I keep getting told to just make up with nada

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I had a fight with my nada in June and haven't spoken to her since

(minus a couple emails back and forth- her accusations and my reply

to them). The argument also involved my father but he and I made up

last month. Since then, he has been encouraging me to call nada and

make-up with her. The last emails her and I exchanged were her

nasty accusations blaming everything on me and saying nasty things

about my husband. I put my foot down on my reply and set forth some

rules on what I would no longer tolerate and have not heard back

from her since (mid-September). I sent her a birthday card and some

pictures of her grandson on her birthday and did not get any reply.

The other day my uncle (her brother) called me about Thanksgiving

and also tried to encourage me to make up with her. Everyone keeps

telling me just to forget the incident and that she's set in her

ways and not going to change. I'm sick of people telling me that I

need to be the mature one and reach out to her and make ammends,

isn't that supposed to be the parent's job? I have so much going on

in my life right now that it's actually a relief not to have to deal

with her on top of it. I know people think families should be

together for the holidays but I'm so sick of being told to be the

mature one in this. No real question here (just venting), I'm just

super stressed this week and my uncle's call was the icing on the

cake.