Guest guest Posted January 2, 2002 Report Share Posted January 2, 2002 In a message dated 1/2/02 8:19:07 AM Pacific Standard Time, writes: > I have found that when you tell these people (who ask how the day is) who > don't really care in the first place exactly how the day is going, they > NEVER ask again! And it is fun watching them squirm knowing that they have > opened a can of worms! I always tell people that if you don't want to ask > me how my day is going, don't ask! > > this is especially funny TODAY. If you read what happened to my husband, you can see I would just love for someone to ask me. Maybe I should go to the store, huh? Normally I just tell them one lousy thing, and you can see they never heard it anyway. You do know that this is NT polite conversation, right? LOL Maybe we are all so used to our way of life, we don't even realize what real conversation is, and like adult AS folk, they see no point in this frivolous talk. So what do we really do? Barb Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 2, 2002 Report Share Posted January 2, 2002 > > Yes, I am that lonely. > I just think of it as friendly. Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 2, 2002 Report Share Posted January 2, 2002 > You'd think that with the volume and variety of people that pass > through a grocery checkout stand that checkers would not use phrases > like, " So, what are you up to? " , or " How's things with you? " If you > really don't want to know don't ask. > Have to agree with you here. And " How's things with you? " is just really not the professional or businesslike way to ask how you are. I also think that if one more checker at a store touches my children with their nasty, God-only-knows-where-they've-been hands I will flip out right then & there. That really ****** me off. I wouldn't touch them, so why are they touching my children? Tracey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2002 Report Share Posted January 3, 2002 > Have to agree with you here. And " How's things with you? " is just > really not the professional or businesslike way to ask how you are. I > also think that if one more checker at a store touches my children > with their nasty, God-only-knows-where-they've-been hands I will flip > out right then & there. That really ****** me off. I wouldn't touch > them, so why are they touching my children? I read about one mom who would grab the person's hand, " hand " it back to them, and say, " Here, this belongs to you. " I haven't had that problem but it sounds VERY aggravating. My current peeve is people asking me if Mikey is shy. I just never know what to say. " No, it's just that the dots on the floor tile are more interesting than you. " But I guess that's life with autism. -Sara. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2002 Report Share Posted January 3, 2002 >> " No, it's just that the dots on the floor tile are more > interesting than you. " >> Actually, that's pretty darn good... Raena Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2002 Report Share Posted January 3, 2002 In a message dated 1/3/02 1:09:52 PM Pacific Standard Time, Sara writes: > . I just never know > what to say. " No, it's just that the dots on the floor tile are more > interesting than you. " > To the woman that told me that I should not allow Aislynn to spin when we were in the post office, I said, " Hey, that's what she does for a living! " She wasn't amused, in fact she turned her back to me and told the clerk, " Some parents just don't care about disciplining their children anymore, they let them do whatever they want. " I should have pulled a on her, and screamed at her. I never thought of doing something like that until . Thanks . Barb Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2002 Report Share Posted January 3, 2002 Yeah, I hate it when people try to talk to Ebony and of course she looks right through them. I never want to go into it all, but I also don't want them to think she's just rude. Sometimes I feel like getting her a sign or button that says, " I'm not rude, I'm autistic! " But nobody would get it anyway....Oh well. As she gets older, this is happening more and more. She is still non-verbal, so doesn't respond at all. Tamara ----Original Message Follows---- .. My current peeve is people asking me if Mikey is shy. I just never know what to say. " No, it's just that the dots on the floor tile are more interesting than you. " But I guess that's life with autism. -Sara. _________________________________________________________________ MSN Photos is the easiest way to share and print your photos: http://photos.msn.com/support/worldwide.aspx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2002 Report Share Posted January 3, 2002 I have said many times that I'd love to make a sign for that says, " I'm autistic " and put it on him when we go out in public. LOL! Since looks so " normal " people don't understand why he does some of the things he does, and sometimes I explain it. Sometimes not. http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Bluffs/2654/ ~ I have all the answers, it's just that most of them aren't right.~ RE: Re: The Grocery Store Yeah, I hate it when people try to talk to Ebony and of course she looks right through them. I never want to go into it all, but I also don't want them to think she's just rude. Sometimes I feel like getting her a sign or button that says, " I'm not rude, I'm autistic! " But nobody would get it anyway....Oh well. As she gets older, this is happening more and more. She is still non-verbal, so doesn't respond at all. Tamara ----Original Message Follows---- . My current peeve is people asking me if Mikey is shy. I just never know what to say. " No, it's just that the dots on the floor tile are more interesting than you. " But I guess that's life with autism. -Sara. _________________________________________________________________ MSN Photos is the easiest way to share and print your photos: http://photos.msn.com/support/worldwide.aspx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2002 Report Share Posted January 4, 2002 > I have said many times that I'd love to make a sign for that says, " I'm autistic " and put it on him when we go out in public. LOL! Since looks so " normal " people don't understand why he does some of the things he does, and sometimes I explain it. Sometimes not. > Oh yeah, , I wanted a button for him that said the same!!!! Being the person that I am (which you will undoubtedly get to know), I tell things as they are, right-in-your-face. So I just launched it at anyone, anywhere, when given " the look " . Now it's not so necessary, but I don't know if that's because when was younger we lived in a big city and now we live in a small town where everybody knows everybody's business and they all know about , or whether it's because his public behaviour has changed. I can't tell anymore! :-P (These kids do change a lot between 4 and 5 years old. It's documented that 3yrs is the WORST time for behaviour with ASD kids. MY personal opinion about that is that 3 is when they realize that the rest of the world has a special way of comminicating with each other that they don't understand -- and they're frustrated and angry.) Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2002 Report Share Posted January 4, 2002 was a bear at 3, but didn't have the whole terrible 2's thing. He was fine at 2. I was thinking it was due to the fact that at 3, he was developmentally going through what normal 2 year olds are going through. It's good to know that between 4 and 5 things improve. http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Bluffs/2654/ I know God will not give me anything I cannot handle. I just wish he didn't trust me so much. Re: Re: The Grocery Store > I have said many times that I'd love to make a sign for that says, " I'm autistic " and put it on him when we go out in public. LOL! Since looks so " normal " people don't understand why he does some of the things he does, and sometimes I explain it. Sometimes not. > Oh yeah, , I wanted a button for him that said the same!!!! Being the person that I am (which you will undoubtedly get to know), I tell things as they are, right-in-your-face. So I just launched it at anyone, anywhere, when given " the look " . Now it's not so necessary, but I don't know if that's because when was younger we lived in a big city and now we live in a small town where everybody knows everybody's business and they all know about , or whether it's because his public behaviour has changed. I can't tell anymore! :-P (These kids do change a lot between 4 and 5 years old. It's documented that 3yrs is the WORST time for behaviour with ASD kids. MY personal opinion about that is that 3 is when they realize that the rest of the world has a special way of comminicating with each other that they don't understand -- and they're frustrated and angry.) Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2002 Report Share Posted January 5, 2002 > was a bear at 3, but didn't have the whole terrible 2's thing. He was fine at 2. I was thinking it was due to the fact that at 3, he was developmentally going through what normal 2 year olds are going through. It's good to know that between 4 and 5 things improve. Well, I rather prefer two year olds to three year olds even in the normal course of things. But I think it is because I treat two year olds as babies and expect very little of them which approach they do well with. Three year olds, now, they do NOT want to be treated as babies (even though they are babies too!) and so we bicker a bit. Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2002 Report Share Posted January 5, 2002 > > > . I just never know > > what to say. " No, it's just that the dots on the floor tile are more > > interesting than you. " I would have said this. > > > > To the woman that told me that I should not allow Aislynn to > spin when we were in the post office, I said, " Hey, that's > what she does for a living! " > > She wasn't amused, in fact she turned her back to me > and told the clerk, " Some parents just don't care about > disciplining their children anymore, they let them do > whatever they want. " Yeah, you needed to pull a . That is a nasty nasty thing to say and she doesn't know anything about you. Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2002 Report Share Posted January 5, 2002 > > My current peeve is people asking me if Mikey is shy. I just never know > what to say. " No, it's just that the dots on the floor tile are more > interesting than you. " But I guess that's life with autism. Yeah, shy isn't exactly the right description. I used to say " No, he just doesn't even know you exist. " Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 6, 2002 Report Share Posted January 6, 2002 > Yeah, shy isn't exactly the right description. I used to say " No, he just > doesn't even know you exist. " Ooh, that is a good one! Thanks, I will be borrowing that. -Sara. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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