Guest guest Posted December 24, 2008 Report Share Posted December 24, 2008 It sounds like they're desperate for your attention! Hang in there, writermanque! You're doing great. Hope you and your children have a wonderful, peaceful holiday! > > Dad sent me a letter yesterday. As a reminder, my parents contacted > a lawyer to try to get back in touch with me and my kids. Seeing > this as a threat of a lawsuit to try to assert " grandparents rights " , > we responded (to the lawyer) that we had consulted with a > psychologist who didn't feel it was in the best interests of our > children to have contact with them at this time (in our state the > burden of proof is on them to show that it is in the kids' best > interests). So dad sends this letter yesterday that states that he > is going to send this psychologist a letter to give his side of the > story and let him know that he and nada " aren't the evil people that > he may have been led to believe " and to " offer our assistance to help > with any issues you may have. " He then adds that if I have a problem > with that, I need to contact him by December 30, otherwise the letter > goes in the mail. > > I don't know about you, but this comes across as an entirely stupid > threat. Like I'm supposed to be saying, oh no! Don't send a letter > to the psychologist! I'll come down tomorrow and we'll sing > Christmas carols and swill egg nog and pretend this never happened! > This psychologist, by the way, is the therapist I've been working > with for almost two years, who has been completely awesome, who > agrees that my parents are bonkers. And don't you just love the > little dig with offering " assistance " with my " issues " ? Ho ho ho! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 24, 2008 Report Share Posted December 24, 2008 Truly! Sounds to me like your dad has a wide streak of narcissism; the arrogance and sense of entitlement are a tip-off. I'm so glad for you that you are on top of this so that their threats have no power to upset you, and you can have your own delightfully nada- and fada-free Christmas with your own family. Happy Holidays to you and all here at the Forum! -Annie > > Dad sent me a letter yesterday. As a reminder, my parents contacted > a lawyer to try to get back in touch with me and my kids. Seeing > this as a threat of a lawsuit to try to assert " grandparents rights " , > we responded (to the lawyer) that we had consulted with a > psychologist who didn't feel it was in the best interests of our > children to have contact with them at this time (in our state the > burden of proof is on them to show that it is in the kids' best > interests). So dad sends this letter yesterday that states that he > is going to send this psychologist a letter to give his side of the > story and let him know that he and nada " aren't the evil people that > he may have been led to believe " and to " offer our assistance to help > with any issues you may have. " He then adds that if I have a problem > with that, I need to contact him by December 30, otherwise the letter > goes in the mail. > > I don't know about you, but this comes across as an entirely stupid > threat. Like I'm supposed to be saying, oh no! Don't send a letter > to the psychologist! I'll come down tomorrow and we'll sing > Christmas carols and swill egg nog and pretend this never happened! > This psychologist, by the way, is the therapist I've been working > with for almost two years, who has been completely awesome, who > agrees that my parents are bonkers. And don't you just love the > little dig with offering " assistance " with my " issues " ? Ho ho ho! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 25, 2008 Report Share Posted December 25, 2008 Beware the EggNog! Swill away. Let them send the " Letter " to the Psychologist... it only solidifies what you've been saying for 2 years. Merry Christmas ~ > > Dad sent me a letter yesterday. As a reminder, my parents contacted > a lawyer to try to get back in touch with me and my kids. Seeing > this as a threat of a lawsuit to try to assert " grandparents rights " , > we responded (to the lawyer) that we had consulted with a > psychologist who didn't feel it was in the best interests of our > children to have contact with them at this time (in our state the > burden of proof is on them to show that it is in the kids' best > interests). So dad sends this letter yesterday that states that he > is going to send this psychologist a letter to give his side of the > story and let him know that he and nada " aren't the evil people that > he may have been led to believe " and to " offer our assistance to help > with any issues you may have. " He then adds that if I have a problem > with that, I need to contact him by December 30, otherwise the letter > goes in the mail. > > I don't know about you, but this comes across as an entirely stupid > threat. Like I'm supposed to be saying, oh no! Don't send a letter > to the psychologist! I'll come down tomorrow and we'll sing > Christmas carols and swill egg nog and pretend this never happened! > This psychologist, by the way, is the therapist I've been working > with for almost two years, who has been completely awesome, who > agrees that my parents are bonkers. And don't you just love the > little dig with offering " assistance " with my " issues " ? Ho ho ho! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 25, 2008 Report Share Posted December 25, 2008 I entirely agree. Let them send the letter and reiterate what you've already said. You are doing the right thing ________________________________ To: WTOAdultChildren1 Sent: Thursday, December 25, 2008 3:29:48 PM Subject: Re: Stupid threats Beware the EggNog! Swill away. Let them send the " Letter " to the Psychologist. .. it only solidifies what you've been saying for 2 years. Merry Christmas ~ .. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 25, 2008 Report Share Posted December 25, 2008 It wouldn't surprise me if they didn't send anything. It's amazing what they'll do when you call their bluff. I remember when I got married, at some point during that weekend, my husband's favorite uncle and aunt (his mother's identical twin) took us out to eat. Well, when we got back, my nada took me aside and gave me a rant about how I disrespected her and my father by staying out with them so long (from noon to 3pm, mind you!) and how I should have made sure we got back sooner instead of leaving her alone like that and so on...and seeing how I had just gotten married I was pretty worn out from everything and I just agreed, yes, it was my fault and I actually was believing it, too. So nana pauses to think for a moment and then says, no, it wasn't your fault after all, they should have done such and such and they (the aunt and uncle) we now the ones disrespecting her. Yikes. Looking back her issues are now so clear. Oh if I'd only known, and gone NC so long ago. I'm NC now but that's 'cause she has died. But if she hadn't...NC all the way. Flowers in Oz ----- Original Message ----- I entirely agree. Let them send the letter and reiterate what you've already said. You are doing the right thing _______________________________ Swill away. Let them send the " Letter " to the Psychologist. .. it only solidifies what you've been saying for 2 years. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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