I smell a trap

[Guest guest]

Bunny,

The counselor did the wrong thing! She did not have the right to give her any

information about your daughter because your mother is not the guardian. Shame

on that counselor! You need to call and make an appointment with her and

explain that you understand that confidential information about your child was

given to her grandma without parental approval.

Try to stay level, but tell the counselor that your mother is not to be granted

school information again.

If your mother is on the emergency card in the office, they may feel like they

have a loophole. The thing is, you are the parent and are allowed to restrict

your child's information. If you need to take your mother off the emergency

card to show them that you are serious, then do it.

Hope this helps -

Cheryl

[Guest guest]

this really hits the nail on the head; and I would like to pass on a

word of caution. There have been times I have made a formal

complaint about an employee and the suprvisor gave me the impression

he/she was standing behind the employee. I at first was upset that I

was not seen as " the person who had been harmed " What I saw as time

went on is that the supervisor backed their employee in public and

repraminded (sp) in private and the situation I complained about did

change. I just did not see the change at the initial meeting.

blessings, mg

" Just so you know... the " letter " will " prove " your mother's case.

It will paint you in a really REALLY bad light and they will

only " see " this evil vendictive daughter who " over-reacted " to

a " sweet old ladies " worry. Don't gag and throw up... we've all been

there but I'm just shining a bit of light on the perceptions of

those " outside the ring of insanity " .

I would simply say to the counselor, WITH the Principal present from

moment #1, giving out confidential information to my mother " without

my express written permission " is illegal. Period. You do not need

to justify why/where/when (cause believe me, until they see it, they

won't). Just stick to the law. You can say that your daughter is

now humiliated and this has caused great heartache in your family

( " due to existing family dynamics " ) prior to the holiday's

because " one of your staff broke the law " (throw that in a few

times... it will hit home) and you're hoping that the holiday's will

ease her pain but again, no one but YOU and your daughter's father

have access to that information. Period. "