Nada and the lawyer update

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Hubby and I visited with a psychologist today who does a lot of

custody testimony on behalf of kids and grandparents' rights stuff.

He basically said that in our state grandparents are almost never

granted rights over the parents' wishes. The one exception he'd

ever heard of was a situation where the grandparents had been the

primary caregivers for an extended period of time (i.e. real mom and

dad in prison for a few years, got out, got custody, and refused the

grandparents rights to visit the kids). He knows all the details of

our present situation, and he didn't think we had a thing to worry

about. So that's a relief. And by the way, a big THANK YOU for

your support. I don't offer support nearly enough on this board,

but I'm working on it, and I really appreciate those of you who are

better at it than I.

But anyway, I got to thinking this weekend...what a sh*tty thing for

them to do, to have a lawyer contact us. Aren't they basically

saying " to h@ll with you, we want your kids " ? That my point in all

of this doesn't matter and they'll try to get to my kids by force if

they have to?

By the way, my husband's response to their attorney was something

along the lines of: " I am in receipt of your e-mail. We have been

advised by Dr. X (psychologist mentioned above) that it is not in

our children's best interests to be in contact with their

grandparents. " The beauty of the wording is that the only way

grandparents' rights are upheld in this state is if the grandparents

can prove that it is in the children's best interests. Hah!