Re: Judy - Mum had a fall

[Guest guest]

Hi Judy- Oh, interesting you should say I can feel my Dad watching over

me... Earlier today we were at a photographer's ordering senior pics for my

youngest son. We were a little indicisive over what sizes and what to order,

cost of it all...lots of decisions. Well, it just so worked out that I was able

to order an 11X14 of my son and myself. It's a lovely picture of us. I smiled

from the inside out. Even the photographer commented how happy I was. Well,

just then, a ladybug fluttered around the room and landed on a photo/portrait

just in front of us. My son and I gasped. Then my son asked if I was going to

explain the meaning of ladybugs... For the last 2 1/2 years of my dad's life he

was unable to speak. He would mumble a " yes " or " no " but even that was hard to

understand. The summer of 2002 ladybugs started showing up in his NH room. We

would laugh at them, flick them, I would count the dots and Dad would follow, we

had so much fun with those ladybugs. Dad passed in September. December of that

year, tucked away in a microwave cart drawer, in an address book, the name of

the neurologist that diagnosed my dad's LBD, was a ladybug. I called my son in

to see it. I couldn't believe it. And ladybugs keep showing up any time my dad

is mentioned, when songs come on the radio that remind me of my dad, on his

headstone at the cemetery...goes on and on. So, today, at the photographer's I

knew I had made the right decision in ordering the photo of my son and I. I'm

thankful you were also a part of yet another Godincidence today in mentioning

that my Dad is watching over me. If you had only knew. :-) Wishing you warm

and wonderful Holidays, too!! Biggest of hugs to you!! Sandie

----- Mum had a fall

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> > Hi everyone,

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> > On Wednesday Mum had a fall at the NH. I got the call and met her at the ER

to find her very distressed. She had cut her head open and required stitches and

they were going to X ray her hips and do a Ct on her head. The more we waited

the more she became stressed. They took her for the X ray and told me that there

was nothing wrong, we were then to wait our turn for the CT but she was so

stressed by this time I told them to forget about it and just stitch her head.

Five stitches later I put her in the car and drove her back to the NH. She was

exhausted. The next day I received another call to say the we're sending her

back to have another X Ray done on her hips as she couldn't weight bare on her

leg. So off I go again to find her stressed and a back log in the ER. Eventually

we are sent for a Ct scan and they found that her hip is fractured. I then made

the biggest decision in my life and chose not to consent to the hip operation to

be told by the Dr "

> > You realize she will probably get pneumonia and die " to which I replied

" yes. " . Deep in my heart I know it is the right decision but now reality is

setting in and I know the end is getting nearer. Mum is now in a fallout chair

during the day and is very stressed about not being able to come home to my

place on Saturdays and Christmas day. We had to fight with the NH to get Mum the

chair as they don't have enough. " Boy you have to hat good old Lewy!!! "

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> > Cheers

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> > Cheryl daughter of Jean(80)

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[Guest guest]

Hi Judy- I have also heard that lady bugs are a sign of good luck. So, I

guess a double meaning for me. :-)) Oh, and my husband calls them lady birds,

sounds a bit royal. Thank you for sharing the story of having a photo taken

with you and your daughter. One of those moments we can never get back so such

a bonus to have a photo to have forever. Amazing how life changes with your

daughter being a mom now. Makes the time in the photo even more special, I

think. Also, I appreciate you sharing that you feel your dad with you. It is

comforting and strengthening knowing our loved ones are with us. I'm so glad

you feel your dad's presence. My mom passed away almost 29 years ago, I was

19. I can feel her with me, I have even heard her voice. My husband, who

never met my mom, will say... " your mom is here " . I also understand the uneasy

feeling you have with your mom. I remember feeling a sense of hurry up to wait.

I think it's an awkward mourning process. I feel like we mourn our loved one,

as we knew them, yet are still able to look them in the eyes. It's not typical

mourning as we know it. Then when our loved one passes we go through the

mourning process all over again. One of the songs I had played at my dad's

funeral was by Kauffman, titled " Turn Around Slowly " . This is part of

the chorus: Turn around slowly,time is a racer,the wink of an eye takes you

from here to there.Turn around slowly,and treasure your days here,these precious

moments may come to be rare. Sending many hugs!! Sandie

Des Moines, IA

dad, Merle, passed from LBD, 9-20-02, age 65

----- Mum had a fall

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> > > Hi everyone,

> > >

> > > On Wednesday Mum had a fall at the NH. I got the call and met her at the

ER to find her very distressed. She had cut her head open and required stitches

and they were going to X ray her hips and do a Ct on her head. The more we

waited the more she became stressed. They took her for the X ray and told me

that there was nothing wrong, we were then to wait our turn for the CT but she

was so stressed by this time I told them to forget about it and just stitch her

head. Five stitches later I put her in the car and drove her back to the NH. She

was exhausted. The next day I received another call to say the we're sending her

back to have another X Ray done on her hips as she couldn't weight bare on her

leg. So off I go again to find her stressed and a back log in the ER. Eventually

we are sent for a Ct scan and they found that her hip is fractured. I then made

the biggest decision in my life and chose not to consent to the hip operation to

be told by the Dr "

> > > You realize she will probably get pneumonia and die " to which I replied

" yes. " . Deep in my heart I know it is the right decision but now reality is

setting in and I know the end is getting nearer. Mum is now in a fallout chair

during the day and is very stressed about not being able to come home to my

place on Saturdays and Christmas day. We had to fight with the NH to get Mum the

chair as they don't have enough. " Boy you have to hat good old Lewy!!! "

> > >

> > > Cheers

> > >

> > > Cheryl daughter of Jean(80)

> > >

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