New Here

[Guest guest]

Hi . Nice to meet you! I am a SAHM of 4. I live in Maine now but I

grew up in MASS (Orange). Where abouts are you? If you don't mind me asking.

Looking forward to getting to know you. There is a great group of people here!

CHRIS

and

Parents of:

Sully 10-94 (AS)

Chenoa 6-96 (NT Mild Speech Delay)

Trevayne 3-98 (PDDNOS, Significant Speech Delay)

and

set 12-99 (Significant Speech Delay)

New Here

Hi!

I just joined so I thought I'd send in an intro.

I am a SAHM to , who is 4-1/2 (where does the time go??) and is in the

spectrum. I have been married since 1994 and we live in MA. was

diagnosed around age 2 with SID, then around age 3 with PDD-NOS. He is in his

second year of integrated preschool, and his teachers told me they think he

might have aspergers. I don't think so though - he has the late speech and

everything that goes along with PDD-NOS.

My biggest problems with are eating (he eats next to NOTHING), and

discipline lately. He was a VERY touchy baby, and cried all the time. Then

when he hit 1 or so, he became very mellow. He's been a very laid back child

since, and still mostly is, but he's developing a habit of " No! I don't want

to! " that is driving me buggy. There are a ton of other little things that I

need help with, but I just woke up so I can't think straight yet.

Anyway, thanks for letting me join, and I look forward to getting to know you

all!

http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Bluffs/2654/

~ I have all the answers, it's just that most of them aren't right.~

[Guest guest]

Welcome, . My name is Tamara. I am a SAHM, too. I also do day care

out of my home. I have two older step-children, 17 and 10 and two of my

own. Ebony is four and she is asd. She goes to Early Childhood classes in

the mornings and has in-home therapy in the afternoons. I also have ,

who is almost 9 months. I live in Wisconsin. I look forward to talking to

you more in the future and again...welcome to the group.

Tamara

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To: <parenting_autism >

Subject: New Here

Date: Thu, 3 Jan 2002 02:40:20 -0600

Hi!

I just joined so I thought I'd send in an intro.

I am a SAHM to , who is 4-1/2 (where does the time go??) and is in the

spectrum. I have been married since 1994 and we live in MA. was

diagnosed around age 2 with SID, then around age 3 with PDD-NOS. He is in

his second year of integrated preschool, and his teachers told me they think

he might have aspergers. I don't think so though - he has the late speech

and everything that goes along with PDD-NOS.

My biggest problems with are eating (he eats next to NOTHING), and

discipline lately. He was a VERY touchy baby, and cried all the time. Then

when he hit 1 or so, he became very mellow. He's been a very laid back

child since, and still mostly is, but he's developing a habit of " No! I

don't want to! " that is driving me buggy. There are a ton of other little

things that I need help with, but I just woke up so I can't think straight

yet.

Anyway, thanks for letting me join, and I look forward to getting to know

you all!

http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Bluffs/2654/

~ I have all the answers, it's just that most of them aren't right.~

[Guest guest]

-

,

Welcome to the list. I have a 7 y.o with pddnos. I think that if a

child appears less affected than they tend to go with Aspergers or

pddnos. I think that Aspergers has more normal speech though. My son

also has a thing about not being told what to do, wants to do stuff

his way, and cant take the slightest bit of constructive criticism. I

think this is a good list and very helpful.

Thea

-- In parenting_autism@y..., " " <alli1102@m...> wrote:

> Hi!

>

> I just joined so I thought I'd send in an intro.

>

> I am a SAHM to , who is 4-1/2 (where does the time go??) and

is in the spectrum. I have been married since 1994 and we live in

MA. was diagnosed around age 2 with SID, then around age 3

with PDD-NOS. He is in his second year of integrated preschool, and

his teachers told me they think he might have aspergers. I don't

think so though - he has the late speech and everything that goes

along with PDD-NOS.

>

> My biggest problems with are eating (he eats next to

NOTHING), and discipline lately. He was a VERY touchy baby, and

cried all the time. Then when he hit 1 or so, he became very

mellow. He's been a very laid back child since, and still mostly is,

but he's developing a habit of " No! I don't want to! " that is

driving me buggy. There are a ton of other little things that I need

help with, but I just woke up so I can't think straight yet.

>

> Anyway, thanks for letting me join, and I look forward to getting

to know you all!

>

>

> http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Bluffs/2654/

> ~ I have all the answers, it's just that most of them aren't right.~

>

>

>

>

>

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Hi ,

I'm Tuna, married to Doug and mom to (7, ASD)

and (3, NT). Welcome to the list!!

Tuna

--- wrote:

Hi!

I just joined so I thought I'd send in an intro.

I am a SAHM to , who is 4-1/2 (where does the

time go??) and is in the spectrum. I have been married

since 1994 and we live in MA.

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Welcome

Ron...dad to Alec 10, NVLD, Sam 4 autistic Abbie3, PDD

[Guest guest]

Hi , glad you joined we have a lot of good advise so just ask anything

that you have a problem with and it will get answered one way or another.

Lori mom to

11 NT

9 autistic, scollious, seizures,pica disorder

7 language processing disorder and more tests

New Here

Hi!

I just joined so I thought I'd send in an intro.

I am a SAHM to , who is 4-1/2 (where does the time go??) and is in the

spectrum. I have been married since 1994 and we live in MA. was

diagnosed around age 2 with SID, then around age 3 with PDD-NOS. He is in his

second year of integrated preschool, and his teachers told me they think he

might have aspergers. I don't think so though - he has the late speech and

everything that goes along with PDD-NOS.

My biggest problems with are eating (he eats next to NOTHING), and

discipline lately. He was a VERY touchy baby, and cried all the time. Then

when he hit 1 or so, he became very mellow. He's been a very laid back child

since, and still mostly is, but he's developing a habit of " No! I don't want

to! " that is driving me buggy. There are a ton of other little things that I

need help with, but I just woke up so I can't think straight yet.

Anyway, thanks for letting me join, and I look forward to getting to know you

all!

http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Bluffs/2654/

~ I have all the answers, it's just that most of them aren't right.~

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 1/3/02 6:10:19 AM Pacific Standard Time, writes:

> I look forward to getting to know you all!

>

>

.......and you will!

Welcome .

Barb

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

Welcome, I'm Mimi, married to for almost 9 years

and a sahm to Hannah, 7 (NT) and

, 5, (PDD/significant speech delay). We live

in New York, on Long Island.

I look forward to getting to know you.

Mimi

>

> New Here

>

>

> Hi!

>

> I just joined so I thought I'd send in an intro.

>

>

> I am a SAHM to , who is 4-1/2 (where does the

> time go??) and is in the spectrum. I have been

> married since 1994 and we live in MA. was

> diagnosed around age 2 with SID, then around age 3

> with PDD-NOS. He is in his second year of

> integrated preschool, and his teachers told me they

> think he might have aspergers. I don't think so

> though - he has the late speech and everything that

> goes along with PDD-NOS.

>

> My biggest problems with are eating (he eats

> next to NOTHING), and discipline lately. He was a

> VERY touchy baby, and cried all the time. Then when

> he hit 1 or so, he became very mellow. He's been a

> very laid back child since, and still mostly is, but

> he's developing a habit of " No! I don't want to! "

> that is driving me buggy. There are a ton of other

> little things that I need help with, but I just woke

> up so I can't think straight yet.

>

> Anyway, thanks for letting me join, and I look

> forward to getting to know you all!

>

>

> http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Bluffs/2654/

> ~ I have all the answers, it's just that most of

> them aren't right.~

>

>

>

>

> [Non-text portions of this message have been

> removed]

>

>

>

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Welcome! I also have a child that eats next to nothing. By that I mean her

diet is very limited. " discipline " , in the regular definition of the word

does not work very well for our children. But the fact that he is

protesting actually is a good sign. We deal with the " No, I dont' want to "

by giving her options. You can either do this or this. Usually the

alternative isn't very pleasurable. For instance, when it's time to go to

bed: 'You can either go in and go to bed on your own and read OR I can take

you in there and put you to bed and shut the light off'. She instantly is

in bed.

Keep asking questions, we don't have all the answers, but we sure try to

help!

Penny

Mom to Jacqui 6, HFA

Jeff 19

[Guest guest]

was like that. Ate almost nothing. In the last year I have him eating

yogurt, bananas, strawberries, pumpkin pie, and tonight after supper my other 2

had banana bread and I gave some at first he did not like it but I just

kept giving him more and he ate the whole little loaf. I was grateful that he

liked it after awhile.

Lori

RE: New Here

-

Welcome! I also have a child that eats next to nothing. By that I mean her

diet is very limited. " discipline " , in the regular definition of the word

does not work very well for our children. But the fact that he is

protesting actually is a good sign. We deal with the " No, I dont' want to "

by giving her options. You can either do this or this. Usually the

alternative isn't very pleasurable. For instance, when it's time to go to

bed: 'You can either go in and go to bed on your own and read OR I can take

you in there and put you to bed and shut the light off'. She instantly is

in bed.

Keep asking questions, we don't have all the answers, but we sure try to

help!

Penny

Mom to Jacqui 6, HFA

Jeff 19

[Guest guest]

Thanks to all of you for the welcomes! I'm a little more awake today, so I

thought I'd write and see if anyone can sympathize with me.

eats almost NOTHING. He never eats dinner. He won't even touch it. He

won't try it or even pick it up. Just says this is yucky and that's that. He

doesn't complain that I won't allow him to have any dessert, he just doesn't

care. He'll eat ANY junk food, but I've had to really try to limit it because

that's all he ever wants. He eats NO fruits or veggies, except an occassional

banana if there's nothing else in the house! You should see how excited I get

when he eats a banana! LOL! He'll eat cheese, dry cereal, turkey lunch meat, I

think that's all. No meats except for that one lunch meat. Picky doesn't begin

to describe him! He used to eat hot dogs, some meats, spaghetti - but he won't

touch those anymore.

Discipline is getting confusing for me too, because doesn't seem to get

it. He's been saying things like, " No! I won't! " lately, whereas he used to be

really mellow. I can't stand the disobedience thing, so I'm really trying to

figure out what to do here.

Getting dressed is a huge hassle. He just lays there like a rag doll while I do

it, or he fights me. He won't dress himself.

There, it felt good to get that all off my chest. LOL! Any suggestions would

be appreciated!!

http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Bluffs/2654/

~ I have all the answers, it's just that most of them aren't right.~

[Guest guest]

I live in North Andover, MA right now. Ooh, I love Maine!

http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Bluffs/2654/

~ I have all the answers, it's just that most of them aren't right.~

New Here

Hi!

I just joined so I thought I'd send in an intro.

I am a SAHM to , who is 4-1/2 (where does the time go??) and is in the

spectrum. I have been married since 1994 and we live in MA. was

diagnosed around age 2 with SID, then around age 3 with PDD-NOS. He is in his

second year of integrated preschool, and his teachers told me they think he

might have aspergers. I don't think so though - he has the late speech and

everything that goes along with PDD-NOS.

My biggest problems with are eating (he eats next to NOTHING), and

discipline lately. He was a VERY touchy baby, and cried all the time. Then

when he hit 1 or so, he became very mellow. He's been a very laid back child

since, and still mostly is, but he's developing a habit of " No! I don't want

to! " that is driving me buggy. There are a ton of other little things that I

need help with, but I just woke up so I can't think straight yet.

Anyway, thanks for letting me join, and I look forward to getting to know

you all!

http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Bluffs/2654/

~ I have all the answers, it's just that most of them aren't right.~

[Guest guest]

Sully is a particularly picky eater. He eats not meat unless it is in the form

of a chicken nugget (MCD or BK only not my homemade ones which are great if I

may say so) or hot dogs. Neither of which I consider meat! He eats no veggies

unless it is corn and it has to be on the cob. If the food is mixed i.e.

casserole, stew it is a no go. He loves fruit. and I can get him to eat cereal

with out milk in the bowl. I give him Carnation inst Breakfast. He is 7 yo and

just reached 42 lbs.

CHRIS

and

Parents of:

Sully 10-94 (AS)

Chenoa 6-96 (NT Mild Speech Delay)

Trevayne 3-98 (PDDNOS, Significant Speech Delay)

and

set 12-99 (Significant Speech Delay)

Re: New Here

Thanks to all of you for the welcomes! I'm a little more awake today, so I

thought I'd write and see if anyone can sympathize with me.

eats almost NOTHING. He never eats dinner. He won't even touch it. He

won't try it or even pick it up. Just says this is yucky and that's that. He

doesn't complain that I won't allow him to have any dessert, he just doesn't

care. He'll eat ANY junk food, but I've had to really try to limit it because

that's all he ever wants. He eats NO fruits or veggies, except an occassional

banana if there's nothing else in the house! You should see how excited I get

when he eats a banana! LOL! He'll eat cheese, dry cereal, turkey lunch meat, I

think that's all. No meats except for that one lunch meat. Picky doesn't begin

to describe him! He used to eat hot dogs, some meats, spaghetti - but he won't

touch those anymore.

Discipline is getting confusing for me too, because doesn't seem to get

it. He's been saying things like, " No! I won't! " lately, whereas he used to be

really mellow. I can't stand the disobedience thing, so I'm really trying to

figure out what to do here.

Getting dressed is a huge hassle. He just lays there like a rag doll while I

do it, or he fights me. He won't dress himself.

There, it felt good to get that all off my chest. LOL! Any suggestions would

be appreciated!!

http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Bluffs/2654/

~ I have all the answers, it's just that most of them aren't right.~

[Guest guest]

> eats almost NOTHING. He never eats dinner. He won't even touch it. He

won't try it or even pick it up. Just says this is yucky and that's that. He

doesn't complain that I won't allow him to have any dessert, he just doesn't

care. He'll eat ANY junk food, but I've had to really try to limit it because

that's all he ever wants. He eats NO fruits or veggies, except an occassional

banana if there's nothing else in the house! You should see how excited I get

when he eats a banana! LOL! He'll eat cheese, dry cereal, turkey lunch meat, I

think that's all. No meats except for that one lunch meat. Picky doesn't begin

to describe him! He used to eat hot dogs, some meats, spaghetti - but he won't

touch those anymore.

>

, this is soooooooooo common! You're not alone! What amazes me is how

these kids continue to LIVE on what they eat, let alone THRIVE!

's diet used to be shockingly limited; now, at 5 1/2, it's just terribly

limited. Here is his entire list of acceptable foods:

-McD's chicken nuggets

-french fries (but very few)

-rice with plum sauce (occasionally)

-peanut butter and honey sandwiches ONLY ON WHITE BREAD.

-glazed white donut holes

-any type of potato chips

-fish sticks and plum sauce. (this is sometimes eaten three times a day)

-pepperoni slices

-chicken weiners and plum sauce

-dunkaroos

-once every two weeks, he will agree to an apple

-creamed corn

-about every two months, he will eat a small serving of peas and that will be

his whole dinner.

(WOW! His diet has more than doubled over the past year, actually -- take

hope!!!)

Only one food is allowed at a meal. If it's an all-protein day, then it's an

all-protein day. If he wants fish sticks for three meals, then that's what he

eats. Putting more than one food on the plate is on a par with severing one of

his limbs.

And , my mom and I have learned something that works to get him to eat.

Saying, oh look, yummy x DOESN'T work. Taking the plate to the table, slapping

it down, saying, " Here. Food. " and walking away like we don't give a crap if he

eats WORKS!!! Try it. I bet you'll be surprised!

Jacquie

[Guest guest]

Wow, is that ! He eats chicken, cheese, bread

and potatoes (and the occassional eggroll, and only if

its pork, not beef, he checks before eating). The

only advice I can think of is to put the plate in

front of him and not try to make him eat. With

, we have a 15 minute rule. We tell him he

doesn't have to eat, but he does have to sit for 15

minutes. After about 5 minutes of just sitting there

he usually begins to eat.

Also, if you're trying to introduce new foods, our OT

told us to first put the food on the table, so he can

see it, but don't put it on his plate. Give him

whatever his 'usual' is. After four or five meals of

doing this, put a small amount of the new food on his

plate along with a couple of his favorites. Just keep

offering it to him. Don't worry if he eats it or not.

(This was hard for me, I hate wasting food!).

Eventually, he may try it. It's worked better for us

than anything else, but it's still really hard to get

him to try something new.

--- wrote:

Thanks to all of you for the welcomes! I'm a little

more awake today, so I thought I'd write and see if

anyone can sympathize with me.

eats almost NOTHING. He never eats dinner. He

won't even touch it. He won't try it or even pick it

up. Just says this is yucky and that's that. He

doesn't complain that I won't allow him to have any

dessert, he just doesn't care. He'll eat ANY junk

food, but I've had to really try to limit it because

that's all he ever wants. He eats NO fruits or

veggies, except an occassional banana if there's

nothing else in the house! You should see how excited

I get when he eats a banana! LOL! He'll eat cheese,

dry cereal, turkey lunch meat, I think that's all. No

meats except for that one lunch meat. Picky doesn't

begin to describe him! He used to eat hot dogs, some

meats, spaghetti - but he won't touch those anymore.

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,

Can you ask his teachers to work on getting dressed

with him?. 's teachers are working on pulling up

a zipper..putting his shirt on..etc..he can get his

shirt on now..but he will lay there and let me do

it..it's easier and he is spoiled..but mainly I do it

for him cause so that he's ready for his bus on time!

Mimi

wife to

sahm to Hannah, 7 (NT)

and , 5 (PDD/Significant Speech Delay)

--- wrote:

> Thanks to all of you for the welcomes! I'm a little

> more awake today, so I thought I'd write and see if

> anyone can sympathize with me.

>

> eats almost NOTHING. He never eats dinner.

> He won't even touch it. He won't try it or even

> pick it up. Just says this is yucky and that's

> that. He doesn't complain that I won't allow him to

> have any dessert, he just doesn't care. He'll eat

> ANY junk food, but I've had to really try to limit

> it because that's all he ever wants. He eats NO

> fruits or veggies, except an occassional banana if

> there's nothing else in the house! You should see

> how excited I get when he eats a banana! LOL!

> He'll eat cheese, dry cereal, turkey lunch meat, I

> think that's all. No meats except for that one

> lunch meat. Picky doesn't begin to describe him!

> He used to eat hot dogs, some meats, spaghetti - but

> he won't touch those anymore.

>

> Discipline is getting confusing for me too, because

> doesn't seem to get it. He's been saying

> things like, " No! I won't! " lately, whereas he used

> to be really mellow. I can't stand the disobedience

> thing, so I'm really trying to figure out what to do

> here.

>

> Getting dressed is a huge hassle. He just lays

> there like a rag doll while I do it, or he fights

> me. He won't dress himself.

>

> There, it felt good to get that all off my chest.

> LOL! Any suggestions would be appreciated!!

>

>

> http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Bluffs/2654/

> ~ I have all the answers, it's just that most of

> them aren't right.~

>

>

>

> [Non-text portions of this message have been

> removed]

>

>

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>>>

eats almost NOTHING. He never eats dinner. He won't even touch it.

He won't try it or even pick it up. Just says this is yucky and that's

that. He doesn't complain that I won't allow him to have any dessert, he

just doesn't care. He'll eat ANY junk food, but I've had to really try to

limit it because that's all he ever wants. He eats NO fruits or veggies,

except an occassional banana if there's nothing else in the house! You

should see how excited I get when he eats a banana! LOL! He'll eat cheese,

dry cereal, turkey lunch meat, I think that's all. No meats except for that

one lunch meat. Picky doesn't begin to describe him! He used to eat hot

dogs, some meats, spaghetti - but he won't touch those anymore.

<<<<

, This is not unusual. Lack of willingness to eat usually means

there is some sort of oral sensory issue. It's a tough one that we haven't

figured out yet. He's not really being " picky " , it's just that some tastes

and textures are not tolerable for him.

>>>>>

Discipline is getting confusing for me too, because doesn't seem to

get it. He's been saying things like, " No! I won't! " lately, whereas he

used to be really mellow. I can't stand the disobedience thing, so I'm

really trying to figure out what to do here.

<<<<<

This is going to require A LOT of patience from you. You may have to look

at it as not being disobedient, and understanding that he is trying

communicate with you. Give him options. Consequence doesn't mean all that

much to our kids. What kinds of things does he say 'No, I won't!' to?

<<<<

Getting dressed is a huge hassle. He just lays there like a rag doll while

I do it, or he fights me. He won't dress himself.

>>>>

This is also not unusual. You may want to set up a picture schedule of

events and offer a sticker reward system - Positive reinforcement will work

much better than punishment. ie; every time he gets dressed on his own

(assuming that he CAN do it, some of our kids do not have that self-help

skill) he gets to put a sticker on a chart. After getting so many stickers,

he gets a reward of some sort.

It's a long difficult road . Everyone will tell you. If you try to

look at " why " these behaviors are occuring it will make it a lot easier!!

Keep asking! We'll try to help!

Penny :-)

[Guest guest]

Wow! is 4 and 43 pounds! I don't know how he does it though - existing

on air the way he seems to! LOL! He will only eat dry cereal too. I wonder

why that is.

http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Bluffs/2654/

I know God will not give me anything I cannot handle. I just wish he didn't

trust me so much.

Re: New Here

Thanks to all of you for the welcomes! I'm a little more awake today, so I

thought I'd write and see if anyone can sympathize with me.

eats almost NOTHING. He never eats dinner. He won't even touch it.

He won't try it or even pick it up. Just says this is yucky and that's that.

He doesn't complain that I won't allow him to have any dessert, he just doesn't

care. He'll eat ANY junk food, but I've had to really try to limit it because

that's all he ever wants. He eats NO fruits or veggies, except an occassional

banana if there's nothing else in the house! You should see how excited I get

when he eats a banana! LOL! He'll eat cheese, dry cereal, turkey lunch meat, I

think that's all. No meats except for that one lunch meat. Picky doesn't begin

to describe him! He used to eat hot dogs, some meats, spaghetti - but he won't

touch those anymore.

Discipline is getting confusing for me too, because doesn't seem to

get it. He's been saying things like, " No! I won't! " lately, whereas he used

to be really mellow. I can't stand the disobedience thing, so I'm really trying

to figure out what to do here.

Getting dressed is a huge hassle. He just lays there like a rag doll while

I do it, or he fights me. He won't dress himself.

There, it felt good to get that all off my chest. LOL! Any suggestions

would be appreciated!!

http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Bluffs/2654/

~ I have all the answers, it's just that most of them aren't right.~

[Guest guest]

Jacquie, I've tried that. LOL! He will just say oh well, can I leave the table

now? I have learned that it's best to NOT mention it at all though. Except if

he wants dessert. I don't allow him to snack unless he's eaten at least some of

his dinner.

http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Bluffs/2654/

I know God will not give me anything I cannot handle. I just wish he didn't

trust me so much.

Re: New Here

> eats almost NOTHING. He never eats dinner. He won't even touch it.

He won't try it or even pick it up. Just says this is yucky and that's that.

He doesn't complain that I won't allow him to have any dessert, he just doesn't

care. He'll eat ANY junk food, but I've had to really try to limit it because

that's all he ever wants. He eats NO fruits or veggies, except an occassional

banana if there's nothing else in the house! You should see how excited I get

when he eats a banana! LOL! He'll eat cheese, dry cereal, turkey lunch meat, I

think that's all. No meats except for that one lunch meat. Picky doesn't begin

to describe him! He used to eat hot dogs, some meats, spaghetti - but he won't

touch those anymore.

>

, this is soooooooooo common! You're not alone! What amazes me is how

these kids continue to LIVE on what they eat, let alone THRIVE!

's diet used to be shockingly limited; now, at 5 1/2, it's just terribly

limited. Here is his entire list of acceptable foods:

-McD's chicken nuggets

-french fries (but very few)

-rice with plum sauce (occasionally)

-peanut butter and honey sandwiches ONLY ON WHITE BREAD.

-glazed white donut holes

-any type of potato chips

-fish sticks and plum sauce. (this is sometimes eaten three times a day)

-pepperoni slices

-chicken weiners and plum sauce

-dunkaroos

-once every two weeks, he will agree to an apple

-creamed corn

-about every two months, he will eat a small serving of peas and that will be

his whole dinner.

(WOW! His diet has more than doubled over the past year, actually -- take

hope!!!)

Only one food is allowed at a meal. If it's an all-protein day, then it's an

all-protein day. If he wants fish sticks for three meals, then that's what he

eats. Putting more than one food on the plate is on a par with severing one of

his limbs.

And , my mom and I have learned something that works to get him to eat.

Saying, oh look, yummy x DOESN'T work. Taking the plate to the table, slapping

it down, saying, " Here. Food. " and walking away like we don't give a crap if he

eats WORKS!!! Try it. I bet you'll be surprised!

Jacquie

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I'll have to try that. The thing that bothers me though, is when I have

served something a zillion times, and he STILL won't try it! Like corn. He's

seen that on his plate for years now. Still won't touch it.

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Wow, is that ! He eats chicken, cheese, bread

and potatoes (and the occassional eggroll, and only if

its pork, not beef, he checks before eating). The

only advice I can think of is to put the plate in

front of him and not try to make him eat. With

, we have a 15 minute rule. We tell him he

doesn't have to eat, but he does have to sit for 15

minutes. After about 5 minutes of just sitting there

he usually begins to eat.

Also, if you're trying to introduce new foods, our OT

told us to first put the food on the table, so he can

see it, but don't put it on his plate. Give him

whatever his 'usual' is. After four or five meals of

doing this, put a small amount of the new food on his

plate along with a couple of his favorites. Just keep

offering it to him. Don't worry if he eats it or not.

(This was hard for me, I hate wasting food!).

Eventually, he may try it. It's worked better for us

than anything else, but it's still really hard to get

him to try something new.

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Thanks to all of you for the welcomes! I'm a little

more awake today, so I thought I'd write and see if

anyone can sympathize with me.

eats almost NOTHING. He never eats dinner. He

won't even touch it. He won't try it or even pick it

up. Just says this is yucky and that's that. He

doesn't complain that I won't allow him to have any

dessert, he just doesn't care. He'll eat ANY junk

food, but I've had to really try to limit it because

that's all he ever wants. He eats NO fruits or

veggies, except an occassional banana if there's

nothing else in the house! You should see how excited

I get when he eats a banana! LOL! He'll eat cheese,

dry cereal, turkey lunch meat, I think that's all. No

meats except for that one lunch meat. Picky doesn't

begin to describe him! He used to eat hot dogs, some

meats, spaghetti - but he won't touch those anymore.

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I think CAN do it, he just chooses not to. One of 's favorite

lines is, " But I CAN'T! " (i.e. I don't feel like it).

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Re: New Here

,

Can you ask his teachers to work on getting dressed

with him?. 's teachers are working on pulling up

a zipper..putting his shirt on..etc..he can get his

shirt on now..but he will lay there and let me do

it..it's easier and he is spoiled..but mainly I do it

for him cause so that he's ready for his bus on time!

Mimi

wife to

sahm to Hannah, 7 (NT)

and , 5 (PDD/Significant Speech Delay)

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> Thanks to all of you for the welcomes! I'm a little

> more awake today, so I thought I'd write and see if

> anyone can sympathize with me.

>

> eats almost NOTHING. He never eats dinner.

> He won't even touch it. He won't try it or even

> pick it up. Just says this is yucky and that's

> that. He doesn't complain that I won't allow him to

> have any dessert, he just doesn't care. He'll eat

> ANY junk food, but I've had to really try to limit

> it because that's all he ever wants. He eats NO

> fruits or veggies, except an occassional banana if

> there's nothing else in the house! You should see

> how excited I get when he eats a banana! LOL!

> He'll eat cheese, dry cereal, turkey lunch meat, I

> think that's all. No meats except for that one

> lunch meat. Picky doesn't begin to describe him!

> He used to eat hot dogs, some meats, spaghetti - but

> he won't touch those anymore.

>

> Discipline is getting confusing for me too, because

> doesn't seem to get it. He's been saying

> things like, " No! I won't! " lately, whereas he used

> to be really mellow. I can't stand the disobedience

> thing, so I'm really trying to figure out what to do

> here.

>

> Getting dressed is a huge hassle. He just lays

> there like a rag doll while I do it, or he fights

> me. He won't dress himself.

>

> There, it felt good to get that all off my chest.

> LOL! Any suggestions would be appreciated!!

>

>

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> them aren't right.~

>

>

>

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>

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Thanks, Penny.

says, " No, I won't! " to things like, " Clean up your toys " etc. He knows

how to do it but doesn't want to.

As for the eating, I've been told the same thing you said. That it's an oral

sensory issue. But it doesn't make sense to me because doesn't even know

what the food tastes or feels like, since he won't try it. Hmmm.

I did do a chore chart with for a while, and getting dressed was on there.

He would just say he couldn't do it and he'd want to move on to the next chore.

He loved that chart but I guess it wasn't motivation enough for a few things!

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RE: New Here

>>>

eats almost NOTHING. He never eats dinner. He won't even touch it.

He won't try it or even pick it up. Just says this is yucky and that's

that. He doesn't complain that I won't allow him to have any dessert, he

just doesn't care. He'll eat ANY junk food, but I've had to really try to

limit it because that's all he ever wants. He eats NO fruits or veggies,

except an occassional banana if there's nothing else in the house! You

should see how excited I get when he eats a banana! LOL! He'll eat cheese,

dry cereal, turkey lunch meat, I think that's all. No meats except for that

one lunch meat. Picky doesn't begin to describe him! He used to eat hot

dogs, some meats, spaghetti - but he won't touch those anymore.

<<<<

, This is not unusual. Lack of willingness to eat usually means

there is some sort of oral sensory issue. It's a tough one that we haven't

figured out yet. He's not really being " picky " , it's just that some tastes

and textures are not tolerable for him.

>>>>>

Discipline is getting confusing for me too, because doesn't seem to

get it. He's been saying things like, " No! I won't! " lately, whereas he

used to be really mellow. I can't stand the disobedience thing, so I'm

really trying to figure out what to do here.

<<<<<

This is going to require A LOT of patience from you. You may have to look

at it as not being disobedient, and understanding that he is trying

communicate with you. Give him options. Consequence doesn't mean all that

much to our kids. What kinds of things does he say 'No, I won't!' to?

<<<<

Getting dressed is a huge hassle. He just lays there like a rag doll while

I do it, or he fights me. He won't dress himself.

>>>>

This is also not unusual. You may want to set up a picture schedule of

events and offer a sticker reward system - Positive reinforcement will work

much better than punishment. ie; every time he gets dressed on his own

(assuming that he CAN do it, some of our kids do not have that self-help

skill) he gets to put a sticker on a chart. After getting so many stickers,

he gets a reward of some sort.

It's a long difficult road . Everyone will tell you. If you try to

look at " why " these behaviors are occuring it will make it a lot easier!!

Keep asking! We'll try to help!

Penny :-)

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>>>>>

Wow! is 4 and 43 pounds! I don't know how he does it though -

existing on air the way he seems to! LOL! He will only eat dry cereal too.

I wonder why that is.

<<<<<

A couple of guesses:

A) He doesn't like the way the cereal gets soggy in milk.

He may have a problem with casein (found in milk).

Penny

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He is almost 4-1/2. He is still behind verbally, but he has really come a long

way recently. He really does talk quite a lot, but he still can't carry on a

conversation much at all. He mostly repeats phrases that he's heard somewhere

before. At least he uses them in context usually. You can tell there is a

delay when he is around " normal " kids. But for a PDD-NOS kid, he is doing GREAT

I think!!

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Re: New Here

> Jacquie, I've tried that. LOL! He will just say oh well, can I leave the

table now? I have learned that it's best to NOT mention it at all though.

Except if he wants dessert. I don't allow him to snack unless he's eaten at

least some of his dinner.

>

Allsion, seems VERY verbal -- how old is he again?

Jacquie

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is 50 lbs and he is 9.

Lori

Re: New Here

Thanks to all of you for the welcomes! I'm a little more awake today, so

I thought I'd write and see if anyone can sympathize with me.

eats almost NOTHING. He never eats dinner. He won't even touch it.

He won't try it or even pick it up. Just says this is yucky and that's that.

He doesn't complain that I won't allow him to have any dessert, he just doesn't

care. He'll eat ANY junk food, but I've had to really try to limit it because

that's all he ever wants. He eats NO fruits or veggies, except an occassional

banana if there's nothing else in the house! You should see how excited I get

when he eats a banana! LOL! He'll eat cheese, dry cereal, turkey lunch meat, I

think that's all. No meats except for that one lunch meat. Picky doesn't begin

to describe him! He used to eat hot dogs, some meats, spaghetti - but he won't

touch those anymore.

Discipline is getting confusing for me too, because doesn't seem to

get it. He's been saying things like, " No! I won't! " lately, whereas he used

to be really mellow. I can't stand the disobedience thing, so I'm really trying

to figure out what to do here.

Getting dressed is a huge hassle. He just lays there like a rag doll

while I do it, or he fights me. He won't dress himself.

There, it felt good to get that all off my chest. LOL! Any suggestions

would be appreciated!!

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~ I have all the answers, it's just that most of them aren't right.~