Ange --> Re: Letter to Nada - Please advise ... thanks

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I can totally understand how you are feeling.

I am so sorry that this is happening to you, its terrible. A mother

should cherish these things from her childs past and her own and in

turn give them to you as a treasure not as any form of manipulation

tactic.

I wish I could help you in some way to get these photos, I really do.

Do you have siblings or family friends that could help you out that

live near your mother? and they could possibly get them for you on the

basis of " helping HER out, and not you " ? sometimes I found that

regardless of how clever my nada is I could use her manipulation

tactics to get what I wanted.

For example making the situation out to be positive for her, even if

it means going to extremes for yourself such as travelling all that

distance to get the photos, but making her believe its on a pretence

to help HER out? Sounds manipulative and I know thats the last thing

you probably want to do, but these nadas are so narcisistic and dumb

in some ways they won't even realise that they themselves have been

manipulated until its too late.

Sorry I'm not a huge help, I wish I could magically get those pics for

you hun I really do! Harry Potter where are you when we need you?!!

Keep me posted

Ange

xx

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> You mentioned something about getting photos from her? I'm sure you

> know this already that its her powerplay of keeping you in contact

> with her about something or anything so she can manipulate you. Have

> you asked other family or your father about copies of the photos? Do

> you have a spare key or anything to her house that you could use when

> she is not there and sneak in to find them?

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> The photos are of me as a child and my father's family.  There are

no duplicates, they are all I have.  And I don't have them.  I live in

NV and she lives in WI so there's no way to sneak in.  I sure wish

there was.  I wish I could have taken them all with me the last time I

left there a year ago - but we had to buy extra luggage to get home as

it was. 

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> I know it's her last thing to manipulate me.  I'm at such a loss bc

I have NO pictures of me as a child - NONE.  All of those things will

be gone - my children will never see them.

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> This crazy nada gave me her wedding dress to get rid of and my baby

book when I was 19.  She's been slowly giving me weird things like any

childhood momento's I had - things a mother would want to keep.  It's

been one of the ways she cuts me to the bone to ensure I know how

useless I am to her.  But she won't loosen the stranglehold on my

childhood pictures.

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> She's an evil b*tch.

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