nada strikes again

[Guest guest]

Thanksgiving is coming so it isn't unusual that the mad tea party

must continue, right?

DH was always the " buffer " for years with nada. Everytime we'd have

a fight, they'd call him, he'd smooth it out. He is an easygoing

person with a normal family. The last few years she's gotten sicker

and he doesn't want her hurting me/the kids/him. So while he was

always kind when we saw them, conversations about me/any fights were

completely off limits, he made it clear.

So I finally went NC in October. I had done LC (1x a month) for a few

months and her and fada exploded. They pushed and they pushed, I

held my ground and said " nope, 1x a month. " That was all I could

stomach seeing them. They pushed and got info out of my 4 year old

(during the 1x a month visit) and showed up at an event. A huge

blowup, I freaked out and told them they lost the 1x a month

priviledge because they couldn't respect those boundaries and showed

up where they weren't wanted/invited. Anyway....so now n/c.

She has been " punishing " DH because he will no longer allow her to

hurt us (for 1-2 years now he has put his foot down) and for instance

on his birthday she gave him a lot less than me (always was the

same) He doesn't care about the gift amount one bit, we've never

been controlled by their $ (as is my brother) but he said she made a

clear statment to him. What's grosser about her behavior is that his

dad died 3 years ago, now his mom in the beginning of the year. He's

an orphan and not even 40 and on his first birthday without a mother

or father she sticks it to him? And he had real parents that loved

us. That is what she has always won her awards for - kicking

people when they are down.

So anyway, today in the mail I get three cards from nada. One for

each kid, and one addressed only to me. Now I am sure they are

Thanksgiving cards but no, I will not open them. I stopped opening

any type of correspondence she has sent us months ago. I just throw

it in the trash.

Is this sick or what? To now try to hurt my DH because he " sides

with me " She has been screaming at him for years now saying " why do

you side with HER " (Um, he is my husband and he sees the truth?!)

So now the punishment sets in. I hope DH doesn't cower to her and

start calling her because she has painted him black. He's not used to

this and may try to look for her love. I sure hope he is smarter than

that and sees this as a disgusting act on her part, as usual.

Thanks for letting me vent here. I appreciate it more than you know.

I vent to a few friends but it is so hard for them to understand

because they actually got real mothers.