Needing Some Advice

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I just got off the phone with one of my sisters. My brother is flying into the

airport near

my house and I am picking him up and driving him to my sister's house about five

hours

away. My parents live an additional two hours from sister. My husband is not

going with

me because he has been hurt by my family (as related in previous posts) and he

doesn't

want to. And I don't blame him.

So, I determined that I really needed and wanted to have time in my home before

Christmas because I am somewhat a home body and I need that time. I have a

stressful

job, I need to unwind. Not to mention that Wednesday (Christmas Eve) my hubby

has

obligations from 3:00-10 at night. On Christmas day we are driving for his

parents. So,

our celebration will be on Tuesday. Based on that information, I determined

that I would

pick my brother up and take him to sisters on Saturday. I am going to stay

Sunday and

drive home Monday. This is pushing the envelope for me.

I, along with sister and brother, decided to stay at sister's house and invite

parents to

come there to visit. Sister can't go to parents; our shot at being together was

to have

parents come to sister's.

When sister told nada this, she flipped out. She threw Christmas gifts under

the tree,

started crying, and said that nobody wanted to see her. She is totally upset

with me and

with my brother.

So, I was going to call her myself tonight to tell her the plan and now I am

freaking out. I

am sure that she is going to freak out on me and say all kinds of nasty. I

don't even want

to call.

Plus, I am suffering a burning pain in my stomach for four days now that I am

sure is

related to all of this. AAARRRGH!!!

The thing is, I know that I am being reasonable and using my time to the best of

my

ability. I know that I haven't done anything *wrong,*

In the past I would have just tried to do what she wanted to avoid all of this.

I don't feel

like I can do that anymore. It's not healthy for me. But, there is still a

part of me that

really wants to please her, still. I really want to avoid all of this drama.

If I would just do

what I have been trained to do, we wouldn't have any of this.

I guess I'm getting hooked by all this.