Text breaks NC...

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I'll try to be brief here...

First - stepnada walked out of my sister and brother-in-law's house

with my father in tow about two years ago because my sister

said, " please stop arguing with me, " to stepnada (during one of

stepnada's 'I'm always right and you're always wrong' tirades) and

this translated into DISRESPECT. My father (before they stormed out)

told my sister that she " needed to apologize to " stepnada. She

refused and said she had done nothing wrong. My sister, was not

willing to be the one to fix things and go crawling back to her, YET

AGAIN, so she let the lines of communication close. She has since

had another baby and I have no idea if they are aware. Though since

stepnada's nieces are friends of ours on Myspace, I'm sure they have

found out. Stepnada and dad have may no attempts to patch things up

and have always effectively walked out on my 3 y.o. niece. Though

this is probably the best thing that could have happened for that

baby.

As for me - I have not spoken to stepnada in a year. We didn't fight

or anything, I just waited too long to call (it is ALWAYS up to me to

call) and too much time went by - enough to know that when I finally

did call, I would be given a wicked guilt trip. Plus, my sister was

pregnant at the time, and I knew if they found out that I knew the

whole time that she was pregnant and didn't tell them, that I would

be in a WORLD OF S**T!! My stepnada made clear to me the few times I

spoke to her (previous to my going NC) just how much she despises my

sis. Very uncomfortable to not be able to talk about half your life

to your parents. How ridiculous right? Why do I feel like I'm being

the childish one? God, I'm 29 years old and afraid to talk to my

stepmother. How sad.

So anyway, my birthday came and went (April) and I heard NOTHING from

her. So I knew she was pissed. Didn't care, didn't try to call her,

didn't want to fix it, don't miss her. My father wrote me an email a

few days after and I told him how bad I felt that our family had

completely fallen apart and that I was scared to talk to her. He

reiterated that my sister had been completely disrespectful and that

I " know how my sister is. " I wanted to say, " NO! But I do know how

much of a b**ch your wife is! "

Today, I get a long text asking for some books back that stepnada had

loaned me before everything went to hell. She said it would be fine

for me to " just leave them on the doorstep " of their house. She's on

Christmas break (this woman is a HS teacher) - like I would EVER go

over there knowing she is sitting around in her PJ's just waiting to

confront me. I'm sure she has plenty to say about what a sh****y

daughter I am and how hard my dad cries (when I was still talking to

her, she would tell me how he cried b/c of sister.) Really? What

about how he promised to call my sister back to work things out and

never did? Who's fault is that exactly?

Okay, so...Do I respond? I still haven't texted back (it's been

about 2 1/2 hours since I read it - don't know when it was sent.)

Is there some sick message in the fact that she decided to text me

this close to, yet AFTER Christmas?

Is it wrong to not respond at all and just mail those books back to

her? She only lives about 5 miles away. I have a feeling she'll

keep texting until she gets some sort of response. Even if it's just

OK. I'm afraid responding will open the channels of communication

and I have nothing to say to her.

Feeling a little freaked out here.

Thanks for reading, and any suggestions you may have!

allcats