Guest guest Posted November 20, 2008 Report Share Posted November 20, 2008 Good grief! Nada has two " out patient procedures " over the last 48 hours. She's put them off for 1 1/2 years so, obviously, they're not 'life altering'. She was " supposed " to do them when she was living closer (before she bailed last year and moved 3+ hours away) and thus would have had people here to drive her. But no. She opted to wait, delay, postpone, etc. She has burned bridges where she is now so she's limited on 'assistance' at the moment. But she does have a couple of people who aren't totally burned yet... She wasn't supposed to drive before/after these " procedures " . She has been really MAD that I wouldn't drive 7 hour rt to be her driver. I've remained emotionally disengaged. So, yesterday she calls at noon (I thought she was done at 5pm) and left the following message, " I'm home. All went well - IF YOU CARE AT ALL - I got X to drive me... Y is coming Friday to bring me whatever I may need (insert latest match.com man). " I heard this and bletched. However, a few hours later, when it was convenient for me and I had had some protein, I called her back. Same old thing. All I said in response to THOSE comments was, " Great mom... I'm glad you were able to handle your own needs and found a way to independently harness your available resources. " She was on meds so I'm not sure if that really sunk in... It's easier to stand up for myself and the guilt trips but it sure wears me out. I'm glad she's OK... I'm not glad that somehow I'm in the " you suck " position again because she chose to delay these until she's nearly alone again and somehow that's MY problem... The wheels keep on spinning. Lynnette Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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