Guest guest Posted January 11, 2002 Report Share Posted January 11, 2002 In a message dated 1/11/2002 9:58:58 AM Eastern Standard Time, vhunnius@... writes: Jacquie My heart is breaking for you both. We just need our own state. Lets take a poll and all of us will pick someone to run for governor and we'll just take the heck over. At least that way our kids will feel loved and their progress will go appreciated. Even my little would have gone over to him and hugged him at least if there were no words. HUGE HUGS to you both and let me know what state... maybe Rhode Island it's kinda small maybe no one would notice Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2002 Report Share Posted January 11, 2002 What a heartbreaking morning. got dressed by himself for school, chose his own clothes and everything. He was VERY excited, because he was wearing this vest that his Oma and Opa gave him. He's never worn it out before. So we got to school on this rainy, grey morning. His coat was flapping open; he wouldn't let me do up the zip. He spied a kid in his class. " CODY!!!! " he shrieked, and ran over. " Look what I'm wearing!!! " He flashed the coat open to show the vest. No reaction from Cody whatsoever. He did the same to , , Kayla, and . No reaction whatsoever. They IGNORED him. Dale, when apprehended, actually VEERED around him without even looking at him. Then , his old and trusty standby arrived. I guess he'd figured out he was going about this wrong, because he looked at the hat was holding in her hands and said, " I like that hat. What colour is that hat, ? " NO FUCKING REACTION WHATSOEVER. She just stared at the hat, and then slowly put it on her head without a word. Not one fucking word. What the hell is going on???? ONE kid, I could understand. It's a grey yucky day. BUT ALL OF THEM????? What the fuck is going on??? Unfortunately, I think I KNOW what's going on. He's different. He's annoying. He's pushy. They don't like him. THEY DON'T LIKE HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! They don't have any frigging idea how hard he works to talk to them. They don't have any frigging idea of what a miracle he is. They can't see the wonderful things about him because they've gotten fed up with the surface of him -- the one that he needs to cope in their world. And their mothers can't either, the mothers can't have any freaking clue, or wouldn't they encourage their kids to at least treat him CIVILLY??????? Wouldn't YOU???? You know, I don't expect him to be invited to birthday parties. Sad but true. I don't expect him to be invited to playdates. Sad but true. But I DO expect him to be treated with a little KINDNESS, for Pete's Fucking Sake!!!!!!!!!!! I can handle life cheating me out of my dreams and expectations. I'm strong. But how DARE life cheat this denfenseless, INNOCENT child out of the friendship of even ONE kid??? Out of even THIS common childhood experience? Hasn't he already been set on the sidelines enough???? Where is the justice in THAT? Where is the 'test' in that? Where is the basic human fucking decency in THAT? He has come so far in the last weeks. He has made strides and leaps that have astounded me, given me hope, given me strength and joy and peace...but apparently no one else can see it. I didn't REALIZE how isolated we were, how insulated, how sheltered by our home and our family and the wonderful life we lead within these walls. I didn't realize that even now, after all these amazing things we've seen recently, all the work we've done, all the joy it's brought, we are STILL a chunk of alien life, safe in the space of the alien atmosphere of our base camp, vulnerable and bizarre outside of it -- we may adapt to outside life, but we will never be accepted as part of the earth race. We will always be strikingly different. We will never assimilate. I WANT TO GO BACK TO OUR HOME PLANET, DAMMIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2002 Report Share Posted January 11, 2002 Omg, I'm so sorry. I know you don't want to hear that but I want to say something about what your wrote. It hit something in my heart that has been there since I first put in public school last year. I saw this and it hurt, I saw and felt this and remembered that it happened to me also. I think parents don't spend enough time teaching their children kindness, compassion or understanding. Schools here have taken up the practice of having to invite the whole class to your party so that no one feels excluded. Oh yea like that will work. Is the stupid teacher there to prevent that child from being hurt. Anyway, momma my choice to homeschool came from an experience very similar to that. I know that homeschooling will probably not be something I can do with but it will kill me to watch this happen. I know that it hurt momma, just know that I understand Love and Kisses > >Reply-To: parenting_autism >To: <parenting_autism > >Subject: Liberal use of expletives -- beware the rant. >Date: Fri, 11 Jan 2002 09:55:55 -0500 > > >What a heartbreaking morning. > > got dressed by himself for school, chose his own clothes and >everything. He was VERY excited, because he was wearing this vest that his >Oma and Opa gave him. He's never worn it out before. > >So we got to school on this rainy, grey morning. His coat was flapping >open; he wouldn't let me do up the zip. > >He spied a kid in his class. " CODY!!!! " he shrieked, and ran over. " Look >what I'm wearing!!! " He flashed the coat open to show the vest. No >reaction from Cody whatsoever. He did the same to , , Kayla, and >. No reaction whatsoever. They IGNORED him. Dale, when >apprehended, actually VEERED around him without even looking at him. > >Then , his old and trusty standby arrived. I guess he'd figured out >he was going about this wrong, because he looked at the hat was >holding in her hands and said, " I like that hat. What colour is that hat, >? " NO FUCKING REACTION WHATSOEVER. She just stared at the hat, and >then slowly put it on her head without a word. Not one fucking word. > >What the hell is going on???? ONE kid, I could understand. It's a grey >yucky day. BUT ALL OF THEM????? What the fuck is going on??? > >Unfortunately, I think I KNOW what's going on. He's different. He's >annoying. He's pushy. They don't like him. THEY DON'T LIKE >HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! They don't have any frigging idea how hard he works to >talk to them. They don't have any frigging idea of what a miracle he is. >They can't see the wonderful things about him because they've gotten fed up >with the surface of him -- the one that he needs to cope in their world. >And their mothers can't either, the mothers can't have any freaking clue, >or wouldn't they encourage their kids to at least treat him CIVILLY??????? >Wouldn't YOU???? > >You know, I don't expect him to be invited to birthday parties. Sad but >true. I don't expect him to be invited to playdates. Sad but true. But I >DO expect him to be treated with a little KINDNESS, for Pete's Fucking >Sake!!!!!!!!!!! > >I can handle life cheating me out of my dreams and expectations. I'm >strong. But how DARE life cheat this denfenseless, INNOCENT child out of >the friendship of even ONE kid??? Out of even THIS common childhood >experience? Hasn't he already been set on the sidelines enough???? Where >is the justice in THAT? Where is the 'test' in that? Where is the basic >human fucking decency in THAT? > >He has come so far in the last weeks. He has made strides and leaps that >have astounded me, given me hope, given me strength and joy and peace...but >apparently no one else can see it. > >I didn't REALIZE how isolated we were, how insulated, how sheltered by our >home and our family and the wonderful life we lead within these walls. I >didn't realize that even now, after all these amazing things we've seen >recently, all the work we've done, all the joy it's brought, we are STILL a >chunk of alien life, safe in the space of the alien atmosphere of our base >camp, vulnerable and bizarre outside of it -- we may adapt to outside life, >but we will never be accepted as part of the earth race. We will always be >strikingly different. We will never assimilate. > >I WANT TO GO BACK TO OUR HOME PLANET, DAMMIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! > >Jacquie > Catholic Homeschooling Mother to (7), (3), and (1) _________________________________________________________________ Join the world’s largest e-mail service with MSN Hotmail. http://www.hotmail.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2002 Report Share Posted January 11, 2002 ((((HUGS))) Jacquie. Keep focused on how far has come. I know how hard it is to realize that the child that you love so much the child you see as a miracle above miracles, is seen as odd by others. I have got to believe that when all is said and done that our kids will turn out better than we or anyone else ever expected and that they will prove all the petty judgementals wrong. CHRIS Liberal use of expletives -- beware the rant. What a heartbreaking morning. got dressed by himself for school, chose his own clothes and everything. He was VERY excited, because he was wearing this vest that his Oma and Opa gave him. He's never worn it out before. So we got to school on this rainy, grey morning. His coat was flapping open; he wouldn't let me do up the zip. He spied a kid in his class. " CODY!!!! " he shrieked, and ran over. " Look what I'm wearing!!! " He flashed the coat open to show the vest. No reaction from Cody whatsoever. He did the same to , , Kayla, and . No reaction whatsoever. They IGNORED him. Dale, when apprehended, actually VEERED around him without even looking at him. Then , his old and trusty standby arrived. I guess he'd figured out he was going about this wrong, because he looked at the hat was holding in her hands and said, " I like that hat. What colour is that hat, ? " NO FUCKING REACTION WHATSOEVER. She just stared at the hat, and then slowly put it on her head without a word. Not one fucking word. What the hell is going on???? ONE kid, I could understand. It's a grey yucky day. BUT ALL OF THEM????? What the fuck is going on??? Unfortunately, I think I KNOW what's going on. He's different. He's annoying. He's pushy. They don't like him. THEY DON'T LIKE HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! They don't have any frigging idea how hard he works to talk to them. They don't have any frigging idea of what a miracle he is. They can't see the wonderful things about him because they've gotten fed up with the surface of him -- the one that he needs to cope in their world. And their mothers can't either, the mothers can't have any freaking clue, or wouldn't they encourage their kids to at least treat him CIVILLY??????? Wouldn't YOU???? You know, I don't expect him to be invited to birthday parties. Sad but true. I don't expect him to be invited to playdates. Sad but true. But I DO expect him to be treated with a little KINDNESS, for Pete's Fucking Sake!!!!!!!!!!! I can handle life cheating me out of my dreams and expectations. I'm strong. But how DARE life cheat this denfenseless, INNOCENT child out of the friendship of even ONE kid??? Out of even THIS common childhood experience? Hasn't he already been set on the sidelines enough???? Where is the justice in THAT? Where is the 'test' in that? Where is the basic human fucking decency in THAT? He has come so far in the last weeks. He has made strides and leaps that have astounded me, given me hope, given me strength and joy and peace...but apparently no one else can see it. I didn't REALIZE how isolated we were, how insulated, how sheltered by our home and our family and the wonderful life we lead within these walls. I didn't realize that even now, after all these amazing things we've seen recently, all the work we've done, all the joy it's brought, we are STILL a chunk of alien life, safe in the space of the alien atmosphere of our base camp, vulnerable and bizarre outside of it -- we may adapt to outside life, but we will never be accepted as part of the earth race. We will always be strikingly different. We will never assimilate. I WANT TO GO BACK TO OUR HOME PLANET, DAMMIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2002 Report Share Posted January 11, 2002 Now just wait a moment. First off, these are immature kindergarten kids we are talking about, no? Well, since when do kids that young IGNORE annoying people? Shouldn't shoving them away, or whining at them to leave them alone be the norm? This sounds fishy...... Like..... like these kids complained about to the teacher or something, and the teacher, with a well meaning heart, said something like, " Don't be mean to him, just ignore him. " I mean... I know I did not have the sense to ignore other children that annoyed me when I was that young! And to ignore , as a group, collectively so - - - that sounds fishy. Either that, or some brat in the class decided to steer the group in that direction? Jacquie - talk to the teacher. If is not going to get the social aspects of school - - there is no point to sending him. It's not like he's learning brain surgery in school, and if everyone is going to ignore him, what the hell is the point of him being there? And the teacher.... well meaning or not, and regardless of whether she had any part in this, should be aware enough about what goes on amongst her students and the degree of interaction to know that this is unacceptable. I would be more comfortable with this story had a couple of the kids FOUGHT with . At least he wouldn't be IGNORED, and they would be acknowledging his existence. And that is simply not true about being unable to assimilate, ever. You guys do, and you will moreso with time. Just because a bunch of know-nothing brats with attitudes decided to act like JERKS - - - in the long run, it means squat. 's improvements are marked and real. You handle him beautifully at home. Maybe not in kindergarten, but 1st grade, 3rd grade - whenever... I am sure that one day, it will be much much better. You always remind me that when he was my girls' age, you thought he'd never get better. Look how far he's come, Jacquie. He's being ignored by his friends - - - so what? LOOK AT ALL HE HAS DONE regardless! Making friends is an artform, and one that he will need to work on. Your Bingo episode, and continued " friendship " with will help him learn. It won't always be this way - I'm just positive! And as for the _____ with the hat..... well, I hope she has a ROTTEN day. May she trip and skin her knee or something. <real mature, Grace... real mature.> Grace Liberal use of expletives -- beware the rant. What a heartbreaking morning. got dressed by himself for school, chose his own clothes and everything. He was VERY excited, because he was wearing this vest that his Oma and Opa gave him. He's never worn it out before. So we got to school on this rainy, grey morning. His coat was flapping open; he wouldn't let me do up the zip. He spied a kid in his class. " CODY!!!! " he shrieked, and ran over. " Look what I'm wearing!!! " He flashed the coat open to show the vest. No reaction from Cody whatsoever. He did the same to , , Kayla, and . No reaction whatsoever. They IGNORED him. Dale, when apprehended, actually VEERED around him without even looking at him. Then , his old and trusty standby arrived. I guess he'd figured out he was going about this wrong, because he looked at the hat was holding in her hands and said, " I like that hat. What colour is that hat, ? " NO FUCKING REACTION WHATSOEVER. She just stared at the hat, and then slowly put it on her head without a word. Not one fucking word. What the hell is going on???? ONE kid, I could understand. It's a grey yucky day. BUT ALL OF THEM????? What the fuck is going on??? Unfortunately, I think I KNOW what's going on. He's different. He's annoying. He's pushy. They don't like him. THEY DON'T LIKE HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! They don't have any frigging idea how hard he works to talk to them. They don't have any frigging idea of what a miracle he is. They can't see the wonderful things about him because they've gotten fed up with the surface of him -- the one that he needs to cope in their world. And their mothers can't either, the mothers can't have any freaking clue, or wouldn't they encourage their kids to at least treat him CIVILLY??????? Wouldn't YOU???? You know, I don't expect him to be invited to birthday parties. Sad but true. I don't expect him to be invited to playdates. Sad but true. But I DO expect him to be treated with a little KINDNESS, for Pete's Fucking Sake!!!!!!!!!!! I can handle life cheating me out of my dreams and expectations. I'm strong. But how DARE life cheat this denfenseless, INNOCENT child out of the friendship of even ONE kid??? Out of even THIS common childhood experience? Hasn't he already been set on the sidelines enough???? Where is the justice in THAT? Where is the 'test' in that? Where is the basic human fucking decency in THAT? He has come so far in the last weeks. He has made strides and leaps that have astounded me, given me hope, given me strength and joy and peace...but apparently no one else can see it. I didn't REALIZE how isolated we were, how insulated, how sheltered by our home and our family and the wonderful life we lead within these walls. I didn't realize that even now, after all these amazing things we've seen recently, all the work we've done, all the joy it's brought, we are STILL a chunk of alien life, safe in the space of the alien atmosphere of our base camp, vulnerable and bizarre outside of it -- we may adapt to outside life, but we will never be accepted as part of the earth race. We will always be strikingly different. We will never assimilate. I WANT TO GO BACK TO OUR HOME PLANET, DAMMIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Jacquie _________________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2002 Report Share Posted January 11, 2002 Jacquie....that does suck!! I would think the teachers and parents of these children would encourage them to be much more accepting of his differences than they seem to be. Is this normal? Tamara ----Original Message Follows---- Reply-To: parenting_autism To: <parenting_autism > Subject: Liberal use of expletives -- beware the rant. Date: Fri, 11 Jan 2002 09:55:55 -0500 What a heartbreaking morning. got dressed by himself for school, chose his own clothes and everything. He was VERY excited, because he was wearing this vest that his Oma and Opa gave him. He's never worn it out before. So we got to school on this rainy, grey morning. His coat was flapping open; he wouldn't let me do up the zip. He spied a kid in his class. " CODY!!!! " he shrieked, and ran over. " Look what I'm wearing!!! " He flashed the coat open to show the vest. No reaction from Cody whatsoever. He did the same to , , Kayla, and . No reaction whatsoever. They IGNORED him. Dale, when apprehended, actually VEERED around him without even looking at him. Then , his old and trusty standby arrived. I guess he'd figured out he was going about this wrong, because he looked at the hat was holding in her hands and said, " I like that hat. What colour is that hat, ? " NO FUCKING REACTION WHATSOEVER. She just stared at the hat, and then slowly put it on her head without a word. Not one fucking word. What the hell is going on???? ONE kid, I could understand. It's a grey yucky day. BUT ALL OF THEM????? What the fuck is going on??? Unfortunately, I think I KNOW what's going on. He's different. He's annoying. He's pushy. They don't like him. THEY DON'T LIKE HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! They don't have any frigging idea how hard he works to talk to them. They don't have any frigging idea of what a miracle he is. They can't see the wonderful things about him because they've gotten fed up with the surface of him -- the one that he needs to cope in their world. And their mothers can't either, the mothers can't have any freaking clue, or wouldn't they encourage their kids to at least treat him CIVILLY??????? Wouldn't YOU???? You know, I don't expect him to be invited to birthday parties. Sad but true. I don't expect him to be invited to playdates. Sad but true. But I DO expect him to be treated with a little KINDNESS, for Pete's Fucking Sake!!!!!!!!!!! I can handle life cheating me out of my dreams and expectations. I'm strong. But how DARE life cheat this denfenseless, INNOCENT child out of the friendship of even ONE kid??? Out of even THIS common childhood experience? Hasn't he already been set on the sidelines enough???? Where is the justice in THAT? Where is the 'test' in that? Where is the basic human fucking decency in THAT? He has come so far in the last weeks. He has made strides and leaps that have astounded me, given me hope, given me strength and joy and peace...but apparently no one else can see it. I didn't REALIZE how isolated we were, how insulated, how sheltered by our home and our family and the wonderful life we lead within these walls. I didn't realize that even now, after all these amazing things we've seen recently, all the work we've done, all the joy it's brought, we are STILL a chunk of alien life, safe in the space of the alien atmosphere of our base camp, vulnerable and bizarre outside of it -- we may adapt to outside life, but we will never be accepted as part of the earth race. We will always be strikingly different. We will never assimilate. I WANT TO GO BACK TO OUR HOME PLANET, DAMMIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Jacquie _________________________________________________________________ Join the world’s largest e-mail service with MSN Hotmail. http://www.hotmail.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2002 Report Share Posted January 11, 2002 Jacquie I'm sorry. I know that doesn't make you feel better, but I'm not sure what could. It hurts when you child is shunned and rejected. I've experienced it with Cassie--and sometimes the people doing it are ADULTS. Now that really pisses me off. They act like they are afraid they're going to " catch " it or something. I want to scream at the top of my lungs what an idiot they are treating my child this way. But they don't get it. They have no idea what they're missing. We have some terrific kids who see, feel think and know more than we probably realize. I just hope they don't feel the pain we do when this happens. Sometimes I hate the world and 99% of the people in it. That's why this list is so important, Jacquie. Cinnamon In parenting_autism@y..., " The Hunny Family " <vhunnius@l...> wrote: > > What a heartbreaking morning. > > got dressed by himself for school, chose his own clothes and everything. He was VERY excited, because he was wearing this vest that his Oma and Opa gave him. He's never worn it out before. > > So we got to school on this rainy, grey morning. His coat was flapping open; he wouldn't let me do up the zip. > > He spied a kid in his class. " CODY!!!! " he shrieked, and ran over. " Look what I'm wearing!!! " He flashed the coat open to show the vest. No reaction from Cody whatsoever. He did the same to , , Kayla, and . No reaction whatsoever. They IGNORED him. Dale, when apprehended, actually VEERED around him without even looking at him. > > Then , his old and trusty standby arrived. I guess he'd figured out he was going about this wrong, because he looked at the hat was holding in her hands and said, " I like that hat. What colour is that hat, ? " NO FUCKING REACTION WHATSOEVER. She just stared at the hat, and then slowly put it on her head without a word. Not one fucking word. > > What the hell is going on???? ONE kid, I could understand. It's a grey yucky day. BUT ALL OF THEM????? What the fuck is going on??? > > Unfortunately, I think I KNOW what's going on. He's different. He's annoying. He's pushy. They don't like him. THEY DON'T LIKE HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! They don't have any frigging idea how hard he works to talk to them. They don't have any frigging idea of what a miracle he is. They can't see the wonderful things about him because they've gotten fed up with the surface of him -- the one that he needs to cope in their world. And their mothers can't either, the mothers can't have any freaking clue, or wouldn't they encourage their kids to at least treat him CIVILLY??????? Wouldn't YOU???? > > You know, I don't expect him to be invited to birthday parties. Sad but true. I don't expect him to be invited to playdates. Sad but true. But I DO expect him to be treated with a little KINDNESS, for Pete's Fucking Sake!!!!!!!!!!! > > I can handle life cheating me out of my dreams and expectations. I'm strong. But how DARE life cheat this denfenseless, INNOCENT child out of the friendship of even ONE kid??? Out of even THIS common childhood experience? Hasn't he already been set on the sidelines enough???? Where is the justice in THAT? Where is the 'test' in that? Where is the basic human fucking decency in THAT? > > He has come so far in the last weeks. He has made strides and leaps that have astounded me, given me hope, given me strength and joy and peace...but apparently no one else can see it. > > I didn't REALIZE how isolated we were, how insulated, how sheltered by our home and our family and the wonderful life we lead within these walls. I didn't realize that even now, after all these amazing things we've seen recently, all the work we've done, all the joy it's brought, we are STILL a chunk of alien life, safe in the space of the alien atmosphere of our base camp, vulnerable and bizarre outside of it -- we may adapt to outside life, but we will never be accepted as part of the earth race. We will always be strikingly different. We will never assimilate. > > I WANT TO GO BACK TO OUR HOME PLANET, DAMMIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! > > Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2002 Report Share Posted January 11, 2002 > > What a heartbreaking morning. (snip) >> Unfortunately, I think I KNOW what's going on. He's different. He's annoying. He's pushy. They don't like him. THEY DON'T LIKE HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! They don't have any frigging idea how hard he works to talk to them. They don't have any frigging idea of what a miracle he is. They can't see the wonderful things about him because they've gotten fed up with the surface of him -- the one that he needs to cope in their world. And their mothers can't either, the mothers can't have any freaking clue, or wouldn't they encourage their kids to at least treat him CIVILLY??????? Wouldn't YOU???? >> Jacquie, You're right on both counts here...it IS heartbreaking...and they DON'T have a clue how what they are doing feels to him (or you). They have no idea how hard all this is...what an unbelievable accomplishment it was for him to be able to try to relate to them like that. It's easy for them...so they assume it must be easy for everyone. One of my pet peeves is that so many children these days have so little consideration for how their actions impact other people...and parents actively encourage it at times...survival of the fittest and all that. We have had some very sad situations that included name- calling outright bullying and my " typical " kids, made worse by the fact that my older kids need friends more than most due to ' issues---many kids are scared off by his odd behaviors ( " It's just weird at your house... " ). I have never understood why the grown-ups involved saw no need to put a stop to it...but in their minds it was " just typical kid stuff " ...something to be proud of, in fact. Unreal. > He has come so far in the last weeks. He has made strides and leaps that have astounded me, given me hope, given me strength and joy and peace...but apparently no one else can see it.> YOU see it. WE see it...and they will, too, eventually. Stay with it; it's paying off for you and him. > I didn't REALIZE how isolated we were, how insulated, how sheltered by our home and our family and the wonderful life we lead within these walls.> Yeah...I know. But, that " safe " life is so essential to 's progress...and again--it's paying off, Jacquie. I can tell so much difference in just the short time I've been on this list... >>I didn't realize that even now, after all these amazing things we've seen recently, all the work we've done, all the joy it's brought, we are STILL a chunk of alien life, safe in the space of the alien atmosphere of our base camp, vulnerable and bizarre outside of it -- we may adapt to outside life, but we will never be accepted as part of the earth race. We will always be strikingly different. We will never assimilate.>> Maybe, but being different from unkind, insensitive people is a GOOD thing, right? Who ends up better off in the long run? I honestly believe that things like this either make us better or diminish us...guess who was lessened by this episode---not , he did great. Not you, you saw how well he was doing and felt proud...and you saw the other children missing out on knowing a wonderful kid. Feel bad for them, they lost out. will make friends---REAL friends. Besides, as I recall, the Borg weren't much fun to be around...and they were great at assimilation. Raena Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2002 Report Share Posted January 11, 2002 Oh Jacquie, I know what you mean, some days I don't want to leave my house. My heart breaks for you and . How awful. Does he have an aide who can facilitate some kind of communication? Hope things get better hon. Tuna :'( P.S. If you find that home planet, I'm coming too. --- The Hunny Family wrote: I didn't REALIZE how isolated we were, how insulated, how sheltered by our home and our family and the wonderful life we lead within these walls. I didn't realize that even now, after all these amazing things we've seen recently, all the work we've done, all the joy it's brought, we are STILL a chunk of alien life, safe in the space of the alien atmosphere of our base camp, vulnerable and bizarre outside of it -- we may adapt to outside life, but we will never be accepted as part of the earth race. We will always be strikingly different. We will never assimilate. I WANT TO GO BACK TO OUR HOME PLANET, DAMMIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Jacquie ===== " Normal is just a setting on the washing machine. " Whoopi Goldberg ______________________________________________________________________ Web-hosting solutions for home and business! http://website.yahoo.ca Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2002 Report Share Posted January 11, 2002 My QUICK response to this? <<<<< He has come so far in the last weeks. He has made strides and leaps that have astounded me, given me hope, given me strength and joy and peace...but apparently no one else can see it. >>>>> um,no....no one else can APPRECIATE it. >>>>-- we may adapt to outside life, but we will never be accepted as part of the earth race. We will always be strikingly different. We will never assimilate. <<<<< Why the Hell would we WANT to? Jacquie - is welcome to a playdate with Jacqui ANYTIME. Penny :-) - who will write more later....... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2002 Report Share Posted January 11, 2002 > Jacquie....that does suck!! I would think the teachers and parents of these > children would encourage them to be much more accepting of his differences > than they seem to be. Is this normal? Well, Tamara, I talked to his teacher for a bit after school, and she said that she's not at all surprised that nobody paid any attention to showing off his vest, that ALL kindergarten kids are like that. She said that if it's not about them, they couldn't care less. I could believe that about one or two...but all of them? I don't know... she's agreed to let me come in and observe from a spot ERic won't find me on Monday. Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2002 Report Share Posted January 11, 2002 > HUGE HUGS to you both and let me know what state... maybe Rhode Island it's > kinda small maybe no one would notice > > A few omonths ago there was a town in California for sale... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2002 Report Share Posted January 11, 2002 >I have never understood why the grown-ups > involved saw no need to put a stop to it...but in their minds it > was " just typical kid stuff " ...something to be proud of, in fact. > Unreal. Yup. Dale's mother amazed me. She SAW the little witch VEER around and cut him cold, and yet she didn't even remind her to be polite!! What is WRONG with people? > Yeah...I know. But, that " safe " life is so essential to 's > progress...and again--it's paying off, Jacquie. I can tell so much > difference in just the short time I've been on this list... Thanks, Raena... > Maybe, but being different from unkind, insensitive people is a GOOD > thing, right? Who ends up better off in the long run? I honestly > believe that things like this either make us better or diminish > us...guess who was lessened by this episode---not , he did > great. Not you, you saw how well he was doing and felt proud...and > you saw the other children missing out on knowing a wonderful kid. > Feel bad for them, they lost out. will make friends---REAL > friends. I want to believe this. I really, really want to. <wan smile> I will try to believe this. > > Besides, as I recall, the Borg weren't much fun to be around...and > they were great at assimilation. How that made me laugh -- and today I really needed a laugh. Thanks. Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2002 Report Share Posted January 11, 2002 I do have to comment on this after taking Jacqui to school the last couple of days: 1) She tried to introduce one friend to another friend. I was proud, the kids didn't pay attention. Not really on purpose, they were just being 6 :-) 2) She was trying to tell her friend that we were picking up her and another friend on Monday. Now this is a wonderful step for Jacqui!!!! She was really trying to make a conversation. Her friend just said excitedly to her mom, pointing to a tree...IS THAT A NEST??? Again, just being 6 and excited to be out of school for the weekend. Breaks my heart too Jacquie, but we will ALL get there!!!! Penny Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2002 Report Share Posted January 11, 2002 >>>.. she's agreed to let me come in and observe from a spot ERic won't find me on Monday. Jacquie >>>>> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2002 Report Share Posted January 11, 2002 Penny, do you know how much it meant to me to read what you wrote? To feel totally not alone, and to get an inkling that maybe, just maybe, it was all because they're four or five years old and still completely self-absorbed, rather than mean, malicious little beasts? It hurts, though, doesn't it, to see your child do something you are SO PROUD OF, and to see her (and him) get no response? You just want to grab the other child and shake it, screaming, " PAY ATTENTION@!!! " Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2002 Report Share Posted January 11, 2002 > I know what you mean, some days I don't want to leave > my house. My heart breaks for you and . How > awful. Does he have an aide who can facilitate some > kind of communication? Hope things get better hon. > > Tuna :'( > > P.S. If you find that home planet, I'm coming too. Yup, he has an aide, for what she's worth. :-( BTW, I know where the home planet is. I just don't know how to get there. It's the star at the base of the handle of the Little Dipper. How do I know this? I have that constellation on my forearm, perfectly formed in dark freckles -- only THAT star is missing. I figure that it's my map to get home. Always have. :-) (it's obvious, since I am not a very freckle-y person...) Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2002 Report Share Posted January 11, 2002 Um, so do you think I got distracted? :-) Penny RE: Liberal use of expletives -- beware the rant. >>>.. she's agreed to let me come in and observe from a spot ERic won't find me on Monday. Jacquie >>>>> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2002 Report Share Posted January 11, 2002 >>>>It hurts, though, doesn't it, to see your child do something you are SO PROUD OF, and to see her (and him) get no response? You just want to grab the other child and shake it, screaming, " PAY ATTENTION@!!! " Jacquie <<<<< It sure does tweak the heart strings, Jacquie.... It sucks. It's all part of being a loving mom. Penny :-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2002 Report Share Posted January 11, 2002 I agree with it is very hard to watch our children work so hard for what others take for granted & get shunned or ignored anyway. is so lucky to have someone like you who works with him & loves him so very much. It always makes me try a little harder to be understanding & supportive of when I know she isn't getting it from others. There are alot of parents out there who are not as supportive or loving as you are to & you try to make his life easier when it seems like others are trying to make it harder & I think that makes you & all the other parents on this list so wonderful. As far as the parents of the other kids at his school go, I know it is hard to understand our kids sometimes & they really have no idea what our lives are like, but you'd think they would be teaching their children to be compassionate toward other kids, especially ones who need that extra patience & help. I'm sure I'm rambling & I make no sense here, but your post really made me think because this is something that most, or all of us, will probably go through with our children at one time or another & it sucks. It really does. I guess all we can do is love our children extra, try to have huge amounts of patience, & be willing to kick some butt every once in awhile for them :0) Tracey Keep focused on how far has come. I know how hard it is to realize that the child that you love so much the child you see as a miracle above miracles, is seen as odd by others. I have got to believe that when all is said and done that our kids will turn out better than we or anyone else ever expected and that they will prove all the petty judgementals wrong. > > CHRIS Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2002 Report Share Posted January 11, 2002 Sounds like they need to get a social skills group going with 's class. Are they open to that idea? Pam Mom to and Conor Check out our webpage! <A HREF= " http://www.geocities.com/oceangirl65/index.html " >Yahoo! GeoCities - oceangirl65's Home Page</A> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2002 Report Share Posted January 11, 2002 > Well, Tamara, I talked to his teacher for a bit after school, and she said that she's not at all surprised that nobody paid any attention to showing off his vest, that ALL kindergarten kids are like that. She said that if it's not about them, they couldn't care less. > I dunno, Jacquie. I would think a simple, " Yah - so WHAT, ? Who cares? " would be more appropriate than IGNORING him. I would have PREFERRED that to being ignored. > she's agreed to let me come in and observe from a spot ERic won't find me on Monday. > GOOD. _________________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 12, 2002 Report Share Posted January 12, 2002 >Thanks, Grace. I do keep in mind how far he's come; unfortunately, after this holiday I had it TOO MUCH in mind, and forgot that nobody on the >outside can see what we see. It was a shock. Jacquie, Yea. But then again, they can't know. They don't know from where he began. So they can't possibly know how far he's come. IDEA: I think you should adopt Sydney. Then you can point to her, and say " This boy was like this 2 years ago. " Then point to him and say, 'Lookie how much better. " What do you think? Free shipping? She has even learned how to sign CANDY today!!!!? She eats tacos, and she can do LOTS of cool things like tap head, rub wall, stomp feet, clap hands, touch nose, point, and pat lap to the command, " DO THIS " . Talented, I tell you. Extremely sweet... except when she is flinging food across the room off the spoon, onto brand new dining chairs. And - - - - the best part? She doesn't talk back. Ever. So how about it? Grace _________________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 12, 2002 Report Share Posted January 12, 2002 Well, good. I have a hard time believing all kindergarteners are like that, but hopefully you will be reassured on Monday. Tamara ----Original Message Follows---- Reply-To: parenting_autism To: <parenting_autism > Subject: Re: Liberal use of expletives -- beware the rant. Date: Fri, 11 Jan 2002 17:46:29 -0500 > Jacquie....that does suck!! I would think the teachers and parents of these > children would encourage them to be much more accepting of his differences > than they seem to be. Is this normal? Well, Tamara, I talked to his teacher for a bit after school, and she said that she's not at all surprised that nobody paid any attention to showing off his vest, that ALL kindergarten kids are like that. She said that if it's not about them, they couldn't care less. I could believe that about one or two...but all of them? I don't know... she's agreed to let me come in and observe from a spot ERic won't find me on Monday. Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 12, 2002 Report Share Posted January 12, 2002 In a message dated 1/11/2002 5:51:01 PM Eastern Standard Time, vhunnius@... writes: > she's agreed to let me come in and observe from a spot ERic won't find me on > Monday. > Jacquie Please let us know how it goes... I really am upset for you. I hope it was just a fluke and that everything goes great. {{huges}} wendy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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