High gear

[Guest guest]

Nada is really kicking up her efforts to force her way into my life. Shesent a

Christmas gift

to my inlaws who she refused to speak to whenever she visits. She can't handle

the "

competition " and hates that we live near them. I'm sure she will use the gift as

an excise

tobcall inlaws home when we are there at chrsitmas.

She also has sent over a dozen holiday cards referencing that she is coming to

visit woo

and bring the kds gifts. she has not been invited.

The weirdest thing of all is that yesterday was my husband and I 7th aniversary

and nada

sent us flowers? It seemed very ibappropriate to me. Not even my aniversary can

be

mine nada has to male her presence known.

I have been sick with a sore throat and no voiceand she keeps sending me emails

demanding pics of the kids and to talk to them. I tell her that I will call when

I feel better.

I'm hoping tobhead off a Christmas call to my inlaws home but I don't have high

hopes.

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

I'm sorry you're not feeling well and are having to deal with crazy

nada behavior at the same time! This sounds very similar to my nada

drama. I am considering NC with my nada due to the latest episode and

debating whether to call her and wish her a Merry Christmas tomorrow.

Last week I told her that she couldn't come for Christmas because my

husband is very sick and I'm overwhelmed with other things going on in

our lives. (She was never invited, either.) I also pointed out that we

didn't have a place for her to sleep and we really just needed to have

a quiet holiday by ourselves. She told me she didn't care if he was

sick, that she would come help take care and do the grocery shopping,

etc. because she just needed a hug -- completely ignoring my needs and

feelings. And she sent a blow up mattress to my address! lol.

My husband emailed her to say we're sticking by the decision to not

have guests and it would be better for her not to come only to

encounter what she would perceive as rejection. I haven't heard from

her since, but my brother said she called him to say she's going to

his house. I'm still half expecting her to show up!

The last time she and my fada came to town, they sent ahead gifts to

my inlaws to announce their imminent arrival -- very regal, right?

*rolling my eyes*

I have flat out refused to give her my inlaws' phone numbers as I know

she will use them inappropriately.

It's not fun to set boundaries with nada, but sometimes necessary.

Good luck with this -- I know you'll do what's best for you and your

kids. And I hope that you have a Merry Christmas regardless of what

nada's actions are.

Hugs.

>

> Nada is really kicking up her efforts to force her way into my life.

Shesent a Christmas gift

> to my inlaws who she refused to speak to whenever she visits. She

can't handle the "

> competition " and hates that we live near them. I'm sure she will use

the gift as an excise

> tobcall inlaws home when we are there at chrsitmas.

>

> She also has sent over a dozen holiday cards referencing that she is

coming to visit woo

> and bring the kds gifts. she has not been invited.

>

> The weirdest thing of all is that yesterday was my husband and I 7th

aniversary and nada

> sent us flowers? It seemed very ibappropriate to me. Not even my

aniversary can be

> mine nada has to male her presence known.

>

> I have been sick with a sore throat and no voiceand she keeps

sending me emails

> demanding pics of the kids and to talk to them. I tell her that I

will call when I feel better.

> I'm hoping tobhead off a Christmas call to my inlaws home but I

don't have high hopes.

>