responsibility for other's feelings....

[Guest guest]

My cousin's (by marriage) mom died last night. The funeral is Friday

morning (we are Jewish, these things happen fast). The funeral is 1

hour away and then we will be travelling another hour further to go

back to her house. It is going to be a long day with a lot of

driving.

Do I ask my bf to go with me? I'm afraid he will either say no or be

a complete PITA... (not that he's ever been like that before - and HE

will go visit my parents whenever I want...) or I will spend the

entire time worrying that I've made him do something that he won't

want to do and overcompensating and not able to concentrate on the

reason I am there.

Does anyone else spend time overcompensating with a close friend/loved

one that has nothing to do with the BPD home they grew up in? Any

coping advice?

Shari