Seperation from Enmeshment

[Guest guest]

I've been thinking a lot about myself and what I need lately. I have

been arriving at the conclusion that I need some space from my mom. I

want to be able to make my own plans and be my own person. I want to

have my own beliefs and have that be ok. I feel, in my heart, like I

just want a little space. I feel like if I don't keep my boundaries up

securely I will not be able to develop into my own person. I will be

sucked up and turn into whomever my mom wants me to be. I DO NOT want

this to happen to me. I want to set some, or all, of the terms of our

relationship. I want freedom to do what is best for me. I want

freedom to make mistakes. At any rate, I feel like I really just want

some space--emotional and physical space.

Yet, at the same time, I feel guilty for wanting this space to become

my own person. I wonder if I am causing hurt and anguish to my

parents. So my question is this: If my mom were " normal " how would

she react to my need for emotional and physical space? Can anyone else

relate to just needing some distance for a while?

Lucky