Privacy

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Hi all,

I was taking an online course for work, and came across this

definition of privacy:

" privacy can be defined in terms of having control over the extent,

timing, and circumstances of sharing oneself (physically,

behaviorally, or intellectually) with others. "

I had a lightbulb moment when I realized it's not that I don't want

to share myself with others, I just want to have control over how

much, when and the circumstances. Mom didn't respect that right, and

neither have most of my subsequent relationships. Because I didn't

respect that right in myself, most likely. We teach people how to

treat us. Since I didn't realize I had the right to control my

sharing, I often withdrew completely to protect myself - or shared

too much, or let the other person decide how much and when. Now I

know what it is that I want, and why I get so upset when someone

(even someone I love) won't leave me alone.

Anyway since reading this little blurb was so helpful to me, I

thought I'd put it on here in case it helps someone else.