Gonna need you guys more than ever...

[Guest guest]

My Therapist told me Tuesday that she has to take a 6 week medical

leave and offered to have me see someone else for that time. She is

the head of the Dept and, as you all know, I have MAJOR trust issues

with believing any of this is real... let alone trying to tell anyone

else and have them not look at me like I'm the crazy one. She

understands that... so, we've agreed that the best course of action

is for me to stay in a 'holding pattern' til she gets back. I can do

that as long as I focus on what's what...

That said, it's the Holiday's and the crazy-making behaviour is out

in full force.

1) Nada is leaving Friday for another 5-7 day " Road Trip " with

another man from Match.com.

2) Nada is still expecting Step-Dad (her ex of 15 years who, if

you've followed this saga, you will know she DESPISES and has no

problem telling him that to his face - unless she wants something) to

give her $ and cover car repairs and some monthly bills. He does

(why?????) but wouldn't if he knew about this 'other man'...

shhhhhhhhhhhhhh, Lynnette... DON'T TELL. I've told her to stop

telling me ANYTHING that I can't discuss openly - because I'm not

keeping her secrets anymore. BTW - the $ she wants she's using for

NEW CLOTHES for #1.

3) Talked with my 1/2 sister yesterday. Due to bio-dad's issues

(hatred for Nada and his need to blame me and mine for " what

happened " before I was born) I've only had contact with him 2 times

since they divorced when I was 3. Well, sis and I have build a

relationship outside of THAT drama over the last couple of years.

So...she tells me Dad is dying and is calling for me and mine to come

see him. She told him plainly, 'You can't expect her to come to you

after all the hatred you aim at her in the name of her Mother'.

Egads. So... I tell Nada this... HER first comment is, " Well, I

don't know what he's so mad about... I never did ANYTHING... I think

I " ll go up there [2 states away] and talk to him " . OMG. I talked

her out of that one. Just so you're all clear, I won't go up... I

don't need the pain...but it still hurts.

4) On a bright note, SO presented me with a beautiful ring and - wise

man - knows me well enough to NOT officially propose this year. I

told him 12-18 months ... but, as he so elegantly stated, " Honey, if

I gave you the ring that I've carried around for a few months, I know

you'd run for the hills and I'd never see you again...I can wait for

you " Got to love a man that truly gets it.

So... I'm gonna need you guys as the insantity brews...

Lynnette

[Guest guest]

Right here for you.

>

> My Therapist told me Tuesday that she has to take a 6 week medical

> leave and offered to have me see someone else for that time. She

is

> the head of the Dept and, as you all know, I have MAJOR trust

issues

> with believing any of this is real... let alone trying to tell

anyone

> else and have them not look at me like I'm the crazy one. She

> understands that... so, we've agreed that the best course of action

> is for me to stay in a 'holding pattern' til she gets back. I can

do

> that as long as I focus on what's what...

>

> That said, it's the Holiday's and the crazy-making behaviour is out

> in full force.

>

> 1) Nada is leaving Friday for another 5-7 day " Road Trip " with

> another man from Match.com.

>

> 2) Nada is still expecting Step-Dad (her ex of 15 years who, if

> you've followed this saga, you will know she DESPISES and has no

> problem telling him that to his face - unless she wants something)

to

> give her $ and cover car repairs and some monthly bills. He does

> (why?????) but wouldn't if he knew about this 'other man'...

> shhhhhhhhhhhhhh, Lynnette... DON'T TELL. I've told her to stop

> telling me ANYTHING that I can't discuss openly - because I'm not

> keeping her secrets anymore. BTW - the $ she wants she's using for

> NEW CLOTHES for #1.

>

> 3) Talked with my 1/2 sister yesterday. Due to bio-dad's issues

> (hatred for Nada and his need to blame me and mine for " what

> happened " before I was born) I've only had contact with him 2 times

> since they divorced when I was 3. Well, sis and I have build a

> relationship outside of THAT drama over the last couple of years.

> So...she tells me Dad is dying and is calling for me and mine to

come

> see him. She told him plainly, 'You can't expect her to come to

you

> after all the hatred you aim at her in the name of her Mother'.

> Egads. So... I tell Nada this... HER first comment is, " Well, I

> don't know what he's so mad about... I never did ANYTHING... I

think

> I " ll go up there [2 states away] and talk to him " . OMG. I talked

> her out of that one. Just so you're all clear, I won't go up... I

> don't need the pain...but it still hurts.

>

> 4) On a bright note, SO presented me with a beautiful ring and -

wise

> man - knows me well enough to NOT officially propose this year. I

> told him 12-18 months ... but, as he so elegantly stated, " Honey,

if

> I gave you the ring that I've carried around for a few months, I

know

> you'd run for the hills and I'd never see you again...I can wait

for

> you " Got to love a man that truly gets it.

>

> So... I'm gonna need you guys as the insantity brews...

>

> Lynnette

>

[Guest guest]

We are here for you....hang in there.

Family and holidays are just stressful in a normal family- but having

a bp parent just takes it up a notch.

Your are right too- gotta love a man who gets it.....what a wonderful

addition to your life- despite the craziness.

Malinda

In WTOAdultChildren1 , " writermanque "

wrote:

>

> Right here for you.

>

>

> >

> > My Therapist told me Tuesday that she has to take a 6 week

medical

> > leave and offered to have me see someone else for that time. She

> is

> > the head of the Dept and, as you all know, I have MAJOR trust

> issues

> > with believing any of this is real... let alone trying to tell

> anyone

> > else and have them not look at me like I'm the crazy one. She

> > understands that... so, we've agreed that the best course of

action

> > is for me to stay in a 'holding pattern' til she gets back. I

can

> do

> > that as long as I focus on what's what...

> >

> > That said, it's the Holiday's and the crazy-making behaviour is

out

> > in full force.

> >

> > 1) Nada is leaving Friday for another 5-7 day " Road Trip " with

> > another man from Match.com.

> >

> > 2) Nada is still expecting Step-Dad (her ex of 15 years who, if

> > you've followed this saga, you will know she DESPISES and has no

> > problem telling him that to his face - unless she wants

something)

> to

> > give her $ and cover car repairs and some monthly bills. He

does

> > (why?????) but wouldn't if he knew about this 'other man'...

> > shhhhhhhhhhhhhh, Lynnette... DON'T TELL. I've told her to stop

> > telling me ANYTHING that I can't discuss openly - because I'm not

> > keeping her secrets anymore. BTW - the $ she wants she's using

for

> > NEW CLOTHES for #1.

> >

> > 3) Talked with my 1/2 sister yesterday. Due to bio-dad's issues

> > (hatred for Nada and his need to blame me and mine for " what

> > happened " before I was born) I've only had contact with him 2

times

> > since they divorced when I was 3. Well, sis and I have build a

> > relationship outside of THAT drama over the last couple of

years.

> > So...she tells me Dad is dying and is calling for me and mine to

> come

> > see him. She told him plainly, 'You can't expect her to come to

> you

> > after all the hatred you aim at her in the name of her Mother'.

> > Egads. So... I tell Nada this... HER first comment is, " Well, I

> > don't know what he's so mad about... I never did ANYTHING... I

> think

> > I " ll go up there [2 states away] and talk to him " . OMG. I

talked

> > her out of that one. Just so you're all clear, I won't go up...

I

> > don't need the pain...but it still hurts.

> >

> > 4) On a bright note, SO presented me with a beautiful ring and -

> wise

> > man - knows me well enough to NOT officially propose this year.

I

> > told him 12-18 months ... but, as he so elegantly stated, " Honey,

> if

> > I gave you the ring that I've carried around for a few months, I

> know

> > you'd run for the hills and I'd never see you again...I can wait

> for

> > you " Got to love a man that truly gets it.

> >

> > So... I'm gonna need you guys as the insantity brews...

> >

> > Lynnette

> >

>

[Guest guest]

>

> My Therapist told me Tuesday that she has to take a 6 week medical

> leave and offered to have me see someone else for that time. She

is

> the head of the Dept and, as you all know, I have MAJOR trust

issues

> with believing any of this is real... let alone trying to tell

anyone

> else and have them not look at me like I'm the crazy one. She

> understands that... so, we've agreed that the best course of action

> is for me to stay in a 'holding pattern' til she gets back. I can

do

> that as long as I focus on what's what...

>

> That said, it's the Holiday's and the crazy-making behaviour is out

> in full force.

>

> 1) Nada is leaving Friday for another 5-7 day " Road Trip " with

> another man from Match.com.

>

> 2) Nada is still expecting Step-Dad (her ex of 15 years who, if

> you've followed this saga, you will know she DESPISES and has no

> problem telling him that to his face - unless she wants something)

to

> give her $ and cover car repairs and some monthly bills. He does

> (why?????) but wouldn't if he knew about this 'other man'...

> shhhhhhhhhhhhhh, Lynnette... DON'T TELL. I've told her to stop

> telling me ANYTHING that I can't discuss openly - because I'm not

> keeping her secrets anymore. BTW - the $ she wants she's using for

> NEW CLOTHES for #1.

>

> 3) Talked with my 1/2 sister yesterday. Due to bio-dad's issues

> (hatred for Nada and his need to blame me and mine for " what

> happened " before I was born) I've only had contact with him 2 times

> since they divorced when I was 3. Well, sis and I have build a

> relationship outside of THAT drama over the last couple of years.

> So...she tells me Dad is dying and is calling for me and mine to

come

> see him. She told him plainly, 'You can't expect her to come to

you

> after all the hatred you aim at her in the name of her Mother'.

> Egads. So... I tell Nada this... HER first comment is, " Well, I

> don't know what he's so mad about... I never did ANYTHING... I

think

> I " ll go up there [2 states away] and talk to him " . OMG. I talked

> her out of that one. Just so you're all clear, I won't go up... I

> don't need the pain...but it still hurts.

>

> 4) On a bright note, SO presented me with a beautiful ring and -

wise

> man - knows me well enough to NOT officially propose this year. I

> told him 12-18 months ... but, as he so elegantly stated, " Honey,

if

> I gave you the ring that I've carried around for a few months, I

know

> you'd run for the hills and I'd never see you again...I can wait

for

> you " Got to love a man that truly gets it.

>

> So... I'm gonna need you guys as the insantity brews...

>

> Lynnette

>

Lynette-

Well, at least you have 5-7 days without Nada since she will be out

of town with her latest victim. All I can say for when she returns

is hang tough with your boundaries. It will be a challenge, but at

least you can lean on your wonderful SO and as I recall, even your

son is good at standing up to Nada.

You can do this! We're here for you!

JJFan