She can't keep up the charade for long!

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So, since I went practically NC and have been painted black this

past year, my sister has been painted white, and at times, I think

she enjoys it. Don't take it wrong, my sis and I get along great for

the most part, but now we are both black!

My sister's car is acting up and the mechanic said he couldn't find

the problem, but there are still symptoms (car stalls and is shaking

some). She doesn't feel comfortable driving it the 8 hours it would

take to get to nada for christmas. Plus she is tired and worn out

from school and work. Poor kid has been busy this year!

So last night she tells me that she is going to tell nada that she

can't make it this year, and is worried about how nada will react.

Well, none to our surprise, NADA was pissed. She said to my

sister " well, this WAS going to be a great Christmas this year! " and

then told my sister things like " you should have listened to me a

month ago and did this and your car wouldn't be broken! " and " you

should have listened to me and never bought that car! " She made my

sis feel really bad.

I told Susie (sis) that moms reaction is not normal. That a normal

parent would have been sad, but not mad and angry. A more proper

response would have been sympathetic, like " I'm really going to miss

you this Christmas, but just stay safe and I hope you have a great

holiday, we will keep in touch this week!!! "

before nada's response, I offered my new car to my sister several

times...I would have let her borrow it. But I think a small part of

her was actually relieved that she wouldn't have to go all the way

down there for another nada Christmas.

Last night after nada's scathing response to my sister, I told my

sis that I know how she feels and that it is really hard to feel

that way, and that she isn't at fault for anything and has nothing

to feel guilty about.

She still feels bad though.

This may sound a little devilish of me, but I'm kinda glad that she

isn't going anywhere! She gets to relax, Nada learns that she

doesn't always get what she wants (even from the white child!), and

I get to see my sister at Christmas time!

I hope that didn't sound too selfish of me.

But, the charade I mentioned in the post subject....ever since I was

painted black, nada has been playing a game...acting like a nice

wonderful person ALL the time to EVERYONE but me, so that they think

she is the good suffering parent and I'm the bitch of a daughter. It

was even working on my sister for a while.

I guess this shituation with my sis made it a little hard for her to

be nice and continue the charade, didn't it?

~Sara Jo