Re: My mother in law is at peace

[Guest guest]

Condolences to you and yours.   It was so good that it was peaceful.  And

good her family got to be with her.

Donna R

My mother in law is at peace

 

passed very peacefully tonight about 10:30pm. Her daughter and son in

law managed to get a flight and drive up here and had almost 5 hour sitting with

her this afternoon. She was in a coma, strong rhythmic breathing with the

rattles despite atropine but we got past that being unsettling. I am certain she

knew they were here. My husband, one of her caregivers, assorted dogs were all

sitting with her; flameless candles lighting the room softly, many beautiful

Christmas lights and Christmas carols CDs playing softly. When Jewels Christmas

cd played it sounded like angels and mom relaxed even more. I was getting my

infusion most of the evening and just as it was finished she passed.

It was quick, it was peaceful and beautiful and we are so grateful for the help

received here and from her caregivers and from hospice etc.

- Dorothy

from cell phone

[Guest guest]

Dear Dorothy,

Sending my deepest condolences to you and your family on your MIL's passing.

I'm so glad to read that her daughter and SIL were able to be there with her.

Wishing you much strength as you move through this next stage.

Sending many hugs from NY,

Helene

>

> passed very peacefully tonight about 10:30pm. Her daughter and son

in law managed to get a flight and drive up here and had almost 5 hour sitting

with her this afternoon. She was in a coma, strong rhythmic breathing with the

rattles despite atropine but we got past that being unsettling. I am certain

she knew they were here. My husband, one of her caregivers, assorted dogs were

all sitting with her; flameless candles lighting the room softly, many

beautiful Christmas lights and Christmas carols CDs playing softly. When Jewels

Christmas cd played it sounded like angels and mom relaxed even more. I was

getting my infusion most of the evening and just as it was finished she passed.

>

> It was quick, it was peaceful and beautiful and we are so grateful for the

help received here and from her caregivers and from hospice etc.

>

> - Dorothy

> from cell phone

>

[Guest guest]

I'm so sorry Freda

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To: LBDcaregivers

Sent: Tuesday, December 27, 2011 5:01 AM

Subject: My mother in law is at peace

 

passed very peacefully tonight about 10:30pm. Her daughter and son

in law managed to get a flight and drive up here and had almost 5 hour sitting

with her this afternoon. She was in a coma, strong rhythmic breathing with the

rattles despite atropine but we got past that being unsettling. I am certain

she knew they were here. My husband, one of her caregivers, assorted dogs were

all sitting with her; flameless candles lighting the room softly, many

beautiful Christmas lights and Christmas carols CDs playing softly. When Jewels

Christmas cd played it sounded like angels and mom relaxed even more. I was

getting my infusion most of the evening and just as it was finished she passed.

It was quick, it was peaceful and beautiful and we are so grateful for the help

received here and from her caregivers and from hospice etc.

- Dorothy

from cell phone

[Guest guest]

Dorothy,

My condolences to you and your husband. What a peaceful way to go with her

family, her doggies, beautiful lights and music too. Sending you all strength.

Courage

From: dsinouye

Sent: Tuesday, December 27, 2011 5:01 AM

To: LBDcaregivers

Subject: My mother in law is at peace

passed very peacefully tonight about 10:30pm. Her daughter and son in

law managed to get a flight and drive up here and had almost 5 hour sitting with

her this afternoon. She was in a coma, strong rhythmic breathing with the

rattles despite atropine but we got past that being unsettling. I am certain she

knew they were here. My husband, one of her caregivers, assorted dogs were all

sitting with her; flameless candles lighting the room softly, many beautiful

Christmas lights and Christmas carols CDs playing softly. When Jewels Christmas

cd played it sounded like angels and mom relaxed even more. I was getting my

infusion most of the evening and just as it was finished she passed.

It was quick, it was peaceful and beautiful and we are so grateful for the help

received here and from her caregivers and from hospice etc.

- Dorothy

from cell phone

[Guest guest]

Dorothy: Just lost my husband also on December 22--died peacefully in his

sleep. My thoughts are with you during this time. I have found that my

feelings are mixed with 50% relief that he is no longer suffering and, of

course, the grief of missing the man that he was. God bless you all during this

time.

Cassie

To: LBDcaregivers

From: gaat@...

Date: Tue, 27 Dec 2011 10:45:39 -0500

Subject: Re: My mother in law is at peace

Dorothy,

My condolences to you and your husband. What a peaceful way to go with her

family, her doggies, beautiful lights and music too. Sending you all strength.

Courage

From: dsinouye

Sent: Tuesday, December 27, 2011 5:01 AM

To: LBDcaregivers

Subject: My mother in law is at peace

passed very peacefully tonight about 10:30pm. Her daughter and son in

law managed to get a flight and drive up here and had almost 5 hour sitting with

her this afternoon. She was in a coma, strong rhythmic breathing with the

rattles despite atropine but we got past that being unsettling. I am certain she

knew they were here. My husband, one of her caregivers, assorted dogs were all

sitting with her; flameless candles lighting the room softly, many beautiful

Christmas lights and Christmas carols CDs playing softly. When Jewels Christmas

cd played it sounded like angels and mom relaxed even more. I was getting my

infusion most of the evening and just as it was finished she passed.

It was quick, it was peaceful and beautiful and we are so grateful for the help

received here and from her caregivers and from hospice etc.

- Dorothy

from cell phone

[Guest guest]

Dorothy I send my condolences and am so relieved to read how peaceful your

mother in law's passing was, including time with her daughter and son in law.

You must be exhausted after the agitation she experienced for so long. I hope

you can sleep deeply and recover now. That may take some time to come back but

I so hope it does for you. You have been an extremely loving and devoted

daughter in law. was blessed to have you and your husband caring for

her so well.

>

> passed very peacefully tonight about 10:30pm. Her daughter and son

in law managed to get a flight and drive up here and had almost 5 hour sitting

with her this afternoon. She was in a coma, strong rhythmic breathing with the

rattles despite atropine but we got past that being unsettling. I am certain

she knew they were here. My husband, one of her caregivers, assorted dogs were

all sitting with her; flameless candles lighting the room softly, many

beautiful Christmas lights and Christmas carols CDs playing softly. When Jewels

Christmas cd played it sounded like angels and mom relaxed even more. I was

getting my infusion most of the evening and just as it was finished she passed.

>

> It was quick, it was peaceful and beautiful and we are so grateful for the

help received here and from her caregivers and from hospice etc.

>

> - Dorothy

> from cell phone

>

[Guest guest]

We are glad you found us for this difficult journey you folks faced. May

all of you be grateful for the time she had here with you and also for the

end of the Lewy Body roller coaster for her and for you. Time will change

the way you remember her. The pain and torture of this disease will fade

and pleasant memories of her prior life will be restored to all of you. God

Bless you all in the days ahead. Leona

Leona: Caregiver for husband Ray, age 68, diagnosed 2/04 with Parkinson's

Disease. Changed doctors, diagnosed 6/06 with LBD. Almost continual downhill

slide no matter what drugs we try. 5/2/08 Ray was placed in Sunrise Nursing

Home in Oswego, NY, 1 hour from home. So far, so good! Hardest thing I have

ever done in my life, however. 3/19/09 transferred to Samaritan Keep NH in

Watertown, NY closer to home. He passed peacefully at 5:18 am on April 14,

2009. I am handling it OK.

'Love is not finding someone to live with; it's finding someone you don't

want to live without.'

[Guest guest]

I extend to you my sympathy on the passing of your MIL. I remember your writing

about all the stages of her illness. You were a wonderful daughter-in-law. She

is at peace now with all who have gone before. Nan

>

> passed very peacefully tonight about 10:30pm. Her daughter and son

in law managed to get a flight and drive up here and had almost 5 hour sitting

with her this afternoon. She was in a coma, strong rhythmic breathing with the

rattles despite atropine but we got past that being unsettling. I am certain

she knew they were here. My husband, one of her caregivers, assorted dogs were

all sitting with her; flameless candles lighting the room softly, many

beautiful Christmas lights and Christmas carols CDs playing softly. When Jewels

Christmas cd played it sounded like angels and mom relaxed even more. I was

getting my infusion most of the evening and just as it was finished she passed.

>

> It was quick, it was peaceful and beautiful and we are so grateful for the

help received here and from her caregivers and from hospice etc.

>

> - Dorothy

> from cell phone

>

[Guest guest]

Dorothy, my condolences to you and your family during this difficult time. It's

a blessing your mil passed peacefully and quickly.

Peace be with you and your family.

Jan Colello

________________________________

To: LBDcaregivers

Sent: Tuesday, December 27, 2011 2:01 AM

Subject: My mother in law is at peace

passed very peacefully tonight about 10:30pm.  Her daughter and son in

law managed to get a flight and drive up here and had almost 5 hour sitting with

her this afternoon.  She was in a coma, strong rhythmic breathing with the

rattles despite atropine but we got past that being unsettling.  I am certain

she knew they were here.  My husband, one of her caregivers, assorted dogs were

all sitting with her; flameless candles lighting the room softly,  many

beautiful Christmas lights and Christmas carols CDs playing softly.  When Jewels

Christmas cd played it sounded like angels and mom relaxed even more.  I was

getting my infusion most of the evening and just as it was finished she passed. 

It was quick, it was peaceful and beautiful and we are so grateful for the help

received here and from her caregivers and from hospice etc.

- Dorothy

from cell phone

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Welcome to LBDcaregivers. 

[Guest guest]

Thank you Donna. That it was so peaceful was a blessing to us all after the

suffering she had with lewy. I figure that is as good as an end can possible be

with this disease.

- Dorothy

from cell phone

>

>

> Condolences to you and yours. It was so good that it was peaceful. And good

her family got to be with her.

>

> Donna R

>

> My mother in law is at peace

>

>

>

> passed very peacefully tonight about 10:30pm. Her daughter and son

in law managed to get a flight and drive up here and had almost 5 hour sitting

with her this afternoon. She was in a coma, strong rhythmic breathing with the

rattles despite atropine but we got past that being unsettling. I am certain she

knew they were here. My husband, one of her caregivers, assorted dogs were all

sitting with her; flameless candles lighting the room softly, many beautiful

Christmas lights and Christmas carols CDs playing softly. When Jewels Christmas

cd played it sounded like angels and mom relaxed even more. I was getting my

infusion most of the evening and just as it was finished she passed.

>

> It was quick, it was peaceful and beautiful and we are so grateful for the

help received here and from her caregivers and from hospice etc.

>

> - Dorothy

> from cell phone

>

>

[Guest guest]

Thank you Judy. There is a lot to be said for doing I one's best in caregiving

and after we all did exactly this and made the best of a horrible thing we all

of us feel fairly well do far and even relieved. We miss her yes but we do not

miss her suffering.

- Dorothy

from cell phone

> Dear Dorothy,

>

> Sincere condolences on the passing of your mother in law, You have been a

steady essence on this forum since I have been here ( sincerest 2009. And you

worked so hard to keep her safe and comfortable often gong beyond the call of

duty for a daughter in law.

>

> It's good to hear that such a tough journey ended in a peaceful death for mil.

> My hope is that the you and the rest of the family will be comforted knowing

she has passed onto

> a better place.

>

> God bless you all,

>

> Judy R Strauss, LMSW, PhD

> Area Chair | College of Social Sciences

>

> University of Phoenix

> Jersey City Campus | 100 Town Square Place | Suite 305

> Jersey City, NJ 07310

> Cell:

> Email: Jrstr@...

>

>

>

>

> > passed very peacefully tonight about 10:30pm. Her daughter and son

in law managed to get a flight and drive up here and had almost 5 hour sitting

with her this afternoon. She was in a coma, strong rhythmic breathing with the

rattles despite atropine but we got past that being unsettling. I am certain she

knew they were here. My husband, one of her caregivers, assorted dogs were all

sitting with her; flameless candles lighting the room softly, many beautiful

Christmas lights and Christmas carols CDs playing softly. When Jewels Christmas

cd played it sounded like angels and mom relaxed even more. I was getting my

infusion most of the evening and just as it was finished she passed.

> >

> > It was quick, it was peaceful and beautiful and we are so grateful for the

help received here and from her caregivers and from hospice etc.

> >

> > - Dorothy

> > from cell phone

> >

> >

>

>

[Guest guest]

Thank you Helene,

It really worked out the best it could. When we get through the funeral etc we

will be able to really set our sights on healing us after this ordeal and we

have a lot of that to do.

- Dorothy

from cell phone

>

> Dear Dorothy,

> Sending my deepest condolences to you and your family on your MIL's passing.

>

> I'm so glad to read that her daughter and SIL were able to be there with her.

>

> Wishing you much strength as you move through this next stage.

>

> Sending many hugs from NY,

> Helene

>

>

> >

> > passed very peacefully tonight about 10:30pm. Her daughter and son

in law managed to get a flight and drive up here and had almost 5 hour sitting

with her this afternoon. She was in a coma, strong rhythmic breathing with the

rattles despite atropine but we got past that being unsettling. I am certain she

knew they were here. My husband, one of her caregivers, assorted dogs were all

sitting with her; flameless candles lighting the room softly, many beautiful

Christmas lights and Christmas carols CDs playing softly. When Jewels Christmas

cd played it sounded like angels and mom relaxed even more. I was getting my

infusion most of the evening and just as it was finished she passed.

> >

> > It was quick, it was peaceful and beautiful and we are so grateful for the

help received here and from her caregivers and from hospice etc.

> >

> > - Dorothy

> > from cell phone

> >

>

>

[Guest guest]

Thank you Courage and thank you for the encouragement you have offered us

through this trip in lewy land!

- Dorothy

from cell phone

> Dorothy,

>

> My condolences to you and your husband. What a peaceful way to go with her

family, her doggies, beautiful lights and music too. Sending you all strength.

> Courage

> From: dsinouye

> Sent: Tuesday, December 27, 2011 5:01 AM

> To: LBDcaregivers

> Subject: My mother in law is at peace

>

> passed very peacefully tonight about 10:30pm. Her daughter and son

in law managed to get a flight and drive up here and had almost 5 hour sitting

with her this afternoon. She was in a coma, strong rhythmic breathing with the

rattles despite atropine but we got past that being unsettling. I am certain she

knew they were here. My husband, one of her caregivers, assorted dogs were all

sitting with her; flameless candles lighting the room softly, many beautiful

Christmas lights and Christmas carols CDs playing softly. When Jewels Christmas

cd played it sounded like angels and mom relaxed even more. I was getting my

infusion most of the evening and just as it was finished she passed.

>

> It was quick, it was peaceful and beautiful and we are so grateful for the

help received here and from her caregivers and from hospice etc.

>

> - Dorothy

> from cell phone

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Cassie

I send my condolences on the loss of your husband. I think losing a spouse is

much more difficult than losing a parent. We are glad my mil is not suffering

any more and she really did suffer. We did our absolute best to keep her as

healthy and happy as possible and even to the end she smiled. It took a huge

toll on my husband and I financially, emotionally and physically. When caring

for someone with this disease you ride the lewy roller coaster along with the

loved one and it's tough on everyone.

Wishing you much peace and healing,

- Dorothy

from cell phone

> Dorothy: Just lost my husband also on December 22--died peacefully in his

sleep. My thoughts are with you during this time. I have found that my

feelings are mixed with 50% relief that he is no longer suffering and, of

course, the grief of missing the man that he was. God bless you all during this

time.

>

> Cassie

>

> To: LBDcaregivers

> From: gaat@...

> Date: Tue, 27 Dec 2011 10:45:39 -0500

> Subject: Re: My mother in law is at peace

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> My condolences to you and your husband. What a peaceful way to go with her

family, her doggies, beautiful lights and music too. Sending you all strength.

>

> Courage

>

> From: dsinouye

>

> Sent: Tuesday, December 27, 2011 5:01 AM

>

> To: LBDcaregivers

>

> Subject: My mother in law is at peace

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>

> passed very peacefully tonight about 10:30pm. Her daughter and son

in law managed to get a flight and drive up here and had almost 5 hour sitting

with her this afternoon. She was in a coma, strong rhythmic breathing with the

rattles despite atropine but we got past that being unsettling. I am certain she

knew they were here. My husband, one of her caregivers, assorted dogs were all

sitting with her; flameless candles lighting the room softly, many beautiful

Christmas lights and Christmas carols CDs playing softly. When Jewels Christmas

cd played it sounded like angels and mom relaxed even more. I was getting my

infusion most of the evening and just as it was finished she passed.

>

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> It was quick, it was peaceful and beautiful and we are so grateful for the

help received here and from her caregivers and from hospice etc.

>

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> - Dorothy

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> from cell phone

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[Guest guest]

Thank you Freda. I'm glad to see you got your mom home and she's doing better.

I hope you can make the best of her being lucid while she can.

- Dorothy

from cell phone

> I'm so sorry Freda

>

> ________________________________

>

> To: LBDcaregivers

> Sent: Tuesday, December 27, 2011 5:01 AM

> Subject: My mother in law is at peace

>

>

>

> passed very peacefully tonight about 10:30pm. Her daughter and son

in law managed to get a flight and drive up here and had almost 5 hour sitting

with her this afternoon. She was in a coma, strong rhythmic breathing with the

rattles despite atropine but we got past that being unsettling. I am certain she

knew they were here. My husband, one of her caregivers, assorted dogs were all

sitting with her; flameless candles lighting the room softly, many beautiful

Christmas lights and Christmas carols CDs playing softly. When Jewels Christmas

cd played it sounded like angels and mom relaxed even more. I was getting my

infusion most of the evening and just as it was finished she passed.

>

> It was quick, it was peaceful and beautiful and we are so grateful for the

help received here and from her caregivers and from hospice etc.

>

> - Dorothy

> from cell phone

>

>

[Guest guest]

,

Thank you so much for your kind words. I am still getting used to the quiet and

sleep is still a challenge with dreams from being so stressed I think - but it

is getting better each day

- Dorothy

from cell phone

> Dorothy I send my condolences and am so relieved to read how peaceful your

mother in law's passing was, including time with her daughter and son in law.

You must be exhausted after the agitation she experienced for so long. I hope

you can sleep deeply and recover now. That may take some time to come back but I

so hope it does for you. You have been an extremely loving and devoted daughter

in law. was blessed to have you and your husband caring for her so

well.

>

>

>

> >

> > passed very peacefully tonight about 10:30pm. Her daughter and son

in law managed to get a flight and drive up here and had almost 5 hour sitting

with her this afternoon. She was in a coma, strong rhythmic breathing with the

rattles despite atropine but we got past that being unsettling. I am certain she

knew they were here. My husband, one of her caregivers, assorted dogs were all

sitting with her; flameless candles lighting the room softly, many beautiful

Christmas lights and Christmas carols CDs playing softly. When Jewels Christmas

cd played it sounded like angels and mom relaxed even more. I was getting my

infusion most of the evening and just as it was finished she passed.

> >

> > It was quick, it was peaceful and beautiful and we are so grateful for the

help received here and from her caregivers and from hospice etc.

> >

> > - Dorothy

> > from cell phone

> >

>

>

[Guest guest]

Thank you Nan,

Appreciate your thoughts very much!

- Dorothy

from cell phone

> I extend to you my sympathy on the passing of your MIL. I remember your

writing about all the stages of her illness. You were a wonderful

daughter-in-law. She is at peace now with all who have gone before. Nan

>

>

> >

> > passed very peacefully tonight about 10:30pm. Her daughter and son

in law managed to get a flight and drive up here and had almost 5 hour sitting

with her this afternoon. She was in a coma, strong rhythmic breathing with the

rattles despite atropine but we got past that being unsettling. I am certain she

knew they were here. My husband, one of her caregivers, assorted dogs were all

sitting with her; flameless candles lighting the room softly, many beautiful

Christmas lights and Christmas carols CDs playing softly. When Jewels Christmas

cd played it sounded like angels and mom relaxed even more. I was getting my

infusion most of the evening and just as it was finished she passed.

> >

> > It was quick, it was peaceful and beautiful and we are so grateful for the

help received here and from her caregivers and from hospice etc.

> >

> > - Dorothy

> > from cell phone

> >

>

>

[Guest guest]

Thank you Jan!

- Dorothy

from cell phone

> Dorothy, my condolences to you and your family during this difficult time.

It's a blessing your mil passed peacefully and quickly.

> Peace be with you and your family.

> Jan Colello

>

> ________________________________

>

> To: LBDcaregivers

> Sent: Tuesday, December 27, 2011 2:01 AM

> Subject: My mother in law is at peace

>

> passed very peacefully tonight about 10:30pm. Her daughter and son

in law managed to get a flight and drive up here and had almost 5 hour sitting

with her this afternoon. She was in a coma, strong rhythmic breathing with the

rattles despite atropine but we got past that being unsettling. I am certain

she knew they were here. My husband, one of her caregivers, assorted dogs were

all sitting with her; flameless candles lighting the room softly, many

beautiful Christmas lights and Christmas carols CDs playing softly. When Jewels

Christmas cd played it sounded like angels and mom relaxed even more. I was

getting my infusion most of the evening and just as it was finished she passed.

>

> It was quick, it was peaceful and beautiful and we are so grateful for the

help received here and from her caregivers and from hospice etc.

>

> - Dorothy

> from cell phone

>

> ------------------------------------

>

> Welcome to LBDcaregivers.

>

>

[Guest guest]

I would be interested to read your article and hope it is published.

I have been surprised by the strange residuals I'm finding. Yesterday I had a

nap and had some disturbing dreams. Finally last night I slept well and going

to try the same in a few minutes.

Sorry for the silly typos - my computer is down and all I have for now is this

smart phone which auto corrects what it sees fit and I don't always catch it.

- Dorothy

from cell phone

> Dorothy,

>

> Thanks for the personal email- I submitted an article for publication most

recently comparing caregivers for parents and caregiving for in-laws. I looked

at caregiver burden.

>

> Amongst the research and the results was people who care for in-laws have

stronger and more solid marriages. It makes sense....

>

> I pray you and your husband can enjoy many healthy years together. He is lucky

to have you as a wife.

>

> Happy new year!

>

> Judy

>

> Judy R Strauss, LMSW, PhD

> Area Chair | College of Social Sciences

>

> University of Phoenix

> Jersey City Campus | 100 Town Square Place | Suite 305

> Jersey City, NJ 07310

> Cell:

> Email: Jrstr@...

>

>

>

>

> > Thank you Judy. There is a lot to be said for doing I one's best in

caregiving and after we all did exactly this and made the best of a horrible

thing we all of us feel fairly well do far and even relieved. We miss her yes

but we do not miss her suffering.

> >

> > - Dorothy

> > from cell phone

> >

> >

> >

> > > Dear Dorothy,

> > >

> > > Sincere condolences on the passing of your mother in law, You have been a

steady essence on this forum since I have been here ( sincerest 2009. And you

worked so hard to keep her safe and comfortable often gong beyond the call of

duty for a daughter in law.

> > >

> > > It's good to hear that such a tough journey ended in a peaceful death for

mil.

> > > My hope is that the you and the rest of the family will be comforted

knowing she has passed onto

> > > a better place.

> > >

> > > God bless you all,

> > >

> > > Judy R Strauss, LMSW, PhD

> > > Area Chair | College of Social Sciences

> > >

> > > University of Phoenix

> > > Jersey City Campus | 100 Town Square Place | Suite 305

> > > Jersey City, NJ 07310

> > > Cell:

> > > Email: Jrstr@...

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > > > passed very peacefully tonight about 10:30pm. Her daughter and

son in law managed to get a flight and drive up here and had almost 5 hour

sitting with her this afternoon. She was in a coma, strong rhythmic breathing

with the rattles despite atropine but we got past that being unsettling. I am

certain she knew they were here. My husband, one of her caregivers, assorted

dogs were all sitting with her; flameless candles lighting the room softly, many

beautiful Christmas lights and Christmas carols CDs playing softly. When Jewels

Christmas cd played it sounded like angels and mom relaxed even more. I was

getting my infusion most of the evening and just as it was finished she passed.

> > > >

> > > > It was quick, it was peaceful and beautiful and we are so grateful for

the help received here and from her caregivers and from hospice etc.

> > > >

> > > > - Dorothy

> > > > from cell phone

> > > >

> > > >

> > >

> > >

[Guest guest]

Dorothy,

If I didn't say so before, my condolences on your mother-in-law's passing.

I think we all hope to close our lives, and especially those of our loved

ones, so well.

Judy,

When the article is published, would you let all of us know where to view

it? I have noticed that there are some significant differences and, in

circumstances like mine (Mom and I lived together for about 25 years before

caregiving became an issue), some similarities to both relationships.

There is a great deal of research in caregiving taking place here at the

University of Minnesota, too. Are you familiar with Joe Gaugler, PhD?

He's with the School of Public Health in our Academic Health Center. He

conducts regular, free, conferences (1-day) for caregivers, both family and

professional. (Small fee for CEUs.) We have wonderful exchanges taking

place at those events. I am also taking part in a study by Mark Reese,

under Dr. Gaugler, investigating the benefit of specific counseling for

caregivers. There is definitely a benefit!

The more we know about the caregiving relationship and how we all cope, the

better we are able to handle our own situations.

Thanks, Judy, for the work you do.

Kathy

> **

>

>

> I would be interested to read your article and hope it is published.

> I have been surprised by the strange residuals I'm finding. Yesterday I

> had a nap and had some disturbing dreams. Finally last night I slept well

> and going to try the same in a few minutes.

> Sorry for the silly typos - my computer is down and all I have for now is

> this smart phone which auto corrects what it sees fit and I don't always

> catch it.

>

> - Dorothy

> from cell phone

>

>

>

> > Dorothy,

> >

> > Thanks for the personal email- I submitted an article for publication

> most recently comparing caregivers for parents and caregiving for in-laws.

> I looked at caregiver burden.

> >

> > Amongst the research and the results was people who care for in-laws

> have stronger and more solid marriages. It makes sense....

> >

> > I pray you and your husband can enjoy many healthy years together. He is

> lucky to have you as a wife.

> >

> > Happy new year!

> >

> > Judy

> >

> > Judy R Strauss, LMSW, PhD

> > Area Chair | College of Social Sciences

> >

> > University of Phoenix

> > Jersey City Campus | 100 Town Square Place | Suite 305

> > Jersey City, NJ 07310

> > Cell:

> > Email: Jrstr@...

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > > Thank you Judy. There is a lot to be said for doing I one's best in

> caregiving and after we all did exactly this and made the best of a

> horrible thing we all of us feel fairly well do far and even relieved. We

> miss her yes but we do not miss her suffering.

> > >

> > > - Dorothy

> > > from cell phone

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > > > Dear Dorothy,

> > > >

> > > > Sincere condolences on the passing of your mother in law, You have

> been a steady essence on this forum since I have been here ( sincerest

> 2009. And you worked so hard to keep her safe and comfortable often gong

> beyond the call of duty for a daughter in law.

> > > >

> > > > It's good to hear that such a tough journey ended in a peaceful

> death for mil.

> > > > My hope is that the you and the rest of the family will be comforted

> knowing she has passed onto

> > > > a better place.

> > > >

> > > > God bless you all,

> > > >

> > > > Judy R Strauss, LMSW, PhD

> > > > Area Chair | College of Social Sciences

> > > >

> > > > University of Phoenix

> > > > Jersey City Campus | 100 Town Square Place | Suite 305

> > > > Jersey City, NJ 07310

> > > > Cell:

> > > > Email: Jrstr@...

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > > > passed very peacefully tonight about 10:30pm. Her

> daughter and son in law managed to get a flight and drive up here and had

> almost 5 hour sitting with her this afternoon. She was in a coma, strong

> rhythmic breathing with the rattles despite atropine but we got past that

> being unsettling. I am certain she knew they were here. My husband, one of

> her caregivers, assorted dogs were all sitting with her; flameless candles

> lighting the room softly, many beautiful Christmas lights and Christmas

> carols CDs playing softly. When Jewels Christmas cd played it sounded like

> angels and mom relaxed even more. I was getting my infusion most of the

> evening and just as it was finished she passed.

> > > > >

> > > > > It was quick, it was peaceful and beautiful and we are so grateful

> for the help received here and from her caregivers and from hospice etc.

> > > > >

> > > > > - Dorothy

> > > > > from cell phone

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > >

> > > >

[Guest guest]

Dorothy,

I want to second what Judy said about counseling. It makes a world of

difference. Will it take the dreams away? Not really. But it does help

one get through the day.

Kathy

> **

>

>

> Hi Dorothy,

>

> I will send you the article, although it's highlyj statistical later from

> my office.

> As far as the residual feelings after the passing of mil, I believe these

> are normal and especially unveiled when sleeping.... In the form of dreams .

>

> After all, the experience of caring for one with lewy is traumatic - while

> you are in the thick of it we are vigilant and in tune with our Los

> fight,sometimes minute to minute with little time to take it all in, much

> like soldiers in battle.

>

> When our loved ones finally go and the time spent fighting is now void

> there will be many new feelings that surface that were pushed down

> previously for the sake of survival.

>

> Looking at it that way think of this as post traumatic stress disorder. My

> inclination is for you to seek as much personal counsel and support now as

> you can afford yourself.....it's good you were able To recall the dreams

> and bring them to your consciousness - dealing with the mixed emotion now

> will help with the grief process which will vary from person to person.

>

> I'm thinking of you and sending you strength and Courage as you move into

> this next journey and into final healing.,,,,,

>

> Best,

>

>

> Judy

>

> Judy R Strauss, LMSW, PhD

> Area Chair | College of Social Sciences

>

> University of Phoenix

> Jersey City Campus | 100 Town Square Place | Suite 305

> Jersey City, NJ 07310

> Cell:

> Email: Jrstr@...

>

>

>

>

> > I would be interested to read your article and hope it is published.

> > I have been surprised by the strange residuals I'm finding. Yesterday I

> had a nap and had some disturbing dreams. Finally last night I slept well

> and going to try the same in a few minutes.

> > Sorry for the silly typos - my computer is down and all I have for now

> is this smart phone which auto corrects what it sees fit and I don't always

> catch it.

> >

> > - Dorothy

> > from cell phone

> >

> >

> >

> > > Dorothy,

> > >

> > > Thanks for the personal email- I submitted an article for publication

> most recently comparing caregivers for parents and caregiving for in-laws.

> I looked at caregiver burden.

> > >

> > > Amongst the research and the results was people who care for in-laws

> have stronger and more solid marriages. It makes sense....

> > >

> > > I pray you and your husband can enjoy many healthy years together. He

> is lucky to have you as a wife.

> > >

> > > Happy new year!

> > >

> > > Judy

> > >

> > > Judy R Strauss, LMSW, PhD

> > > Area Chair | College of Social Sciences

> > >

> > > University of Phoenix

> > > Jersey City Campus | 100 Town Square Place | Suite 305

> > > Jersey City, NJ 07310

> > > Cell:

> > > Email: Jrstr@...

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > > > Thank you Judy. There is a lot to be said for doing I one's best in

> caregiving and after we all did exactly this and made the best of a

> horrible thing we all of us feel fairly well do far and even relieved. We

> miss her yes but we do not miss her suffering.

> > > >

> > > > - Dorothy

> > > > from cell phone

> > > >

> > > > On Dec 27, 2011, at 3:33 AM, Judy Strauss

> wrote:

> > > >

> > > > > Dear Dorothy,

> > > > >

> > > > > Sincere condolences on the passing of your mother in law, You have

> been a steady essence on this forum since I have been here ( sincerest

> 2009. And you worked so hard to keep her safe and comfortable often gong

> beyond the call of duty for a daughter in law.

> > > > >

> > > > > It's good to hear that such a tough journey ended in a peaceful

> death for mil.

> > > > > My hope is that the you and the rest of the family will be

> comforted knowing she has passed onto

> > > > > a better place.

> > > > >

> > > > > God bless you all,

> > > > >

> > > > > Judy R Strauss, LMSW, PhD

> > > > > Area Chair | College of Social Sciences

> > > > >

> > > > > University of Phoenix

> > > > > Jersey City Campus | 100 Town Square Place | Suite 305

> > > > > Jersey City, NJ 07310

> > > > > Cell:

> > > > > Email: Jrstr@...

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > > On Dec 27, 2011, at 5:01 AM, dsinouye

> wrote:

> > > > >

> > > > > > passed very peacefully tonight about 10:30pm. Her

> daughter and son in law managed to get a flight and drive up here and had

> almost 5 hour sitting with her this afternoon. She was in a coma, strong

> rhythmic breathing with the rattles despite atropine but we got past that

> being unsettling. I am certain she knew they were here. My husband, one of

> her caregivers, assorted dogs were all sitting with her; flameless candles

> lighting the room softly, many beautiful Christmas lights and Christmas

> carols CDs playing softly. When Jewels Christmas cd played it sounded like

> angels and mom relaxed even more. I was getting my infusion most of the

> evening and just as it was finished she passed.

> > > > > >

> > > > > > It was quick, it was peaceful and beautiful and we are so

> grateful for the help received here and from her caregivers and from

> hospice etc.

> > > > > >

> > > > > > - Dorothy

> > > > > > from cell phone

> > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >