Guest guest Posted December 29, 2008 Report Share Posted December 29, 2008 -Here is a list of the abbreviations: Section 8 of the WTO Guidelines: ABBREVIATIONS Over the years the WTO groups have accumulated a list of abbreviations and their own vernacular. Words commonly used include the following. These are from the Guidelines which are posted to all the WelcomeToOz lists at the beginning of each month. BP: person in your life who has BPD or whom YOU THINK has BPD traits. BPD: Borderline Personality Disorder. BPSO: BP Significant Other. XBPSO=Ex BPSO (this has many variations). DBT: Dialectic Behavioral Therapy, a cognitive-behavioral therapy that has been successful in the treatment of BPD. Also see 'Therapies' at www.BPDCentral.com website. DEAR: Communication technique used to set limits and ask for things. See at www.BPDCentral.com (press 'Library'). Defense Mechanisms: projection, denial, splitting, and rationalization. Distortion campaign: a deliberate attempt by someone to smear your name because they have split you as all bad. They feel justified and may tell lies or truly believe their distortions. May or may not involve the law. DSM-IV: Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, edition 4, published by the American Psychiatric Association. Used for diagnostic and insurance purposes. Fada: Used by some of the NonBP adult children of BPDs on the Oasis lists to refer to their BP father who was not-a-father in the true sense of the word. Fleas: Unhealthy behavioral reactions learned while living with a BP. FOG: Fear, Obligation and Guilt, which make you susceptible to emotional blackmail. FOO: Family Of Origin (includes one's original mother, father, and other children). HF: High functioning. Hoovered: after the vacuum cleaner, to be sucked back into the relationship for another ride on the BPD rollercoaster. Intermittent reinforcement: when good outcomes happen on an unpredictable schedule, thereby reinforcing (ie, rewarding) behavior. Examples: when the BP sometimes acts 'normal', when you sometimes don't observe limits (this is rewarding to the BP). KO: Kid Of [a BP]. L & L: The booklet titled " Love and Loathing " . Lasagna therapy: A type of therapy whereby lasagna is dumped over the head of a BP who constantly criticizes the way one eats--so much so one won't eat with the family anymore. Salad dumping in the lap is an adjunct part of this therapy. Currently under double-blind test trials at several prestigious universities. <wink> LF: Low functioning. Light Bulb Effect: the realization that you're not crazy and BPD may explain the other person's behavior. LOL: Laughing Out Loud. Mirroring: Not absorbing the BP's projections and reflecting them back to the BP. Nada: Used by some of the NonBP adult offspring of BPDs on the 'Oasis' lists to refer to their BP mother who was not-a-mother in the true sense of the word. NPD: Narcissistic Personality Disorder. NonBP: Person who is affected by someone else's BPD -- eg, you and your family. OCD: Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. Oz: the " Twilight Zone " feeling of not knowing what is real because of the BP's distortions. PAS: Parental Alienation Syndrome: When a parent deliberately and repeatedly makes the other parent the " bad guy " and the child believes the accusations (such as " Daddy doesn't love you. " ) A form of child abuse. Projection: When a person denies certain feelings by attributing them to someone else. PUVAS and DEAR: Communication techniques you can download at the www.BPDCentral.com library. DEAR is about setting personal limits and PUVAS is about ONE of the communication techniques you can use to communicate with BPs. Other techniques in SWOE are defusing and walking away. Rationalization: Good-sounding reasons but not necessarily truthful. ROFL: Rolling on the floor laughing. SO: Significant Other. Splitting: Black and white thinking, practiced by both Nons and BPs. Sponging: Absorbing the BP's projections and bad feelings. (See " mirroring " ) STB-ex: Soon-to-be ex [husband, wife, or SO] SWOE: The book " Stop Walking on Eggshells. " SWOEW: The workbook to SWOE. Trigger: not a horse, but something that takes a person back to an earlier trauma. They respond to the current situation and also relive the past one. For example, a BP's criticism about your clothes triggers you because your father did the same thing. UBM: Book titled " Understanding The Borderline Mother " by Ann Lawson. -- In WTOAdultChildren1 , " jillelizabethmoore " wrote: > > This is my first time at this site. I recently determined that my > mother is a narcissistic mother. I'm 54 years old and haven't spoken > to either of my parents in ~4 years. The cruelty and sickness was > beyond my comprehension and I just couldn't take it anymore. I had to > cut off all contact with them for my own sanity. > > Anyways, I'm just loving reading your blogs but I'm confused about > some of your acronyms. Can someone help me decipher these shortcuts? > Thanks! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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