She couldn't help herself

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So as some of you know, I've been pretty much NC with my NADA for

about a year now. I've tried contacting her a couple times, but get

only nasty responses. The last attempt I made was in October, and she

just sent me an email tellig me to leave her alone unless I wanted to

be " genuine " with her, blah blah blah.

This morning, I recieved a text message on my cell from from her. It

said: Hi Sarrey (this is her nickname for me) its ir mom. Wanted to

wish u a merry christmas. I love u and i miss you very much. I hope u

r always smiling. have a wonderful holiday "

Now, in my previous attempts to communicate with her, those are the

kinds of things I would say to her. Nice things, cordial things. But

they were always thrown back at me. What makes her think that it's

okay for her to try and make nice , but when i attempt it I get a

scathing response? I know it's the BPD and this is typical behavior,

but I still don't get it!

I haven't responded and I don't think I should. I almost thought

about responding my sayign something short and sweet like " thanks,

Merry Christmas to you too. Love, Sara Jo " .

Not sure that will work. I know it must be a trap.

Insight is appreciated.

Thanks,

Sara Jo