Re: Question - how many people here have stood up dir...

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The aging BPD nightmare! I totally sympathize.

My fada used to say, " We'll pee on your carpet when were old. " ,

& he wasn't joking. My nada/fada also made absolutely NO arrangements

for their care. My sister tells me that they're starting to make

arrangements now...but it took me going NC for them to start taking

responsibility for themselves. My nada's old plan was for me to drop

every, quit my job/life, and move in with her. Afterall, that's what

good daughters do for their dear sweet mothers. I will never allow her

that final round of abuse. Once was enough. My nada mellowed in her

50s-60s, but she's on the warpath now in her 70s.

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> Go girl!!! I'm impressed!

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> I too am currently facing the care of nada and or fada. Fada has

not made

> arrangements for the care of nada in case something happens to him.

(he has a

> serious heart condition and he could " go " at any moment). He is

playing the

> martyr role. I have confronted him about having no arrangements

made for

> the future and point blank told him that I will not be able to drop

my life and

> care for her, nor will any other member of the family. I'm presently

> researching " Granny Nannie " type things available.

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> I have not brought this up but once with fada. It's obvious he's

not going

> to do anything about it (nada has beginning stages of

Alzheimers/dimensia) so

> instead of getting upset with his stubborness, I'm protecting myself

for the

> inevitable.

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> You're doing a great job!! Good luck.

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> Laurie

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