Re: Re: all Rogene -moms...

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hello all

My hubby's mom is bad - but she isn't that old..... she is 69 - looks like 99. she has been like this since probably 50 or so.... horrible mean and nasty.. will see a doctor since they are evil and "out to get her" ... has not had a gyn exam since her hysterectomy in 1989... gross yes....

will not go no matter what you say - in fact this makes it worse... the docs are out to get her - the banks - the govt..... she has gone a little looney. divorced his dad in her early 40's.. say he was cheating even tho she moved directly in w/ another man from their home years b4 the divorce was final... dad had $$$ - hated him for that. Took him to the cleaners but blew it all w/ other guy.... hasn't a penny to her name... didn't marry other guy and lived w/ him for 18 years until his death - collected alimony the whole time -more than I made is disability. When dad retired had to take that away w/ a very generous offer.... she freaked out of course. was the type to bad mouth dad in front of the kids, etc... not a good scene - had 4 boys. Dad has never said 1 negative word about her - re- married 10 years after divorce - is happy now. She had to move in here in Dec 04 as she lost her job and was kicked out of her apt... had no savings after the massive settlement from dad 2 years earlier. made our lives a living hell for over a year until hubby had enough and found her a place and she moved - so now at 69 - is working - no savings - no retirement.... looks like hell. Had it all... smokes 3 packs of non-filtered cigs a day - is always ill and will not go to the doc or take any meds of any kind even tho she has high blood pressure...

what a mess. I tried sooooo hard to help her.. get her counceling, get her to the doc to see what is wrong - she is literally a bag of bones w/ skin.... probably 5'9 at 90 lbs if that and eats non-stop.... was probably 160 when I met her... she has had cancer b4... wouldn't bathe for over a week... did nothing - no laundry - no dishes - got mad when her then 3 year old grandson asked her to read him a book... weird.... she needed help - still does

it is scary but what more can u do??? some people get that way w/ age and not matter what you do - you actually make it worse when you try to help... one of the biggest fights here that resulted in her leaving was my hubby trying to get her to the doc when she was horribly sick w/ some typr of bronchitis or something... did not get outta bed for 5 days - did not eat - coughing up blood... was awful - thought she was going to die here... refused to go so he manually out her in the car and forced her.... after that she freaked and wanted to leave....

blames me for all of it - hates me - told me so even tho I did nothing - her son did, and she has not talked to me since.

mother in laws!!!

shari

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Rogene

I was a lot better than I am now then.... I tell you what - she would have drove me to drive - a lot If I were into that... I used to a little - wine or special occasions... now w/ the epilepsy i can not have any at all....

I sure tried - I really did but there was absolutely NOTHING sweet about this woman....when we moved her here I took my sons play room away from him... we repainted and re-decorated it for her in her tastes.... did everything she wanted and more.... I cooked everynite - while ill I did and she would get up from the table and not even clear her plate and put it on the counter... if she were a guest this was fine but after 6 or seven months of living here for free? a little strange... she would bring me her laundry - complain that "logan was being too loud" - he is her grandchild... he was 3.... thought that was strange as well.... she actually had two other grandchildren older than Logan - he is her youngest - that she had NEVER even seen other than pics.... my mom thought this was crazy.... maybe some people are not into that I guess.... actually had the nerve to go to two of my sisters-in-law and complain about Logan asking her to read him a book at nite.. I would try yet he always wanted her as she was his Mamaw as he called her....they thought it was nutty as well. My son is very well mannered and behaved - even at three... what a werid thing - not like he was in her room going thru her stuff or humping on her bed, etc... asking to read a nighttime story....

the whole family can not stand her - they tolerate her - guess I was the last to catch on.

see you guys later

shari

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Wow . . . she sounds like a nightmare! . . . Thank God you got her out of the house! . . . She would be enough to make you sick, if you weren't already! By comparison, mom is an angel . . . If you scratch the surface, there's a lot of anger there she's held back for years . . . but she's really sweet to deal with most the time. My sis has the primary responsiblity because she lives close by . . . We built a room for Mom when we moved here, but she's not interested in coming here . . . She's been in an nursing home for over two years and satisified there. Oh well, . . . sometimes there are things you can't do anything about! Rogene