Losing Loved Ones

[Guest guest]

Terri & Lynda - I'm so sorry you had to experience these losses, in

that way. When I was 20 yrs. old, my boyfriend at the time found his

father downstairs - he had shot himself. He started drinking then

and couldn't seem to deal with the grief. Became seriously alcoholic

later in his life. I tried to help him, but he couldn't hear me.

I have been suicidal in my life, tried seriously when I was 16 yrs.

old. Woke up in the morning, totally fine, after consuming many of

my Mom's prescription drugs. Got the message not to try again.

Unfortunately, some people are not able to make the " life " decision.

I saw an informative TV show a few months ago that explained how the

human brain works - why some people commit suicide and why others can

make the choice to live. It had to do with the way we are " wired "

physically.

A good friend of mine in the holistic healing circle, worked at the

Suicide Prevention Clinic and on the Emergency Line. She had 2 young

boys. Everyone thought she was o.k. - she helped many people - I had

no idea what was really going on for her. Sad.

Loving & Comforting Prayers going out to you,

Sunny

- In , " Peake " <peaketeresa@...>

wrote:

>

> Hello,

> My mom, brother, grandfather, and uncle all killed themselves. I

have

> lived with this all of my life,

> Terri P

>

>

>

>

> >

> > >Dear Sis,

> > >I am so sorry to hear this. How sad! There are

> > >many people who become overwhelmed during the

> > >Christmas season with all of the hulla-balloo,

> > >and begin to feel left out and that their life

> > >doesn't matter, and end things in a way that is

> > >devastating to so many. Suicide sends shock

> > >waves much farther and wider than most people

> > >would believe. I have known several people who

> > >have committed suicide--none of them close to

> > >me, and probably even barely acquaintences, but

> > >the shock is always devastating. It is so

> > >important to remember to reach out...there's so

> > >many in need of help, and they won't ask.

> > >Thanks for sharing that. I hope your Christmas

> > >was still filled with a sense of hope and meaning,

> > >Hugs,

> > >Patty

> > >

> > > A lesson learned

> > >

> > >Hello friends,

> > >

> > >I just came from a funeral. My sister's father-in-law ended his

> > >life a few days before Christmas. It was not an easy time for

them,

> > >but they chose to celebrate Christmas with those they held dear.

At

> > >the viewing tonight, his son spoke and said this man thought no

one

> > >cared about him, but yet all of these people attended his

funeral -

> > >and he felt there was a lesson to be learned there. He was loved,

> > >and he did make a difference. I personally knew him since I was

in

> > >high school, when my sister started dating his son (now her

> > >husband), and he and his wife welcomed me into the family along

> with

> > >my sister. He had perfect physical health but his mental health

> > >wasn't always that good. I remember the summer of 2005, I was

> > >sicker than I've ever been in my life, I had lost my job, my

> > >marriage was on the rocks because of both my health issues and my

> > >job loss, and I remember being at my absolute lowest - asking why

> > >this was happening. I did consider putting myself out of my

misery,

> > >but when I thought about those people I would hurt (especially my

> > >parents), I knew I couldn't cause anyone such pain. In

retrospect,

> > >I'm thankful that I had the strength to hang on, and that I was

> > >blessed with good mental health even though my body was in rough

> > >shape. I'm feeling much better than I was, I had my explant, we

> > >worked on the marital issues, and I found a job (even though I'm

> > >being downsized yet again!). What I'm trying to say is for anyone

> > >who is suffering right now, you are making a difference in

> someone's

> > >life, and even though the light at the end of the tunnel might

seem

> > >far away, you are here for a reason and you are loved.

> > >

> > >Sis

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >__________________________________________________

> > >

[Guest guest]

-Sunny,

Thank you for your kind words. I have never tried or even thought

about doing it myself, I have always felt the presence of God in my

life, I knew as a young child the many gifts God gave me, when I was

young and placed in foster care I used to have to go to counseling

and the therapist used to be so surprised at how I viewed my

situation, I felt God was looking out for me. He gave me alot of

gifts. I would never hurt my loved ones especially my children in

that way, I have had a hard life and I want to go to Heaven . That is

just what I believe.Thank you for your support. Good luck on your

interview. it is the perfect job for you Sunny Girl,

Aloha

Terri P

-- In , " Sunny " <wellnessnow@...> wrote:

>

> Terri & Lynda - I'm so sorry you had to experience these losses, in

> that way. When I was 20 yrs. old, my boyfriend at the time found

his

> father downstairs - he had shot himself. He started drinking then

> and couldn't seem to deal with the grief. Became seriously

alcoholic

> later in his life. I tried to help him, but he couldn't hear me.

>

> I have been suicidal in my life, tried seriously when I was 16 yrs.

> old. Woke up in the morning, totally fine, after consuming many of

> my Mom's prescription drugs. Got the message not to try again.

> Unfortunately, some people are not able to make the " life "

decision.

> I saw an informative TV show a few months ago that explained how

the

> human brain works - why some people commit suicide and why others

can

> make the choice to live. It had to do with the way we are " wired "

> physically.

>

> A good friend of mine in the holistic healing circle, worked at the

> Suicide Prevention Clinic and on the Emergency Line. She had 2

young

> boys. Everyone thought she was o.k. - she helped many people - I

had

> no idea what was really going on for her. Sad.

>

> Loving & Comforting Prayers going out to you,

>

> Sunny

>

> - In , " Peake " <peaketeresa@>

> wrote:

> >

> > Hello,

> > My mom, brother, grandfather, and uncle all killed themselves. I

> have

> > lived with this all of my life,

> > Terri P

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > >

> > > >Dear Sis,

> > > >I am so sorry to hear this. How sad! There are

> > > >many people who become overwhelmed during the

> > > >Christmas season with all of the hulla-balloo,

> > > >and begin to feel left out and that their life

> > > >doesn't matter, and end things in a way that is

> > > >devastating to so many. Suicide sends shock

> > > >waves much farther and wider than most people

> > > >would believe. I have known several people who

> > > >have committed suicide--none of them close to

> > > >me, and probably even barely acquaintences, but

> > > >the shock is always devastating. It is so

> > > >important to remember to reach out...there's so

> > > >many in need of help, and they won't ask.

> > > >Thanks for sharing that. I hope your Christmas

> > > >was still filled with a sense of hope and meaning,

> > > >Hugs,

> > > >Patty

> > > >

> > > > A lesson learned

> > > >

> > > >Hello friends,

> > > >

> > > >I just came from a funeral. My sister's father-in-law ended his

> > > >life a few days before Christmas. It was not an easy time for

> them,

> > > >but they chose to celebrate Christmas with those they held

dear.

> At

> > > >the viewing tonight, his son spoke and said this man thought

no

> one

> > > >cared about him, but yet all of these people attended his

> funeral -

> > > >and he felt there was a lesson to be learned there. He was

loved,

> > > >and he did make a difference. I personally knew him since I

was

> in

> > > >high school, when my sister started dating his son (now her

> > > >husband), and he and his wife welcomed me into the family

along

> > with

> > > >my sister. He had perfect physical health but his mental health

> > > >wasn't always that good. I remember the summer of 2005, I was

> > > >sicker than I've ever been in my life, I had lost my job, my

> > > >marriage was on the rocks because of both my health issues and

my

> > > >job loss, and I remember being at my absolute lowest - asking

why

> > > >this was happening. I did consider putting myself out of my

> misery,

> > > >but when I thought about those people I would hurt (especially

my

> > > >parents), I knew I couldn't cause anyone such pain. In

> retrospect,

> > > >I'm thankful that I had the strength to hang on, and that I was

> > > >blessed with good mental health even though my body was in

rough

> > > >shape. I'm feeling much better than I was, I had my explant, we

> > > >worked on the marital issues, and I found a job (even though

I'm

> > > >being downsized yet again!). What I'm trying to say is for

anyone

> > > >who is suffering right now, you are making a difference in

> > someone's

> > > >life, and even though the light at the end of the tunnel might

> seem

> > > >far away, you are here for a reason and you are loved.

> > > >

> > > >Sis

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >__________________________________________________

> > > >

[Guest guest]

Terri, I'm so happy you have God in your life at that strength. I do

now...when I was young, I was sexually abused from birth to 11 yrs.

old. Although I seemed to have a compassion for the abusers, I was

pretty messed up emotionally. Turned to drugs and alcohol. Wanted

to numb out.

I'm so grateful for my life today, especially explant free. It's

given me a whole new lease on life.

Happy New Year & Aloha to You Too!!

Love,

Sunny xo

> > > >

> > > > >Dear Sis,

> > > > >I am so sorry to hear this. How sad! There are

> > > > >many people who become overwhelmed during the

> > > > >Christmas season with all of the hulla-balloo,

> > > > >and begin to feel left out and that their life

> > > > >doesn't matter, and end things in a way that is

> > > > >devastating to so many. Suicide sends shock

> > > > >waves much farther and wider than most people

> > > > >would believe. I have known several people who

> > > > >have committed suicide--none of them close to

> > > > >me, and probably even barely acquaintences, but

> > > > >the shock is always devastating. It is so

> > > > >important to remember to reach out...there's so

> > > > >many in need of help, and they won't ask.

> > > > >Thanks for sharing that. I hope your Christmas

> > > > >was still filled with a sense of hope and meaning,

> > > > >Hugs,

> > > > >Patty

> > > > >

> > > > > A lesson learned

> > > > >

> > > > >Hello friends,

> > > > >

> > > > >I just came from a funeral. My sister's father-in-law ended

his

> > > > >life a few days before Christmas. It was not an easy time

for

> > them,

> > > > >but they chose to celebrate Christmas with those they held

> dear.

> > At

> > > > >the viewing tonight, his son spoke and said this man thought

> no

> > one

> > > > >cared about him, but yet all of these people attended his

> > funeral -

> > > > >and he felt there was a lesson to be learned there. He was

> loved,

> > > > >and he did make a difference. I personally knew him since I

> was

> > in

> > > > >high school, when my sister started dating his son (now her

> > > > >husband), and he and his wife welcomed me into the family

> along

> > > with

> > > > >my sister. He had perfect physical health but his mental

health

> > > > >wasn't always that good. I remember the summer of 2005, I was

> > > > >sicker than I've ever been in my life, I had lost my job, my

> > > > >marriage was on the rocks because of both my health issues

and

> my

> > > > >job loss, and I remember being at my absolute lowest -

asking

> why

> > > > >this was happening. I did consider putting myself out of my

> > misery,

> > > > >but when I thought about those people I would hurt

(especially

> my

> > > > >parents), I knew I couldn't cause anyone such pain. In

> > retrospect,

> > > > >I'm thankful that I had the strength to hang on, and that I

was

> > > > >blessed with good mental health even though my body was in

> rough

> > > > >shape. I'm feeling much better than I was, I had my explant,

we

> > > > >worked on the marital issues, and I found a job (even though

> I'm

> > > > >being downsized yet again!). What I'm trying to say is for

> anyone

> > > > >who is suffering right now, you are making a difference in

> > > someone's

> > > > >life, and even though the light at the end of the tunnel

might

> > seem

> > > > >far away, you are here for a reason and you are loved.

> > > > >

> > > > >Sis

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >__________________________________________________

> > > > >