Re: Re: KO's with ADD

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Actually, they didn't medicate me when I was first diagnosed. My younger

brother...who was the " perfect " child...WAS medicated. I, the " problem child " ,

was not. He was medicated for years, and I don't think it ever really helped

anyone except to give everyone an excuse for his bad behaviour " Poor kid...he

can't help it, it's not his fault. "

As a child...even as a young adult...I did not have the vocabulary or knowledge

of " healthy " vs. " uhealthy " family dynamics to explain that there really was

something wrong at home. I *knew* it...but doubted my own ability to make that

determination. I'm not going to lay the blame at the feet of anyone other than

my parents for that. A professional isn't a psychic...if the parent AND the

child are saying " This chid is a problem " then that's what the professional has

to work with. My nada, I'm sure like many others, can very easily come across

as the world's most devoted, loving, long suffering parent while painting me as

the difficult, abusive daughter. It's not until those people have known me for

awhile and actually witness how I live my life that they realize " Oh...her

mother lied. "

With that said, I do agree that many times children are diagnosed and medicated

for ADD when ADD is not actually the problem. I think there are many reasons

for this. I think, too, that this has now made it extremely difficult for the

parents of children who truly DO have ADD and who truly DO need the medication.

They are often harshly judged as bad parents, lazy parents, parents without

control. As a professional nanny with over 25 years experience helping other

people raise their children, I can promise you that there absolutely are

fabulous parents out there whose children rightfully and needfully take

medication for ADD.

Misdiagnosis does EVERYONE a grave disservice.

Ninera

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> Subject: Re: KO's with ADD

> To: WTOAdultChildren1

> Date: Monday, November 24, 2008, 9:35 PM

> Funny how society would much rather blame the child, as it

> were, and

> diagnose them with ADD and drug them rather than do some

> real

> investigating and discover that the child is living a

> virtual P.O.W.

> existence, enduring daily psychological torture at the

> hands of a

> supposedly loving " parent. "

> Problem is that abusive parents rarely (if ever) take their

> kids in

> for evaluations ( " There's something wrong with

> this kid, and I need my

> kid to be perfect, so fix them. " ) But when the

> mentally ill parent

> learns that its herself, the nada, who is the main cause of

> the

> child's distress (problems eating, sleeping,

> concentrating, or

> embarrassing nervous habits, etc.) the nada then declare

> that the

> doctor/therapist is an idiot and the child is not helped or

> (even

> better) rescued.

> I think children need to have legal advocates assigned to

> them at

> birth, or something. There's got to be something

> better than just

> letting the mentally ill and substance abusers have and

> raise kids.

> -Annie

>

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> > > > I am curious...are there any other KO's

> out there

> > > that have

> > > discovered that they are ADD. I

> > > > have suspected that I am for years but

> always thought

> > > that you had

> > > to be diagnosed as a kid.

> > > > I am 41.

> > > >

> > > > Nada was such a control freak that I never

> had to

> > > organize or think

> > > for myself, then I went

> > > > into the Army...same there. Have been

> struggling to

> > > organize

> > > myself since I got out of the

> > > > Army over 17 years ago.

> > > >

> > > > My train of thought spends so much time off

> the track

> > > that it has

> > > now been registered as an

> > > > off road vehicle.

> > > >

> > > > Of course ADD is such a popular diagnosis

> now that my

> > > doctor thinks

> > > I am drug seeking!

> > > > Yeah right. I have a mildly herniated disc

> and my

> > > vicodin script

> > > of 30 pills lasts me between

> > > > 18 months and two years! Oh and at least ten

> of them

> > > are not even

> > > consumed by me in that

> > > > time. I have a neighbor that has severe

> dental

> > > problems that I

> > > give one to once in a while.

> > > > Gimme a break.

> > > >

> > > > Did I mention that I stopped in the middle

> of cleaning

> > > to eat and

> > > then check my e-mail and

> > > > then come to this site and post about this?

> My oven

> > > is sitting in

> > > the middle of my kitchen

> > > > with my vacuum sitting beside it waiting for

> me to

> > > finish.

> > > >

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