see

another box again it will be all too soon. I might have to send some back to

storage. I think I brought way too much. It is hard to know just what to bring

from a house to a bedroom.

We all share the kitchen. It is really a nice set up and this wonderful person

gave me a stepping stone to get my life back again before moving on to my own

place at some point. It's really nice to have a place to adjust into my new life

and live with " The Golden Girls " Hahaha

You will get your life back Dorothy, but please take care of yourself so you can

enjoy it when you do get your life back. It's not good to run yourself down so

that you are sick when you can finally have your life back. I am finally feeling

relaxed and soon I will be ready to distribute my resumes around and hopefully

get back into a job and then my life will be complete and I can move on.

Thank you for your well wishes. I am doing fine and acclimating to my life

again.

Take care,

Jan

Subject: Jan - RE: Hello All

To: LBDcaregivers

Date: Wednesday, June 8, 2011, 6:00 PM

 

Dear Janet,

I am very sorry to read you have been going through this kind of uprooting

on top of what you've been through with Jim. I'm just so impressed by what

you've shared here with us and how devoted you were to Jim and so upset to

see his children treating you less than a tenant. I hope by now you are

moved and washed your hands of the whole thing. How do you like it and how

are you feeling?

I keep thinking it won't be forever and there will be a time that I get my

life back. and I also wonder what that is going to be like? What will my

life be when I get it back. Have you had any trouble figuring out what you

want to do? Is it as good as I imagine now to just sit and have time and

mental space to rest, read, watch a silly show or just relax? I keep

imagining it will feel pretty good to do those things.

I appreciate your sharing about when Jim had to go to a home and how you

made like it was a cruise and he saluted the staff. And what a great idea

introducing him to everyone that way. If we do end up having to place my

mother in law in a home I am going to make sure I do the same with her and

introduce here to everyone. She isn't big on cruises so that part won't

work but I will think of something pleasant to focus on there and not the

negative.

Hope you are feeling well and settling in ok.

Dorothy

From: LBDcaregivers [mailto:LBDcaregivers ]

On Behalf Of Janet Colello

Sent: Sunday, May 15, 2011 11:36 AM

To: LBDcaregivers

Subject: Hello All

Hi,

I just thought I would update you all on my life's story as of Jim's death

last January.

As most of you know, Jim's kids had the Trust to the house and put it up for

sale only a month after Jim's passing. I have bearly had time to mourn his

loss, but maybe it is a good thing I have been keeping very busy packing and

cleaning to move out. I have had my moments of melt downs mostly at night

when I am alone in thought. I will be moving out on June 1. They have a

buyer.

I have really had to learn to humble myself and ask friends and family for a

room to move into until I get my life back in order.

A friend of a friend has opened her home up to me and I am going to rent a

room from her until I can find a full time job again and get a place of my

own. As of now, I do sub jobs at the school, which has been very helpful

and they employee me almost on a weekly basis.

I just need a stop over to get myself together again and move on. I need to

get my life back!

I asked Jim's kids if they could wait for me to pack and move out before

putting the house up for sale, but they wanted it on sale now and they

weren't going to wait, so I had to live in a gold fish bowl of people

passing through and attempting to keep the house clean and presentable while

packing and cleaning. It's all about the money to them. I do get the last

laugh since the house prices have gone down and Medicaid wants a lump out of

the sale, so they won't be getting all they were thinking they would be

getting in the beginning.

To tell you the truth, I will be glad to be over with this episode of my

life and moving onto a new chapter. It will be good to get my life back.

So onward to a new chapter of my life.

Jan Colello

[Guest guest]

Jan,

I'm just so happy to hear how well things are going for you, considering how it

could have went with that June 1 deadline. Just thought I'd let you know that.

Glad you're enjoying your " Golden Girls " phase.

Lori

Hello All

Hi,

I just thought I would update you all on my life's story as of Jim's death

last January.

As most of you know, Jim's kids had the Trust to the house and put it up for

sale only a month after Jim's passing. I have bearly had time to mourn his

loss, but maybe it is a good thing I have been keeping very busy packing and

cleaning to move out. I have had my moments of melt downs mostly at night

when I am alone in thought. I will be moving out on June 1. They have a

buyer.

I have really had to learn to humble myself and ask friends and family for a

room to move into until I get my life back in order.

A friend of a friend has opened her home up to me and I am going to rent a

room from her until I can find a full time job again and get a place of my

own. As of now, I do sub jobs at the school, which has been very helpful

and they employee me almost on a weekly basis.

I just need a stop over to get myself together again and move on. I need to

get my life back!

I asked Jim's kids if they could wait for me to pack and move out before

putting the house up for sale, but they wanted it on sale now and they

weren't going to wait, so I had to live in a gold fish bowl of people

passing through and attempting to keep the house clean and presentable while

packing and cleaning. It's all about the money to them. I do get the last

laugh since the house prices have gone down and Medicaid wants a lump out of

the sale, so they won't be getting all they were thinking they would be

getting in the beginning.

To tell you the truth, I will be glad to be over with this episode of my

life and moving onto a new chapter. It will be good to get my life back.

So onward to a new chapter of my life.

Jan Colello

[Guest guest]

Hey, me too Jan! I was most thrilled to hear of your golden girls

arrangement. You go girl!!

Love a lot,

Imogene

>

>

> Subject: Jan - RE: Hello All

> To: LBDcaregivers

> Date: Wednesday, June 8, 2011, 6:00 PM

>

>

>

> Dear Janet,

>

> I am very sorry to read you have been going through this kind of uprooting

> on top of what you've been through with Jim. I'm just so impressed by what

> you've shared here with us and how devoted you were to Jim and so upset to

> see his children treating you less than a tenant. I hope by now you are

> moved and washed your hands of the whole thing. How do you like it and how

> are you feeling?

>

> I keep thinking it won't be forever and there will be a time that I get my

> life back. and I also wonder what that is going to be like? What will my

> life be when I get it back. Have you had any trouble figuring out what you

> want to do? Is it as good as I imagine now to just sit and have time and

> mental space to rest, read, watch a silly show or just relax? I keep

> imagining it will feel pretty good to do those things.

>

> I appreciate your sharing about when Jim had to go to a home and how you

> made like it was a cruise and he saluted the staff. And what a great idea

> introducing him to everyone that way. If we do end up having to place my

> mother in law in a home I am going to make sure I do the same with her and

> introduce here to everyone. She isn't big on cruises so that part won't

> work but I will think of something pleasant to focus on there and not the

> negative.

>

> Hope you are feeling well and settling in ok.

>

> Dorothy

>

> From: LBDcaregivers [mailto:LBDcaregivers ]

> On Behalf Of Janet Colello

> Sent: Sunday, May 15, 2011 11:36 AM

> To: LBDcaregivers

> Subject: Hello All

>

> Hi,

> I just thought I would update you all on my life's story as of Jim's death

> last January.

> As most of you know, Jim's kids had the Trust to the house and put it up for

> sale only a month after Jim's passing. I have bearly had time to mourn his

> loss, but maybe it is a good thing I have been keeping very busy packing and

> cleaning to move out. I have had my moments of melt downs mostly at night

> when I am alone in thought. I will be moving out on June 1. They have a

> buyer.

> I have really had to learn to humble myself and ask friends and family for a

> room to move into until I get my life back in order.

> A friend of a friend has opened her home up to me and I am going to rent a

> room from her until I can find a full time job again and get a place of my

> own. As of now, I do sub jobs at the school, which has been very helpful

> and they employee me almost on a weekly basis.

> I just need a stop over to get myself together again and move on. I need to

> get my life back!

> I asked Jim's kids if they could wait for me to pack and move out before

> putting the house up for sale, but they wanted it on sale now and they

> weren't going to wait, so I had to live in a gold fish bowl of people

> passing through and attempting to keep the house clean and presentable while

> packing and cleaning. It's all about the money to them. I do get the last

> laugh since the house prices have gone down and Medicaid wants a lump out of

> the sale, so they won't be getting all they were thinking they would be

> getting in the beginning.

> To tell you the truth, I will be glad to be over with this episode of my

> life and moving onto a new chapter. It will be good to get my life back.

> So onward to a new chapter of my life.

> Jan Colello

>

>

[Guest guest]

Jan -- so glad you were given an opportunity to play 'Golden Girls'. You deserve

nothing but the best and I hope you get that dream job & dream home ASAP.

[Guest guest]

Hi Jan,

I've been lurking mostly these days, but I wanted to respond to your post... I

was so glad to read that you have moved out, and have moved on. It's time for

you to enjoy yourself, and God knows, nobody deserves it more! You have been

the most amazing caregiver, and have been so kind to document and give wonderful

information that has helped so many of us.

Sending love from NY,

Helene

>

>

>

> Subject: Jan - RE: Hello All

> To: LBDcaregivers

> Date: Wednesday, June 8, 2011, 6:00 PM

>

>

>  

>

>

>

> Dear Janet,

>

> I am very sorry to read you have been going through this kind of uprooting

> on top of what you've been through with Jim. I'm just so impressed by what

> you've shared here with us and how devoted you were to Jim and so upset to

> see his children treating you less than a tenant. I hope by now you are

> moved and washed your hands of the whole thing. How do you like it and how

> are you feeling?

>

> I keep thinking it won't be forever and there will be a time that I get my

> life back. and I also wonder what that is going to be like? What will my

> life be when I get it back. Have you had any trouble figuring out what you

> want to do? Is it as good as I imagine now to just sit and have time and

> mental space to rest, read, watch a silly show or just relax? I keep

> imagining it will feel pretty good to do those things.

>

> I appreciate your sharing about when Jim had to go to a home and how you

> made like it was a cruise and he saluted the staff. And what a great idea

> introducing him to everyone that way. If we do end up having to place my

> mother in law in a home I am going to make sure I do the same with her and

> introduce here to everyone. She isn't big on cruises so that part won't

> work but I will think of something pleasant to focus on there and not the

> negative.

>

> Hope you are feeling well and settling in ok.

>

> Dorothy

>

> From: LBDcaregivers [mailto:LBDcaregivers ]

> On Behalf Of Janet Colello

> Sent: Sunday, May 15, 2011 11:36 AM

> To: LBDcaregivers

> Subject: Hello All

>

> Hi,

> I just thought I would update you all on my life's story as of Jim's death

> last January.

> As most of you know, Jim's kids had the Trust to the house and put it up for

> sale only a month after Jim's passing. I have bearly had time to mourn his

> loss, but maybe it is a good thing I have been keeping very busy packing and

> cleaning to move out. I have had my moments of melt downs mostly at night

> when I am alone in thought. I will be moving out on June 1. They have a

> buyer.

> I have really had to learn to humble myself and ask friends and family for a

> room to move into until I get my life back in order.

> A friend of a friend has opened her home up to me and I am going to rent a

> room from her until I can find a full time job again and get a place of my

> own. As of now, I do sub jobs at the school, which has been very helpful

> and they employee me almost on a weekly basis.

> I just need a stop over to get myself together again and move on. I need to

> get my life back!

> I asked Jim's kids if they could wait for me to pack and move out before

> putting the house up for sale, but they wanted it on sale now and they

> weren't going to wait, so I had to live in a gold fish bowl of people

> passing through and attempting to keep the house clean and presentable while

> packing and cleaning. It's all about the money to them. I do get the last

> laugh since the house prices have gone down and Medicaid wants a lump out of

> the sale, so they won't be getting all they were thinking they would be

> getting in the beginning.

> To tell you the truth, I will be glad to be over with this episode of my

> life and moving onto a new chapter. It will be good to get my life back.

> So onward to a new chapter of my life.

> Jan Colello

>

>