NC Nada is Trying to Break Through - HELP!

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Hi Everyone.  I am hoping for some sage advice.

 

I went NC with my nada last Xmas after she was verbally abusive to my daughters,

at the time 2 & 3 years old.  I have been very happy with my decision as she has

been horribly destructive to my life when given any opportunity, including

trying to get me to divorce my husband, blaming me for every ill in her life,

telling me what a failure and non-parent I am etc.  I have  a rare brain disease

called PTC and she screeched that I was faking it.  Apparently MRI's and

hospitals lie.  Anyways after YEARS of abuse I ended it and told my children she

had passed away.  Now before you think me rash, please realize that my nada had

been making remarks to my caretaker (have one bc of my illness) for a year that

he should come to her with any issue with the children so she could build a case

of neglect and have them removed from me and put in her home.  Now what would

/you/ do?

 

So, my daughter will be 5 this year and in public school.  I don't want Nada

anywhere near her and we live several states away.  But JUST in case, I don't

even want my kids to know she exists.  Period. 

 

Now here's my dillema.  She called my cell phone on Thanksgiving behaving as if

we had never stopped talking.  She acts as if nothing ever happened and says " I

don't know what you're so mad about, we love you, everything is fine.  -Call

me! "   It made me angry, but I did /not/ let it ruin my day.

 

We have our new home phone number unlisted.  Partly bc of her.  She called my

caretaker's cell phone and he didn't recognize her number and actually answered

it.  She told him she's sending packages for the children and myself and she

doesn't understand why I'm so mad and how all is well.  She also demanded to

speak with the children.  Of course he made excuses and politely got her off the

phone as quick as he could.

 

She is not stupid.  She knows better than to call my husband who would REAM

her.  She knows I will not return her calls and I have her email blocked.  My

caretaker is a good man, but this puts him in a sensative position too bc now

she's trying to go through him.  I don't want to break my NC to give her ANY

attention.

 

Thoughts?