Re: a relevant post from another Group

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This post fascinated me. While I don't post daily, I do read here

daily. It was just the action of " turning me against myself " that

made the light come on for me that nada wasn't just a person who

enjoyed gossiping and was eccentric. In August 2007 after we left a

family gathering, nada and I talked soon after and she started telling

me how certain relatives had a better time after I left. Oops!! She

got careless and actually and literally tried to turn me against

myself. I realized then that her gossip was something much more.

Somehow I stumbled upon BPD, read SWOE, and joined this group.

I have been NC since end of August this year. I am not happy about

this because I don't think it should have to be this way, but I know

it is what's best for my children and marriage. I am watching myself

become a better person now that I don't get the frequent self-help

lectures from nada and listen to her weird thinking.

le

>

> In addition to this Group, I belong to a group for the adult children

> of Narcissist parents, and a member there named " " wrote the

> following. I thought it is very succinct and relevant to us KO bpds as

> well:

>

> " Its just amazing how these evil parents turn you against yourself!

> And when you don't trust yourself or your senses or your instincts

> ANYONE can control you.

>

> I will never live with that kind of guilt again. In fact, I'm taking

> an inventory of a lot of things in my life just to see if there is any

> other little nook or cranny where guilt is hiding.

>

> I feel so much better having taken control of my life again. I feel

> lighter. Much less depressed. I still have a lot of anxiety, but at

> least I'm not debilitatingly depressed!

>

> "

>

> What leaped out at me was the concept " turn you against yourself. "

> Brilliant!

>

> I believe my nada has always had such a desperate, overwhelming need

> to feel superior to other people that she just included us, her own

> children (and husband) in that obsession. We were never right about

> anything, nada was always right about everything, and if we were right

> about something it was due to nada. Its totally warped and sick.

>

> Us KOs are fighting to overcome a lifetime of negative brainwashing by

> a severely mentally ill person.

>

> Its hard, but its doable.

>

> -Annie

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