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I was placed into therapy by my mother ever since I was in middle

school because of my " acting out " . After a few years of getting no

where, I stopped therapy, entered high school, fell into a total

active addiction to narcotics, and sky rocketed into that until age

20. I got clean at 20 and have been so for 2 1/2 years. The treatment

facility I entered began me in therapy again and I have been actively

seeing a therapist under my own motivation since. Just last week, my

therapist got a gastly white look on her face while I was describing

a current situation with my mother, and she said, " Oh my God, I cant

believe I didnt put this together before now, but I believe your

mother has BPD. " I have been doing some research and I read a blurb

of Stop Walking on Eggshells off Amazon.com and almost starting

crying right here in the school library. I can't believe it, I

thought I was losing my mind and had almost gone crazy myself. If

anyone has any suggestions to help me, I am totally open to beginning

this process. Its a relief of course to find some reason behind why I

have been feeling this way for 22 years, but also a little bit sad

because maybe I will never be able to have the relationship with my

mother that most of my friends have with theirs. Literally everyday I

don't know what I'm walking into. One minute I am a great mother (I

have an 18 month old) and the next day I am a terrible mother. One

day I am a wonderful daughter, and the next I am selfish, princess

b**ch when I havent done anything except wake up that morning and

walked downstairs. She is constantly fearing I will leave her. She is

jealous that I talked to my boyfriend's mother on the phone once and

is afraid I will leave her and want my boyfriends mom to be

my " mother " . She doesnt realize this behavior is actually pushing me

further away. I will tell her a little issue I am having with my

boyfriend, and by the next morning she will have totally

catastrophized and projected my future misery in my life in the 10

years future if I continue my relationship. If I dont want her to hug

me one day (after 15 years of physical abuse) she breaks down into

hysterical sobbing and self-pity because I have rejected her and she

is worthless in her own eyes. It is maddening! Please help...