Guest guest Posted November 24, 2008 Report Share Posted November 24, 2008 I know this was written about you, but you just said everything that I feel, but until now, couldn't find the words for. Thank you for posting that. ~Sara Jo > > First, myself. > > I deserve to be happy, to have a happy marriage and to have myself. > The most important thing to me right now is to know myself and be > true to myself. I want to do what is best for me; I want to take good > care of myself. I am God-bearing just like everyone else. I need to > be good to me. I need to be able to recognize my own needs and meet > them for myself. This is my primary goal. I will need God's help to > do this. > > Secondly, I am not in charge or control of anyone else. Nor am I > responsible for anyone else. We all have to take responsibility to > meet our own needs. I am unable to take responsibility for anyone > else's happiness any longer. Other's happiness can not be based on > whether or not I come through for them in the way they would like me > to. > > I would like to have relationships with significant people in my > life; these relationships need to be based on respect for my > independent, individual personhood. More specifically, I need to have > the freedom to recognize what I need to do, and I need the freedom to > do it without fear. > > The fear is my part. No one can put fear on me except for me. Fear > shows up in my life when I worry about disappointing others. In the > past, this fear has been coupled with almost debilitating anxiety and > dark, deep depression. It is also coupled with guilt becuase I feel > like I need to make others' lives happy. I feel like I am not doing > my job as a human being if others' are disappointed in my behavior. > > Respecting my personhood is your part. I will no longer be in > relationships where I cannot be respected as an individual. You have > the perogative to dissagree with my decisions, however, I will no > longer feel guilt, fear, or anxiety after making the decisions I need > to make. If you would like to have a relationship with me, you need > to realize that I am a piece of humanity. I will make mistakes. I > will piss you off. I will not always do what you want me to do. In > fact, I may only seldom or never do what you want me to do. After > all, I am not a trainable animal. I am not going to be the possession > you take ownership of and train any longer. I am untrainable, > ungroundable, unguiltable. > > In spite of, and maybe more accurately becuase of, all of my faults > and shortcomings, I am a beautiful, courageous, kind, unique, > spectacular individual. I hope that you can see that in me. > > It is most important to me that I see that in myself. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 24, 2008 Report Share Posted November 24, 2008 Thank you, that is perfect. Cheryl Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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