Guest guest Posted November 17, 2008 Report Share Posted November 17, 2008 My BPD Mom has really done ot this time!! 4 years ago she and Dad came to live with us-Dad's health was failing fast and the doctors adviced that I take over his care. POOR DAD!! He had endured years of physical and emotional abuse. Mom kicked him out of the bed and broke his hip! He tried and tried to get the " authorities " to believe him, but Mom's story was always believed! Mom tired twice to overdose him on his many prescription medications that he took. She had always given him his meds, but on these particular times, she told the doctors he had taken them himself. During one stay in the hospital, Mom tried to push him down the stairs!! The nursed stopped her just in time!! The stories of abuse go on and on........... When Mom and Dad came to live with us-the drama started immediatley!! I won't go into all those lovely things, but it was not fun!! Dad passed soon after we moved thme in and then the fun really started. Mom caused so much trouble, that we were adviced to move her back home and care for her from afar! Well, she had my son arrested for made up charges-not once but twice!! She then had charges brought on me for " cutting " her when she was with us. We had police documents that proved otherwise. She then had us ARRESTED for " stealing " her money!! We are now in a huge crimianal trial for something that never happened! She was able to convince the DA that her story was true.!! We had to be arrested and everything!! My husband and I are both teachers!! We could loose everything............ This is the short version of my life with my BPD Mom!! Anyone have any advice??? Oh, we have attorneys-it's costing us $50,000.00!!!! I can't imagine Mom being on the stand-she will earn an academy award (at the age of 76!!) She is going to split so many times, the attorneys are not going to know who they are dealing with. I just don't want HER going through this!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 17, 2008 Report Share Posted November 17, 2008 I have no experience with a Witch...just want to say I'm sorry you are going through this! Faith would be the only thing that could get me through something like that. I believe in Divine retribution--even if things work out wrong down here, there is a Just Judge in heaven! You can sue her for your court costs in civil court if the court finds in your favor. > > My BPD Mom has really done ot this time!! 4 years ago she and Dad > came to live with us-Dad's health was failing fast and the doctors > adviced that I take over his care. > > POOR DAD!! He had endured years of physical and emotional abuse. > Mom kicked him out of the bed and broke his hip! He tried and tried > to get the " authorities " to believe him, but Mom's story was always > believed! Mom tired twice to overdose him on his many prescription > medications that he took. She had always given him his meds, but on > these particular times, she told the doctors he had taken them > himself. During one stay in the hospital, Mom tried to push him down > the stairs!! The nursed stopped her just in time!! The stories of > abuse go on and on........... > > When Mom and Dad came to live with us-the drama started > immediatley!! I won't go into all those lovely things, but it was > not fun!! > > Dad passed soon after we moved thme in and then the fun really > started. Mom caused so much trouble, that we were adviced to move > her back home and care for her from afar! > > Well, she had my son arrested for made up charges-not once but > twice!! She then had charges brought on me for " cutting " her when > she was with us. We had police documents that proved otherwise. She > then had us ARRESTED for " stealing " her money!! > > We are now in a huge crimianal trial for something that never > happened! She was able to convince the DA that her story was > true.!! We had to be arrested and everything!! My husband and I are > both teachers!! We could loose everything............ > > This is the short version of my life with my BPD Mom!! Anyone have > any advice??? Oh, we have attorneys-it's costing us $50,000.00!!!! > > I can't imagine Mom being on the stand-she will earn an academy award > (at the age of 76!!) She is going to split so many times, the > attorneys are not going to know who they are dealing with. I just > don't want HER going through this!!! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 17, 2008 Report Share Posted November 17, 2008 Holy blankety-blank-blank, Joyce, what an absolute, effing nightmare! Its hard to imagine a *worse* worse case scenario. How horrible for you and your family, particularly your poor dad, who from what you've written was probably actually murdered by your nada. The worst part of all this, seems to me, is that your Witch bpd nada (who may also be a sociopath) has apparently always had all of you so paralyzed with fear that you didn't run away from her screaming in terror decades ago. Your story is a tragic and dramatic example of why it is so important to set clear boundaries, create distance, establish rules and conditions *and enforce them* when dealing with the mentally ill parent to protect yourself from them: they can do real damage. My Sister and I are very clear on the fact that if our nada ever does apologize so that we re-establish contact with her, neither Sister or I will ever be alone with nada again. Our nada has a history of seeking revenge; we're afraid that if we are alone with her she could claim that we either tried to hurt her, or tried to take things from her. We'll see nada in group settings only; we want witnesses. Better safe than sorry! -Annie > > My BPD Mom has really done ot this time!! 4 years ago she and Dad > came to live with us-Dad's health was failing fast and the doctors > adviced that I take over his care. > > POOR DAD!! He had endured years of physical and emotional abuse. > Mom kicked him out of the bed and broke his hip! He tried and tried > to get the " authorities " to believe him, but Mom's story was always > believed! Mom tired twice to overdose him on his many prescription > medications that he took. She had always given him his meds, but on > these particular times, she told the doctors he had taken them > himself. During one stay in the hospital, Mom tried to push him down > the stairs!! The nursed stopped her just in time!! The stories of > abuse go on and on........... > > When Mom and Dad came to live with us-the drama started > immediatley!! I won't go into all those lovely things, but it was > not fun!! > > Dad passed soon after we moved thme in and then the fun really > started. Mom caused so much trouble, that we were adviced to move > her back home and care for her from afar! > > Well, she had my son arrested for made up charges-not once but > twice!! She then had charges brought on me for " cutting " her when > she was with us. We had police documents that proved otherwise. She > then had us ARRESTED for " stealing " her money!! > > We are now in a huge crimianal trial for something that never > happened! She was able to convince the DA that her story was > true.!! We had to be arrested and everything!! My husband and I are > both teachers!! We could loose everything............ > > This is the short version of my life with my BPD Mom!! Anyone have > any advice??? Oh, we have attorneys-it's costing us $50,000.00!!!! > > I can't imagine Mom being on the stand-she will earn an academy award > (at the age of 76!!) She is going to split so many times, the > attorneys are not going to know who they are dealing with. I just > don't want HER going through this!!! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 17, 2008 Report Share Posted November 17, 2008 thanks so much for your words!!! If this thing ever gets over-and we still have jobs, i hope to get some kind of legal help in dealing with my mom!! AND I'm not sure what that would even be!! I just can't allow her to hurt my children, or us again...............(I'm the only child, so that's the other thing!!) Joyce Tiner Lane Middle School Content Mastery >>> " anuria67854 " 11/17/2008 3:11 PM >>> Holy blankety-blank-blank, Joyce, what an absolute, effing nightmare! Its hard to imagine a *worse* worse case scenario. How horrible for you and your family, particularly your poor dad, who from what you've written was probably actually murdered by your nada. The worst part of all this, seems to me, is that your Witch bpd nada (who may also be a sociopath) has apparently always had all of you so paralyzed with fear that you didn't run away from her screaming in terror decades ago. Your story is a tragic and dramatic example of why it is so important to set clear boundaries, create distance, establish rules and conditions *and enforce them* when dealing with the mentally ill parent to protect yourself from them: they can do real damage. My Sister and I are very clear on the fact that if our nada ever does apologize so that we re-establish contact with her, neither Sister or I will ever be alone with nada again. Our nada has a history of seeking revenge; we're afraid that if we are alone with her she could claim that we either tried to hurt her, or tried to take things from her. We'll see nada in group settings only; we want witnesses. Better safe than sorry! -Annie > > My BPD Mom has really done ot this time!! 4 years ago she and Dad > came to live with us-Dad's health was failing fast and the doctors > adviced that I take over his care. > > POOR DAD!! He had endured years of physical and emotional abuse. > Mom kicked him out of the bed and broke his hip! He tried and tried > to get the " authorities " to believe him, but Mom's story was always > believed! Mom tired twice to overdose him on his many prescription > medications that he took. She had always given him his meds, but on > these particular times, she told the doctors he had taken them > himself. During one stay in the hospital, Mom tried to push him down > the stairs!! The nursed stopped her just in time!! The stories of > abuse go on and on........... > > When Mom and Dad came to live with us-the drama started > immediatley!! I won't go into all those lovely things, but it was > not fun!! > > Dad passed soon after we moved thme in and then the fun really > started. Mom caused so much trouble, that we were adviced to move > her back home and care for her from afar! > > Well, she had my son arrested for made up charges-not once but > twice!! She then had charges brought on me for " cutting " her when > she was with us. We had police documents that proved otherwise. She > then had us ARRESTED for " stealing " her money!! > > We are now in a huge crimianal trial for something that never > happened! She was able to convince the DA that her story was > true.!! We had to be arrested and everything!! My husband and I are > both teachers!! We could loose everything............ > > This is the short version of my life with my BPD Mom!! Anyone have > any advice??? Oh, we have attorneys-it's costing us $50,000.00!!!! > > I can't imagine Mom being on the stand-she will earn an academy award > (at the age of 76!!) She is going to split so many times, the > attorneys are not going to know who they are dealing with. I just > don't want HER going through this!!! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 18, 2008 Report Share Posted November 18, 2008 this is a nightmare. Maybe after it is over, you can get a restraining order based on her history of harrassing you and making false accusations or even get a court-ordered psychiatric evaluation for her (sounds like she needs to be somewhere where she can not hurt others). Subject: Re: Unbelievable!! To: WTOAdultChildren1 Date: Monday, November 17, 2008, 3:11 PM Holy blankety-blank- blank, Joyce, what an absolute, effing nightmare! Its hard to imagine a *worse* worse case scenario. How horrible for you and your family, particularly your poor dad, who from what you've written was probably actually murdered by your nada. The worst part of all this, seems to me, is that your Witch bpd nada (who may also be a sociopath) has apparently always had all of you so paralyzed with fear that you didn't run away from her screaming in terror decades ago. Your story is a tragic and dramatic example of why it is so important to set clear boundaries, create distance, establish rules and conditions *and enforce them* when dealing with the mentally ill parent to protect yourself from them: they can do real damage. My Sister and I are very clear on the fact that if our nada ever does apologize so that we re-establish contact with her, neither Sister or I will ever be alone with nada again. Our nada has a history of seeking revenge; we're afraid that if we are alone with her she could claim that we either tried to hurt her, or tried to take things from her. We'll see nada in group settings only; we want witnesses. Better safe than sorry! -Annie > > My BPD Mom has really done ot this time!! 4 years ago she and Dad > came to live with us-Dad's health was failing fast and the doctors > adviced that I take over his care. > > POOR DAD!! He had endured years of physical and emotional abuse. > Mom kicked him out of the bed and broke his hip! He tried and tried > to get the " authorities " to believe him, but Mom's story was always > believed! Mom tired twice to overdose him on his many prescription > medications that he took. She had always given him his meds, but on > these particular times, she told the doctors he had taken them > himself. During one stay in the hospital, Mom tried to push him down > the stairs!! The nursed stopped her just in time!! The stories of > abuse go on and on.......... . > > When Mom and Dad came to live with us-the drama started > immediatley! ! I won't go into all those lovely things, but it was > not fun!! > > Dad passed soon after we moved thme in and then the fun really > started. Mom caused so much trouble, that we were adviced to move > her back home and care for her from afar! > > Well, she had my son arrested for made up charges-not once but > twice!! She then had charges brought on me for " cutting " her when > she was with us. We had police documents that proved otherwise. She > then had us ARRESTED for " stealing " her money!! > > We are now in a huge crimianal trial for something that never > happened! She was able to convince the DA that her story was > true.!! We had to be arrested and everything!! My husband and I are > both teachers!! We could loose everything.. ......... . > > This is the short version of my life with my BPD Mom!! Anyone have > any advice??? Oh, we have attorneys-it' s costing us $50,000.00!! !! > > I can't imagine Mom being on the stand-she will earn an academy award > (at the age of 76!!) She is going to split so many times, the > attorneys are not going to know who they are dealing with. I just > don't want HER going through this!!! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 18, 2008 Report Share Posted November 18, 2008 i sure hope to do something after this is over............it's been 4 years and we have had enough. Joyce Tiner Lane Middle School Content Mastery >>> Bayahm 11/18/2008 2:22 PM >>> this is a nightmare. Maybe after it is over, you can get a restraining order based on her history of harrassing you and making false accusations or even get a court-ordered psychiatric evaluation for her (sounds like she needs to be somewhere where she can not hurt others). Subject: Re: Unbelievable!! To: WTOAdultChildren1 Date: Monday, November 17, 2008, 3:11 PM Holy blankety-blank- blank, Joyce, what an absolute, effing nightmare! Its hard to imagine a *worse* worse case scenario. How horrible for you and your family, particularly your poor dad, who from what you've written was probably actually murdered by your nada. The worst part of all this, seems to me, is that your Witch bpd nada (who may also be a sociopath) has apparently always had all of you so paralyzed with fear that you didn't run away from her screaming in terror decades ago. Your story is a tragic and dramatic example of why it is so important to set clear boundaries, create distance, establish rules and conditions *and enforce them* when dealing with the mentally ill parent to protect yourself from them: they can do real damage. My Sister and I are very clear on the fact that if our nada ever does apologize so that we re-establish contact with her, neither Sister or I will ever be alone with nada again. Our nada has a history of seeking revenge; we're afraid that if we are alone with her she could claim that we either tried to hurt her, or tried to take things from her. We'll see nada in group settings only; we want witnesses. Better safe than sorry! -Annie > > My BPD Mom has really done ot this time!! 4 years ago she and Dad > came to live with us-Dad's health was failing fast and the doctors > adviced that I take over his care. > > POOR DAD!! He had endured years of physical and emotional abuse. > Mom kicked him out of the bed and broke his hip! He tried and tried > to get the " authorities " to believe him, but Mom's story was always > believed! Mom tired twice to overdose him on his many prescription > medications that he took. She had always given him his meds, but on > these particular times, she told the doctors he had taken them > himself. During one stay in the hospital, Mom tried to push him down > the stairs!! The nursed stopped her just in time!! The stories of > abuse go on and on.......... . > > When Mom and Dad came to live with us-the drama started > immediatley! ! I won't go into all those lovely things, but it was > not fun!! > > Dad passed soon after we moved thme in and then the fun really > started. Mom caused so much trouble, that we were adviced to move > her back home and care for her from afar! > > Well, she had my son arrested for made up charges-not once but > twice!! She then had charges brought on me for " cutting " her when > she was with us. We had police documents that proved otherwise. She > then had us ARRESTED for " stealing " her money!! > > We are now in a huge crimianal trial for something that never > happened! She was able to convince the DA that her story was > true.!! We had to be arrested and everything!! My husband and I are > both teachers!! We could loose everything.. ......... . > > This is the short version of my life with my BPD Mom!! Anyone have > any advice??? Oh, we have attorneys-it' s costing us $50,000.00!! !! > > I can't imagine Mom being on the stand-she will earn an academy award > (at the age of 76!!) She is going to split so many times, the > attorneys are not going to know who they are dealing with. I just > don't want HER going through this!!! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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