Guest guest Posted November 25, 2008 Report Share Posted November 25, 2008 Lotus, I read your post about what happened with the eggs and the swim meet. You have got to find the strength within yourself to stand up for your kids 100 %. It's the most important thing you can do. I left my 2 & 3 year old little girls with my mother and found out the daycare would not let them have anything to drink from 7am until 2pm because they don't drink milk. One of them is lactose intolerant. I was enraged! My mother waited over 2 weeks to get anything done about this 'little issue' because she's a worthless nada. I was having surgery which was the only reason my chidlren were with her. It was the last time she saw them and after my girls came home my 2 year old started yelling " Get away from me - you don't belong here - I can't deal with you anymore! " and I realized she was acting out things my nasty nada had said to her. I was mortified and vindicated. Stand up for your kids. They need you. Don't hesitate. Go for the gusto and make sure they know they're number ONE. Put nada in her place and get them the hell out of there. Good for you for going NC. Good luck to you - and be strong. You can do it. SDM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 25, 2008 Report Share Posted November 25, 2008 Wow, SDM, thanks for sharing that story. Its so important to keep that issue in front of those with children: its damaging to expose kids to the mentally ill, and it could be actually dangerous to leave kids in their care. If for some reason children *are* exposed to bpds, watch for behaviors in the little ones that indicate that they have been mistreated, frightened, bewildered, or otherwise abused so that you can (A.) make sure they are never exposed to that bpd again and (B.) help the little one try to process the insane behaviors they witnessed or abuse they endured so they can get past it. As a small child, I began mimicking my nada's physical abuse of me with my dolls: I'd shake them hard and slap them in the face and scream " You are BAD,BAD,BAD! " at them, but instead of pleasing nada (I was showing her that I'd learned something) all it did was enrage nada. So I learned that I couldn't please her that way, either. -Annie > > Lotus, > > I read your post about what happened with the eggs and the swim meet. You have got to find the strength within yourself to stand up for your kids 100 %. It's the most important thing you can do. I left my 2 & 3 year old little girls with my mother and found out the daycare would not let them have anything to drink from 7am until 2pm because they don't drink milk. One of them is lactose intolerant. I was enraged! My mother waited over 2 weeks to get anything done about this 'little issue' because she's a worthless nada. I was having surgery which was the only reason my chidlren were with her. It was the last time she saw them and after my girls came home my 2 year old started yelling " Get away from me - you don't belong here - I can't deal with you anymore! " and I realized she was acting out things my nasty nada had said to her. I was mortified and vindicated. > > Stand up for your kids. They need you. Don't hesitate. Go for the gusto and make sure they know they're number ONE. Put nada in her place and get them the hell out of there. Good for you for going NC. Good luck to you - and be strong. You can do it. > SDM > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 26, 2008 Report Share Posted November 26, 2008 My sister and I would play for hours on end games of the imagination that clearly were inspired by our bewilderment and the abuse we endured, and by our (be it unconscious) desire to end it. We played " evil orphanage " and mistreated the dolls-kids, then we personified the mistreated orphans (sort of like in " Annie " or so) and played that we ran away and roamed free and had to stay out of the bad orphanage's clutches. Says enough? Katrina > > > > Lotus, > > > > I read your post about what happened with the eggs and the swim > meet. You have got to find the strength within yourself to stand up > for your kids 100 %. It's the most important thing you can do. I > left my 2 & 3 year old little girls with my mother and found out the > daycare would not let them have anything to drink from 7am until 2pm > because they don't drink milk. One of them is lactose intolerant. I > was enraged! My mother waited over 2 weeks to get anything done about > this 'little issue' because she's a worthless nada. I was having > surgery which was the only reason my chidlren were with her. It was > the last time she saw them and after my girls came home my 2 year old > started yelling " Get away from me - you don't belong here - I can't > deal with you anymore! " and I realized she was acting out things my > nasty nada had said to her. I was mortified and vindicated. > > > > Stand up for your kids. They need you. Don't hesitate. Go for the > gusto and make sure they know they're number ONE. Put nada in her > place and get them the hell out of there. Good for you for going NC. > Good luck to you - and be strong. You can do it. > > SDM > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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