Re: Urgent plea for help- help is here

[Guest guest]

Power is back on and there are many paid and unpaid helpers now at the house. I

called the Social Worker to tell me the schedule (every time I asked Mom - she

said I'll tell you sometime) and the Soc. Worker gave me schedule and also that

there were unpaid workers Volunteers available ! but they just sit and talk and

can't do anything medical or hygiene. So my sister arranged for Aides and CNA's

to cover day and night - RN is coming everyday to insert catheter, etc. He is

not-communicating and having vivid hallucinations and I have a broken heart

right now. When I get home, I literally pass-out on couch and then bed because

it drains me so completely to see him like that.

But all is well with the helpers and this agency provides everything and if they

can't fill a shift, they give us number to the next agency to do it - yesterday

there was an overlap of 2 aides from 2 different companies - and they never met

before and they were working together to change all his wet clothes and bedding

and then do the laundry - amazing women !

Thanks for all your suggestions - if I get a minute I will look into the support

groups you suggested, but I don't have a minute right now. Also, the stress has

aggravated my illness and I have to rest a bit and designate time not to have

any action regarding this issue - like a little break time.

But we have a ton of support and everything is in place that is needed.

H