Guest guest Posted December 26, 2008 Report Share Posted December 26, 2008 My mother is crazy and extremely mentally ill. I guess I always knew that- but somehow you hope that it isn't as bad it is. My mother lies- yet this is the woman one who verbally and emotionally beats me up with her " TRUTHS " . She manipulates- and controls ever situation- to ensure her truths about her life, my life and now my daughters. It is twisted and sick- and really hurts. This Christmas- just reinforced this all- and getting hit in the face with this reality again- is just overwhelming. I am tired of it all. malinda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 26, 2008 Report Share Posted December 26, 2008 What is it with these women? They really ramp up their game on holidays. I'm sorry this has been such a struggle. I hate the feeling of damned if you do or don't. If you see her for the holiday your are miserable. If you choose not to see her you may be in for more drama, guilt, etc. It is a no win situation. I understand. > My mother is crazy and extremely mentally ill. I guess I always knew > that- but somehow you hope that it isn't as bad it is. > > My mother lies- yet this is the woman one who verbally and > emotionally beats me up with her " TRUTHS " . > > She manipulates- and controls ever situation- to ensure her truths > about her life, my life and now my daughters. It is twisted and sick- > and really hurts. This Christmas- just reinforced this all- and getting > hit in the face with this reality again- is just overwhelming. > > I am tired of it all. > > malinda > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 26, 2008 Report Share Posted December 26, 2008 Well, this is my second xmas season with no nada, total NC..... and it's GREAT. No guilt, no drama, no insanity! I feel free. I feel like the holidays finally belong to ME now, and I can make them be whatever I want every year for the rest of my life! So, I disagree that it's a no-win situation. I feel like I won! Words cannot express how much joy and gratitude I experience not having to cater to that spoiled, stupid, selfish, immature, bullying, evil, manipulative CRAZY B*TCH every Christmas!!!! lol Best, S Re: tired of it all To: WTOAdultChildren1 > What is it with these women? They really ramp up their game on > holidays.I'm sorry this has been such a struggle. I hate the > feeling of damned if > you do or don't. If you see her for the holiday your are > miserable. If you > choose not to see her you may be in for more drama, guilt, etc. > It is a no > win situation. > > I understand. > > On Fri, Dec 26, 2008 at 8:55 AM, maparise17 > wrote: > > > My mother is crazy and extremely mentally ill. I guess I > always knew > > that- but somehow you hope that it isn't as bad it is. > > > > My mother lies- yet this is the woman one who verbally and > > emotionally beats me up with her " TRUTHS " . > > > > She manipulates- and controls ever situation- to ensure her truths > > about her life, my life and now my daughters. It is twisted > and sick- > > and really hurts. This Christmas- just reinforced this all- > and getting > > hit in the face with this reality again- is just overwhelming. > > > > I am tired of it all. > > > > malinda > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 26, 2008 Report Share Posted December 26, 2008 Hi slarsen988, You have given me something to work toward! I am 39 yrs old and this is my first NC Thanksgiving and Christmas. I had a much better time without nada (no migraine, no crying jags, no panic attacks) but haven't conquered the guilt thing....... yet. K > Well, this is my second xmas season with no nada, total NC..... and it's > GREAT. No guilt, no drama, no insanity! > > I feel free. I feel like the holidays finally belong to ME now, and I can > make them be whatever I want every year for the rest of my life! > > So, I disagree that it's a no-win situation. I feel like I won! > > Words cannot express how much joy and gratitude I experience not having to > cater to that spoiled, stupid, selfish, immature, bullying, evil, > manipulative CRAZY B*TCH every Christmas!!!! lol > > Best, > > S > > Re: tired of it all > To: WTOAdultChildren1 <WTOAdultChildren1%40yahoogroups.com> > > > What is it with these women? They really ramp up their game on > > holidays.I'm sorry this has been such a struggle. I hate the > > feeling of damned if > > you do or don't. If you see her for the holiday your are > > miserable. If you > > choose not to see her you may be in for more drama, guilt, etc. > > It is a no > > win situation. > > > > I understand. > > > > On Fri, Dec 26, 2008 at 8:55 AM, maparise17 > > wrote: > > > > > My mother is crazy and extremely mentally ill. I guess I > > always knew > > > that- but somehow you hope that it isn't as bad it is. > > > > > > My mother lies- yet this is the woman one who verbally and > > > emotionally beats me up with her " TRUTHS " . > > > > > > She manipulates- and controls ever situation- to ensure her truths > > > about her life, my life and now my daughters. It is twisted > > and sick- > > > and really hurts. This Christmas- just reinforced this all- > > and getting > > > hit in the face with this reality again- is just overwhelming. > > > > > > I am tired of it all. > > > > > > malinda > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 29, 2008 Report Share Posted December 29, 2008 I couldn't have said it better!!! I'm in the same boat n/c for two years. > > > My mother is crazy and extremely mentally ill. I guess I > always knew > > that- but somehow you hope that it isn't as bad it is. > > > > My mother lies- yet this is the woman one who verbally and > > emotionally beats me up with her " TRUTHS " . > > > > She manipulates- and controls ever situation- to ensure her truths > > about her life, my life and now my daughters. It is twisted > and sick- > > and really hurts. This Christmas- just reinforced this all- > and getting > > hit in the face with this reality again- is just overwhelming. > > > > I am tired of it all. > > > > malinda > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 29, 2008 Report Share Posted December 29, 2008 Thank you to all who responded- and just that feeling of empathy and validation is so wonderful! I am tired of dealing- may I say though- I deal with this- crazy verbally abusive man too- and I think I just can't keep up with them both- a bp mom/ and a np husband. I have been sick for 2 weeks- I did go to the doctors, as soon as I got sick. I had the flu- which lasted a week and turned into this horrible cough. I had another appt.on Christmas Eve morning- we had an ice storm- office was closed. I still called the doctor and he did put me on an antiobiotic and cough medication. The doctor's office was closed till today. My husband kept telling me, how hard my sickness was on him. He couldn't sleep because of my coughing- he hasn't slept with me for days now. How he had extra work do to around the house and I didn't seem to appreciate all his hard work. I am sick- and I do appreciate any help- but he was doing what I always do. I did thank him. I also coughed so hard- I had to wear depends. He also made comments about- my diapers- my daughter told him- he was being disrespectful to me. He finally told me today if I couldn't get into the doctors- which was not my fault- he was taking me to the emergency room- because he couldn't take it anymore. I did get into the doctors today- he sent me for a chest x-ray- and I have pneumonia. I called my husband- told me I have pneumonia- his first response- was, " Is it contagious, and can you give it to me? " omg- I am so tired of it all!! Malinda In WTOAdultChildren1 , Saul Berg wrote: > > I couldn't have said it better!!! > I'm in the same boat n/c for two years. > > > > > > > My mother is crazy and extremely mentally ill. I guess I > > always knew > > > that- but somehow you hope that it isn't as bad it is. > > > > > > My mother lies- yet this is the woman one who verbally and > > > emotionally beats me up with her " TRUTHS " . > > > > > > She manipulates- and controls ever situation- to ensure her truths > > > about her life, my life and now my daughters. It is twisted > > and sick- > > > and really hurts. This Christmas- just reinforced this all- > > and getting > > > hit in the face with this reality again- is just overwhelming. > > > > > > I am tired of it all. > > > > > > malinda > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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