co-dependent siblings

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Dear all, Last night I had a dream that my sister was a 'real' person after all.

She was split

white--extremely white, literally crowned with jewels--and, me being necessarily

black,

she was not allowed to have any sort of relationship with me. Forbidden by

nada. I have

assumed for some time that she herself is borderline or histrionic--but in my

gut I don't

get the creepy crawlies from her that I do from both my parents. I am

wondering, could

she be co-dependent instead?

She has NEVER been out of a relationship, ever. I have never known her to be

without the

attentions of a man, in that capacity, for even 24 hours time. And the men are

always

abusive. She has also made it completely clear since childhood that no negative

statements about nada will be tolerated or believed, and that anything I say,

anything, will

be relayed back to nada. She also always plays along with anything nada does as

far as

characterizing me and worship/villifying me... But I am thinking now that she

has been

very sweet about 'rescuing' me several times in the past, and that she's really

quite angelic

when I've been willing to cast myself in sortof a helpless role (needing a ride

somewhere,

etc.) Maybe she is co-dependent. Do any of you have co-dependent split whites

that

have faced it and got treatment? Do these symptoms sound co-dependent to any of

you?

It would be so nice is this is what she is, because I would love to have a

sister who is not

cluster B. If nada EVER dies (which actually suspect *I* will die before nada

does; it seems

like bpds are the energizer bunnies of humanity)....anyway if nada does ever

die, I might

be able to actually have some kind of relationship with my sister, if she is

co-dependent

instead of, say, narcissistic or histrionic. Maybe.

Now this is an example also of how terrible counseling services can be. I know

for a fact

she has been in therapy for many years, but no counselor has recognized her

mother is

bat nuts, her father is npd or that she is co-dependent and needs treatment. I

know this

because my sister is very smart, and if she had figured out bpd/npd she would

have

talked to me about it. My sister is also very saavy about people

psychologically, in a way

many co-dependents are.

Sigh.

Charlie