Pain changes our appearance game

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Kaylene wrote:

> Lyndi, and someone else mentioned how pain has aged

> their appearance. I hear you, loud and clear.

>

> Sometimes, I look in the mirror, and wonder if that's

> really me.

> Kaylene

Kaylene,

I hear you on this. I just remember when I was in Nursing cancer

patients and the elderly felt the same way. We would make them

necklaces that had pictures of what they looked like before their

chemotherapy and when they had hair. For the elderly, they would post

their pictures of when they were young and when they were doing

something in their professions on the door. This way, you had to see

this picture before communicating with them. It really provided a new insight

to the person and who they saw themselves as.

This way when we spoke to them we were not seeing bald heads, wrinkles, disease,

or pain. The pictures reminded us that the person on the inside was who that

person really is and feels they are. It is a great reminder!

I have a picture of me in a lime green bikini with gold hoops on the side and my

Farrah Facet hair down to my butt that I posted on my refrigerator once.

My 18 year old son said " Who is that hot Mama? " His Dad replied, " How do you

think you got here " .

So group, what picture would you chose to place around your neck, on the door,

or on the refrigerator ?

I challenge you to let us know. Don't be shy, you know your favorite

picture, tell us.

Bennie