Birthday Wishes from Oz

[Guest guest]

Although I have been basically NC with Nada since last Christmas, I

did take her call on my birthday on Saturday...I knew it was her

because of the Cruella D'Evil ring tone. She had already spoken to

my daughter as she had called while I was in the shower and my

daughter answered my cell phone. In addition to wishing me " happy

birthday " they wanted to offer up some of their belongings again (of

course I refused all offers). They are moving in January to another

state having sold their condo here. They are about to descend upon

my brother...who is currently separated from his likely BPD wife.

They want to see " us, " me, my husband, and the kids before the move.

I put off committing to a " date " but said I would get back with

them. My husband would be willing to tolerate a visit (I had

suggested to him maybe a restaurant thing which will naturally keep

the visit short.). I'm not sure I want to do it. The phone

conversation wasn't all that difficult...when you haven't spoken with

someone in months, it's pretty easy to make a superficial

conversation. Plus with all that is going on with my brother, that

is also fodder for conversation because although Nada speaks with

him, she doesn't ask for details...so talking to me gives her more

information than she would otherwise receive.

I can't help but feeling I would be walking into a mine field of

sorts if I did agree to a visit. It would absolutely have to be on

neutral territory. Not sure what I'm going to do.

Any thoughts?

JJFan