NC Mother in Law with BPD

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Hi everyone,

I have a mother in law with BPD. I have been married since October of

this year. Before my husband & I were engaged, she overly loved me.

Was always gushing over me. I knew she had BPD from the begining, & I

heard a lot of stories about her.

Up until we got engaged, I only saw her overly happy, like manic, or

cry & depressed. It was a bit stressful, but totally dealable.

After we got engaged she went into a depression. Happy time for my

husband & I, therefor, she needed to ruin it. she must have cried for

2 weeks with out stopping. Everything was about her. She wanted

to 'help' with the wedding. She wanted to have this elabrate pre-

wedding dinner (that of corse she could not afford). WE told her no

about the dinner. She cried & carried on... so we gave in. I was not

happy about it, but if she wanted to blow $ that she doesn't have.

Her prblem.

She had 3 raging verbal abusive outbursts in the last 4 months.... AT

ME!! I didn't do anything to prompt it. she just went off on me.

Her last one was after she overdosed & was in the ER. With that one

she verbally attacted me & my family (to me). I my defence, I told

her to take responsibility fo her own actions & stop baming others

for her problems. This was a heated conversation, which resulted in

my walking away from her. It also resulted in her in a 'locked

unit'in the hospital.

This brings us to present day. Where I am NC with her. She keeps

telling my husband that she wants me to forgive her. She sent us a

Thanksgiving csrd. She even cslled & invited us to dinner the other

night. I have remained NC.

It's like she thinks she can pull the same routie with me, as she

does with everyone else. She is the cause of so much hurt for my

husband. He is still in contact with her. Which is ok with me, its

his choise.

Any suggestions on how to deal? & what to do next??