Elder abuse?

[Guest guest]

I am just wondering if I am overreacting to this situation. Nada is

one of 4 siblings and the only one who hasn't moved away from the

parents (my grandparents) who are now quite elderly. They still live

alone, but need rides to doctors appointments, financial advice, etc.

I have to contact with my grandparents because they are opposed to me

being NC with nada, but I have been hearing things through the

grapevine that are making me think there is a big problem. My

grandmother is a silly, extremely mentally ill person herself who

won't stand up for herself. I've watched nada my whole life bring up

stuff from the past and make my grandmother cry. I've never figured

out what that accomplished or why she even bothered to do it. Now as

the grandparents are older, I feel nada is abandoning them yet giving

the appearance of the attentive caregiver. Nada has worked in health

care in the past, yet when my grandpa needed help with a catheter and

called her she brought up something from the bible and said she

couldn't see her parents naked and refused to help at all. Most

recently I have heard that grandpa yelled at her for something

(nothing new about this) so she decided to not give them Christmas

presents and didn't spend Christmas with them. I have been

manipulated into going to my parents' house since the early 1990s for

Christmas with the story of " It will probably be grandpa's last

Christmas so we all have to be together, etc. " Now it does seem

highly likely that one or both of the grandparents won't make it much

longer and this is how she is acting.

Nada's three siblings live many hours away and are trusting that she

is taking care of the elderly parents. I also live about 5 hours from

the whole situation and am pregnant so I'm not going to go check it

out. I just hate to see that this situation is happening.

Am I overreacting?

le