merging

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Hi List;

I'm new to this and haven't done much research yet, so forgive me if I'm asking

something

that is obvious.

I suspect my mom has BPD for a variety of reasons and I also suspect that may be

part of

why at 45 years old, I've not had long term committed relationships- as much as

I've wanted

them. I just received some valuable feedback from a someone I've been seeing for

a short

while and my inclination is to think it stems from being the child of a BPD

parent. He said

that he feels a temptation to " merge " from me which sounded very much like what

my mom

did with me. It rings true for me- I get so caught up in fear of rejection or

abandonment

when I care for someone that I'm suffocating. I'm wondering if any of you have

experienced

that and if so, how you've dealt with it.

Secondly, I'm thinking a support group would be really useful, but I'm not

finding one in the

SF Bay area on the website. Does anyone know of any other resources to find

that?

Thanks,

Neil