Re: Dorothy - RE: OT Helene: Hello All

[Guest guest]

Thank you for your kind words Helene, it's great to hear from you.

I am mostly lurking these days too. I love seeing all my friends that helped me

so much along the way and kept me sane, well as much as could be anyway : ) If

I see one's cry for help where I have experience I try to help in some way, but

we all are different and seek different answers, so it is nice that we get so

many views here and answers to questions.

Love and Hugs,

Jan

Subject: Re: Dorothy - RE: Hello All

To: LBDcaregivers

Date: Monday, June 13, 2011, 12:26 PM

 

Hi Jan,

I've been lurking mostly these days, but I wanted to respond to your post... I

was so glad to read that you have moved out, and have moved on. It's time for

you to enjoy yourself, and God knows, nobody deserves it more! You have been the

most amazing caregiver, and have been so kind to document and give wonderful

information that has helped so many of us.

Sending love from NY,

Helene

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> Subject: Jan - RE: Hello All

> To: LBDcaregivers

> Date: Wednesday, June 8, 2011, 6:00 PM

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> Dear Janet,

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> I am very sorry to read you have been going through this kind of uprooting

> on top of what you've been through with Jim. I'm just so impressed by what

> you've shared here with us and how devoted you were to Jim and so upset to

> see his children treating you less than a tenant. I hope by now you are

> moved and washed your hands of the whole thing. How do you like it and how

> are you feeling?

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> I keep thinking it won't be forever and there will be a time that I get my

> life back. and I also wonder what that is going to be like? What will my

> life be when I get it back. Have you had any trouble figuring out what you

> want to do? Is it as good as I imagine now to just sit and have time and

> mental space to rest, read, watch a silly show or just relax? I keep

> imagining it will feel pretty good to do those things.

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> I appreciate your sharing about when Jim had to go to a home and how you

> made like it was a cruise and he saluted the staff. And what a great idea

> introducing him to everyone that way. If we do end up having to place my

> mother in law in a home I am going to make sure I do the same with her and

> introduce here to everyone. She isn't big on cruises so that part won't

> work but I will think of something pleasant to focus on there and not the

> negative.

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> Hope you are feeling well and settling in ok.

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> Dorothy

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> From: LBDcaregivers [mailto:LBDcaregivers ]

> On Behalf Of Janet Colello

> Sent: Sunday, May 15, 2011 11:36 AM

> To: LBDcaregivers

> Subject: Hello All

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> Hi,

> I just thought I would update you all on my life's story as of Jim's death

> last January.

> As most of you know, Jim's kids had the Trust to the house and put it up for

> sale only a month after Jim's passing. I have bearly had time to mourn his

> loss, but maybe it is a good thing I have been keeping very busy packing and

> cleaning to move out. I have had my moments of melt downs mostly at night

> when I am alone in thought. I will be moving out on June 1. They have a

> buyer.

> I have really had to learn to humble myself and ask friends and family for a

> room to move into until I get my life back in order.

> A friend of a friend has opened her home up to me and I am going to rent a

> room from her until I can find a full time job again and get a place of my

> own. As of now, I do sub jobs at the school, which has been very helpful

> and they employee me almost on a weekly basis.

> I just need a stop over to get myself together again and move on. I need to

> get my life back!

> I asked Jim's kids if they could wait for me to pack and move out before

> putting the house up for sale, but they wanted it on sale now and they

> weren't going to wait, so I had to live in a gold fish bowl of people

> passing through and attempting to keep the house clean and presentable while

> packing and cleaning. It's all about the money to them. I do get the last

> laugh since the house prices have gone down and Medicaid wants a lump out of

> the sale, so they won't be getting all they were thinking they would be

> getting in the beginning.

> To tell you the truth, I will be glad to be over with this episode of my

> life and moving onto a new chapter. It will be good to get my life back.

> So onward to a new chapter of my life.

> Jan Colello

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